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    • It might help. -- Votes: 59
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lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44071 posts
1st May '13

I think it's fine to need a break. Idk about a long break. But a weekend or a week even yeah it can definitely help you regroup your thoughts. Absence makes the heart grow fonder :) personally for my relationship we do worse when were apart. We fight something fierce. We aren't good at talking on the phone cause we misinterpret everything cause we can't see body language. It's just not good for us. But I had an ex in boot camp and our time only writing letters was probably the most I to mate and solid our relationship had been.

Robin Lynn +Hannah Vista, California 560 posts
1st May '13

I actually do it every weekend. I spend fri/sat with my parents & sis, away from SO. It's my own mini-vacation. It makes us both realize how much we love spending time together & how much it sucks to be apart. Very healthy to do. He & I don't have kids QUITE yet (4.5 more weeks!) but still. Being apart is nice because we realize what we have & our bond grows stronger.

user banned 3 kids; Portland, Michigan 15675 posts
1st May '13
Quoting KNZ.:" I think it could. like no texting, calling/etc til maybe the last day, or to check in and say goodnight ... [snip!] ... time with him, etc. But now i'm peeved again :D haha but i don't plan on going anywhere and i want that feeling back again. "


My husband and I split for a month and a half. We wouldn't talk to each other the first few weeks that we were split up and it made me miss him. I wanted to come back home so I did after being split up for a month and a half and then a few months later shit hit the fan and it's been like that since. Our marriage is definitely a rollercoaster that's for sure.

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59253 posts
1st May '13
Quoting drunk mayhem.:" I'm kind of on the fence, so I thought I'd answer anyway. Generally, I DON'T want that little break from ... [snip!] ... more on ourselves. We'll have new things to talk about, since we'll have had different experiences in those few days, etc."


now that's EXACTLY what i'm talking about!
that would be perfect.
since getting back together almost a year ago, and even before then when we were separated (our story is odd haha) we've never gone a day with out seeing each other. (with a few exceptions during our separation, but rarely cos of our daughter)



so it's just.. all the time. i look forward to him going to work- or hockey games cos it's an evening away, haha.
i'm the type who could happily be single for life too- which makes it even harder for me to always be with someone.



your set up sounds great!

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
1st May '13
Quoting Naturally Alternative~27w:" I'm going to the beach with his female family (it's a girls only trip lol) for 5 days. I'm excited for ... [snip!] ... a break away from things is always refreshing... especially since I'll be having a newbie soon. Last vacation for awhile haha."


Yeah, it didn't completely apply to me because we don't have problems. But it'll still be nice to have a break! And I'm leaving the kids with him, so :lol:

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
1st May '13
Quoting KNZ.:" now that's EXACTLY what i'm talking about! that would be perfect. since getting back together almost ... [snip!] ... could happily be single for life too- which makes it even harder for me to always be with someone. your set up sounds great!"


I'm totally co-dependent, unfortunately :lol: I would hate to be single. But yeah, I think everyone needs that break! It's just nice to spend time apart, issues or not.
It'll be nice to have things to actually TALK about, aside from kids and money and shit, after a few days!

Vanilla MILFshake. 1 child; Georgia 5471 posts
1st May '13

I actually did that a few months ago and it worked wonders for DH and I. It wasn't even a big, long vacation either. It was just for a weekend and my best friend had just moved back into town and rented a nice room at a place that's not even 30 minutes away from my house. She invited me and DD to come stay the night with her to swim and just catch up and have a girls night. As soon as she asked me I was like, this will be perfect because for one, I wanted to catch up with her and two, I had thought about the whole vacation away from DH because we were in a rough spot and had not had one night apart for at least 4 years, so I figured it would be good for us to 'miss each other' as you said. Well, we both missed each other, that's for sure. You could tell a big difference when we got back home. Not to mention the AMAZING sex we had the night I got back, it was seriously the best we'd ever had. :lol: :P

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59253 posts
1st May '13
Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):" I know you said this doesn't apply to militray couples but I'm going to give you my opinion anyway lol. ... [snip!] ... be without the other. I think it's good to spend some time apart sometimes so you can cherish the time that you are together."


that would be perfect for us, ha.
i feel bad saying it cos i know how hard military wives have it- but i think i'd make a great one. i function & parent better on my own but at the same time, understand the importance of relationships & having their father.

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59253 posts
1st May '13
Quoting Captain Obvious:" I've taken the kids and gone to disney world with my mom for a few days and we leave the men behind. it's refreshing."


i would loooove that.
and refreshing, that sums it up perfectly, ha.

Captain Obvious 2 kids; Havana, Cuba 25634 posts
1st May '13
Quoting KNZ.:" i would loooove that. and refreshing, that sums it up perfectly, ha."


we do it every few months. our men are tired of disney world :lol:

Hy'ska 2 kids; Washington 50791 posts
1st May '13

This why I love my work schedule vs his. We work overlapping shifts and only see each other more then a few sporadic hours every few weeks. It gives me a chance to miss him. He got all his vaca/sick time for the year a few weeks ago and has been using it and he's driving me crazy lol it's too much time. I like how it normally is.

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59253 posts
1st May '13
Quoting ILOVEWINE:" A few years ago I thought about it. But I think for us it would have made things worse. I know you can't, ... [snip!] ... take a weekend from each other and regain your sanity, but I don't think making each other "miss" each other will really work"


we've had like two nights total in our 4 years (4? maybe?) of being together (with a long separation in there). i don't even know what we'd do! besides sex.



that's what sucks. he's not a partner like ones in my past where we coexist well together, enjoy each other, etc.



HA. so maybe THAT'S the real problem :P

Vanilla MILFshake. 1 child; Georgia 5471 posts
1st May '13

We're actually gonna be apart this weekend. DH is going out of town and we're not in a rough patch at all anymore, so I'm like heartbroken that he's leaving. :(

user banned 3 kids; Portland, Michigan 15675 posts
1st May '13
Quoting KNZ.:" that would be perfect for us, ha. i feel bad saying it cos i know how hard military wives have it- ... [snip!] ... & parent better on my own but at the same time, understand the importance of relationships & having their father. "


You sound like me, 100%.

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
1st May '13
Quoting KNZ.:" we've had like two nights total in our 4 years (4? maybe?) of being together (with a long separation ... [snip!] ... partner like ones in my past where we coexist well together, enjoy each other, etc. HA. so maybe THAT'S the real problem :P "


This may sound weird, but I read a whole article a few years back about couples, who co-parented and everything, and had very healthy relationships, but lived separate from each other. It seemed super odd to me now, but it seems like that type of thing could work for you, lol.
They were also married, though, if I remember correctly, which is part of why it seemed so odd.