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If you weaned at 12 months Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
1st May '13

And co-slept, did you continue to co-sleep without nursing? If no, did you transition them to a crib and wean at the same time?



Right now, DS is 10 months old and we co-sleep because he's up every hour nursing. I want to slowly but surely end both the co-sleeping and the nursing around his first birthday but I'm not sure how. Should I wean first and then try to get him to sleep on his own? Both at the same time? Put him to his bed first?



CIO is an epic fail. I'm worried that if I do both at the same time, he'll hate me forever. Help!




Note: Please do not tell me I should let him self-wean and co-sleep for as long as he wants. If you want to call me a shit mother because I don't love the breastfeeding/co-sleeping arrangement, go ahead. I put up with it for a year already and that was my goal.

Mrs.Mud 6 kids; 2 angel babies; North Dakota 3231 posts
1st May '13

Following cuz I'm in the same boat...
My little man is 10 months and I never intended to co-sleep, but we'd always fall asleep nursing and now he refuses his own bed, even though it's right next to ours. He completely freaks if I try to put him in it. I don't mind the nursing, I planned on letting him go longer if he wants, but I really want him out of our bed! And to add to the fun, I'm expecting... so we've got 7 months to get this straightened out! Now I just really hope I don't dry up before he's a year.

Sofia's Mummy♥ 1 child; United Kingdom 7331 posts
1st May '13

Try the no-cry sleep solution by Elizabeth Pantly. It's a gentle and gradual method, you can tailor it to your needs.
I would stop the co-sleeping and then the nursing, as it will be hard for her to not nurse when you're right there.



It will be a hard transition no matter how you do it, so just be sensitive to her.

Thr3e Little Birds 35 kids; Marysville, Washington 2720 posts
1st May '13

I nurse and co sleep. I am not weaning my son yet and he is 1, but I am trying to get him to sleep in his own bed. It is super difficult!! I have been feeling super overwhelmed but the last few nights I have gotten him to sleep in his bed from 9pm-3am and then he is back in bed with me. The only thing I have found that works is that my DH has to put him to bed. If I am holding him when he is sleepy he just wants the b**b. LOL. GL Momma!

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
1st May '13
Quoting Mrs.Mud:" Following cuz I'm in the same boat... My little man is 10 months and I never intended to co-sleep, but ... [snip!] ... I'm expecting... so we've got 7 months to get this straightened out! Now I just really hope I don't dry up before he's a year."


Oh man, I hope you don't have 2 of them crowding up your bed lol. I don't think you'll dry up. And 7 months is a long time so don't worry.

user banned 1 child; :), :), United States 5380 posts
1st May '13

Watching.



Though we co-sleep and I'm just wanting to cut down night time nursing.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
1st May '13
Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:" Try the no-cry sleep solution by Elizabeth Pantly. It's a gentle and gradual method, you can tailor it ... [snip!] ... her to not nurse when you're right there. It will be a hard transition no matter how you do it, so just be sensitive to her."


I have that book and boy does it seem like a lot of work lol. But if it works, I'll do it. I'd even do CIO but he just screams his head off so that's out.



Sigh. I know it's going to be hard....but it has to be done. :(

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
1st May '13
Quoting Thr3e Little Birds:" I nurse and co sleep. I am not weaning my son yet and he is 1, but I am trying to get him to sleep in ... [snip!] ... that works is that my DH has to put him to bed. If I am holding him when he is sleepy he just wants the b**b. LOL. GL Momma!"


How did you get him to go down in his bed? If I even go near the crib, DS just screams his head off and throws his arms around my neck, because that's where his father puts him when he can't tolerate his crying. So now I think I have to get a different bed lol.

Mrs.Mud 6 kids; 2 angel babies; North Dakota 3231 posts
1st May '13
Quoting Supafly★:" Oh man, I hope you don't have 2 of them crowding up your bed lol. I don't think you'll dry up. And 7 months is a long time so don't worry. "


Right?! Thankfully we just got a king-size bed a couple months ago so there's room, but I really really just miss snuggling up to my hubby at night. This morning I said to him, "In 20 years we'll probably miss having babies in our bed" and he's like, "No I won't, my son stole my woman!". lol
I'm thinking I'm going to have to get one of those co-sleepers that attaches to the side of the bed for new baby. Little man is ridiculously needy/attached to me so it's going to be interesting.

7 blessings so far.... Due February 3; 6 kids; Glen Burnie, Maryland 8799 posts
1st May '13

as a mother who has nursed & coslept my 6 children i am sorry to tell you that you will have to rely on CIO if you arent allowing the child to self wean.....at that age children donot understand why they arent being permitted to nurse & it may take awhile for them to except it..... some kids transition quickly to a cup/bottle but this also means that you will have to get up in the middle of the night to prepare it ,if the child still night feeds.
It can be a grueling experience for mother and child but you both will live through it :)

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
1st May '13
Quoting Mrs.Mud:" Right?! Thankfully we just got a king-size bed a couple months ago so there's room, but I really really ... [snip!] ... attaches to the side of the bed for new baby. Little man is ridiculously needy/attached to me so it's going to be interesting."


We have a full bed and DS sleeps completely sideways so his feet are always in my neck/face lol. Ugh it's terrible. I haven't snuggled with DH in bed in months! And I don't even want to talk about sex, other than we are not having it lol.

Thr3e Little Birds 35 kids; Marysville, Washington 2720 posts
1st May '13
Quoting Mrs.Mud:" Following cuz I'm in the same boat... My little man is 10 months and I never intended to co-sleep, but ... [snip!] ... I'm expecting... so we've got 7 months to get this straightened out! Now I just really hope I don't dry up before he's a year."


Ahhhh same here! I dont think I can handle 2 babies crowding my bubble at night!! My baby is due Nov 16th.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
1st May '13
Quoting 6 blessings so far....:" as a mother who has nursed & coslept my 6 children i am sorry to tell you that you will have to rely ... [snip!] ... it ,if the child still night feeds. It can be a grueling experience for mother and child but you both will live through it :)"


I don't mind if he's upset about not nursing...I think he'll be more okay with that than sleeping away from me. Even if it takes another year, I don't mind the nursing as much as I do the co-sleeping. He needs to be out of my bed soon lol.

Thr3e Little Birds 35 kids; Marysville, Washington 2720 posts
1st May '13
Quoting Supafly★:" How did you get him to go down in his bed? If I even go near the crib, DS just screams his head off ... [snip!] ... because that's where his father puts him when he can't tolerate his crying. So now I think I have to get a different bed lol. "

I change his diaper, then nurse him and sing to him while I nurse him. When he looks super sleepy I say night night and hand him to daddy. He pats his back until he is on the verge of passing out and then lays him down and pats his back until he falls asleep. Hopefully he will eventually go in there without having to have his back patted. I just have the same routine so that he understands it and it is consistent. We never used the bed as a place for tantrums though, we used the playpen for that, so that might be the difference.

7 blessings so far.... Due February 3; 6 kids; Glen Burnie, Maryland 8799 posts
1st May '13
Quoting Supafly★:" I don't mind if he's upset about not nursing...I think he'll be more okay with that than sleeping away ... [snip!] ... if it takes another year, I don't mind the nursing as much as I do the co-sleeping. He needs to be out of my bed soon lol. "


we put a toddler bed next to our bed for a few weeks to break the cosleeping, i would still nurse at night and put her back in the toddler bed. after a few weeks we moved the toddler bed to her sister's room.