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Cast Your Vote:

    • Yes, I plan to pay for her wedding -- Votes: 15
    • I plan to contribute a set amount -- Votes: 41
    • I do not plan to pay for her wedding. -- Votes: 19
Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
1st May '13
Quoting Kimber-lily:" I guess that means lucky for your kids? Lol. My parents don't pay for anything for me. It's because ... [snip!] ... my education after school is one of them. It's rude to expect or ask for money for something that has nothing to do with them. "


I guess this is where we will agree to disagree. I've met so many students in massive (or significant) debt who have parents who could have easily helped them, but decided not to. Why let your kid struggle if you can make life easier for them? Just because your parents decided not to help you, doesn't mean you have to let your kid go through those same struggles, ykwim? (And I'm using you in the general sense, not you as in you, lol).



I guess I feel this way because my mom has helped me with the college, but I also work two jobs to help pay for tuition, and she expects me to help put my brothers through school.

Adriana's Mami♥ +1 Due December 14; 33 kids; Ontario 3858 posts
1st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kimber-lily:</b>" I guess that means lucky for your kids? Lol. My parents don't pay for anything for me. It's because ... [snip!] ... my education after school is one of them. It's rude to expect or ask for money for something that has nothing to do with them. "</blockquote>



Is there not a government RESP you can open for them? Here in Ontario if you open one before they're 1 thy deposit $500 and $100 every year after that. Plus they match 20% of what you put in. I haven't deposited anything yet but DD's is at 700 just from the government. I assumed it was like that all across Canada.

Autumn Whisper 1 child; Utah 9977 posts
1st May '13
Quoting Back to Noob Status:" I feel that parents should help their kids pay for college. The rate of tuition is growing much faster ... [snip!] ... a bachelor's degree, to get anywhere in this world. To me, paying for an education is far different from paying for a wedding."


My parents paid for my initial college semesters. The deal was, if my grades stayed up, they would pay for school and give me a stipend. When I wanted more than that stipend, I got a job and started paying for my own school, too.



But I have no problem helping my son either find financial aid or paying for his schooling, as long as he agrees to stay out of trouble and keep his grades up. It is an investment and a bargain struck at that point, which can be mutually beneficial.

Kimber-lily Due September 27; 4 kids; Nova Scotia 28962 posts
1st May '13
ut Quoting Adriana's Mami♥ +1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kimber-lily:</b>" I guess that means lucky for your kids? ... [snip!] ... in. I haven't deposited anything yet but DD's is at 700 just from the government. I assumed it was like that all across Canada."


I think so? But that involves a bank account. Which we don't use.

Adriana's Mami♥ +1 Due December 14; 33 kids; Ontario 3858 posts
1st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kimber-lily:</b>" I think so? But that involves a bank account. Which we don't use. "</blockquote>




Oh, ok.

Destinite TTC since May 2011; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Florida 30892 posts
1st May '13
Quoting she nan igans:" Simple question. Do you plan on paying for your daughters wedding? First option means you plan to pay ... [snip!] ... parents SHOULD pay? If you have a son, would you expect his parents to pay? Did your parents pay for your wedding? Thanks,."

Absolutely! I d pay for it if my son's fiance 's family were not well off enough to cover a proper wediing.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
1st May '13

I'm paying for their dresses.



The rest is on them.

Emily Thorne 2 kids; Quetzaltenango, Guatemala 26302 posts
1st May '13

I didn't read through, but I'd pay a set amount. My mother has been planning my wedding for years and will pay 100% since I really don't get a say (if I ever get married that is).



I'd let my daughters plan their weddings, I'd pay a set amount and if they go over that amount they'd have to pay the rest.

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11952 posts
1st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kimber-lily:</b>" I guess that means lucky for your kids? Lol. My parents don't pay for anything for me. It's because ... [snip!] ... my education after school is one of them. It's rude to expect or ask for money for something that has nothing to do with them. "</blockquote>




I have to agree with you. If my kids study hard and do well in school they can get grants and scholarships to help with college. Thats what my sister did. She still had to pay 4grand a year but worked to help with the costs. She doesnt have any student loans to pay. Its about finding balance between work and school. Same as if you work and have a family. Its not my job to make my kids lives easy. Its my job to make them prepared to handle adult responsibilities. They can stay with me until they finish school but that is about as my help as im going to give when it comes to college.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
1st May '13
Quoting Kimber-lily:" People can pay for their own wedding. Everyone is so entitled these days, they can earn it themselves. Noone asked them to decide to get married."


Really?



Then why the donation page for other people to fund your wedding?



http://www.gofundme.com/2py2x4 <----This is doing it yourself?

Squid Kid Due July 2; 1 child; 5 angel babies; Tennessee 27657 posts
status 1st May '13

I will pay for her dress, if she's very reasonable, I will help pay for catering. Decor is her problem.

Emily Thorne 2 kids; Quetzaltenango, Guatemala 26302 posts
1st May '13
Quoting Sly Dashie:" Really? Then why the donation page for other people to fund your wedding? http://www.gofundme.com/2py2x4 <----This is doing it yourself?"


...burn...

ღCece[8 more weeks!]ღ Due June 21; 1 child; Lawrenceville, GA, United States 11842 posts
1st May '13

sure I'd help pay but not the whole amount



and for my wedding both sets of parents chipped in

ღCece[8 more weeks!]ღ Due June 21; 1 child; Lawrenceville, GA, United States 11842 posts
1st May '13
Quoting Sly Dashie:" Really? Then why the donation page for other people to fund your wedding? http://www.gofundme.com/2py2x4 <----This is doing it yourself?"


well that's......awkward



:lol:

user banned 1 child; Portland, Maine 20613 posts
1st May '13

I would help if needed. I don't expect my parents to pay for everything. Hell, if SO and I can afford it we'd pay for the entire thing ourselves. I would expect the same of my child(ren).