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Thr3e Little Birds 35 kids; Marysville, Washington 2720 posts
May 1st '13
Quoting Kimber-lily:" So what? Some people need help with raising kids, and obviously she didn't have that from her ex husband. Reaching out for help is not wrong. "


There is a difference between reaching out for help and ditching your kids because you don't want to deal with their habbits.

Sofie+#2 2 kids; Sheffield, So, United Kingdom 7799 posts
May 1st '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kimber-lily:</b>" So what? Some people need help with raising kids, and obviously she didn't have that from her ex husband. Reaching out for help is not wrong. "</blockquote>




Idk, if I were finding it that difficult to deal with the child I already have, I would go and have another until I felt far more secure in my relationship with said child.

I Stab People 3 kids; Zambia 6604 posts
May 1st '13
Quoting Supafly★:" I'm not putting down family help. But she doesn't seem grateful at all. Not many parents would take ... [snip!] ... now, she is continuing to have her parents take him because she can't break his habits. She is only looking out for herself. "


yep.

user banned California 36390 posts
May 1st '13
Quoting Supafly★:" I'm not putting down family help. But she doesn't seem grateful at all. Not many parents would take ... [snip!] ... now, she is continuing to have her parents take him because she can't break his habits. She is only looking out for herself. "


I just can't judge her for it. Not when I struggle so much myself.

Thr3e Little Birds 35 kids; Marysville, Washington 2720 posts
May 1st '13
Quoting Supafly★:" Her parents weren't "helping," they were doing all of the work for her. If she can't raise her child, ... [snip!] ... when you're good" shit. f**k that, I have no sympathy for her. And she's about to have another, like someone else pointed out. "

Exactly!!!

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
May 1st '13

You both still need transition time. Your child is probably confused because of the unstable environment. It's natural to pick up some bad habits as coping techniques. I understand being frustrated, especially since you've gotten used to having the option to let your child go to the grandparents house when things get tough. But if you're serious about going back to parenting full time, then not only do you have to work on yourself, you have to look out for the child too. Grandparents tend to spoil kids (I know my inlaws would give DD anything her heart desired) so they probably let them do whatever to keep them happy. Annoying probably, but at least they were kind enough to help. But now your child is confused about the rules and who's the boss. I would try to work out each problem slowly to make the transition as smooth as possible. You've mentioned a lot about how you're struggling, but nothing about how your child must be feeling. It may be easier for you to look past the bad habits if you think about what they are going through. Stability and routine equals safety to them.