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what do you do... ❥New Beginnings Due September 2; TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; California 16189 posts
2nd May '13

I'll try to make this short and if you're going to be an a*****e please just keep it to yourself.

Last night DD (2yr) would not go to sleep we tried laying down and watching a movie, warm bath, storybooks. well finally we decided it was late and enough is enough and just put her in the room with lights out. we currently sleep in the same room different beds so we just turned out the lights and laid down. DD was crying cause she wanted to watch another movie and we told her no and figured if we let her CIO a little she'd sleep within a few minutes like she usually does. Last night however, she went on a full blown tantrum mode. She's NEVER thrown a tantrum like that before. usually she just whines but last night she was screaming bloody murder, and we live in apts where I KNOW our neighbors could hear her. It was getting into 10 mins of her tantrum and I heard our neighbor close his window. I'm sure he was pissed and then I started worrying about disturbing more neighbors and them calling the cops. I didn't know what to do I kept fighting with myself wondering if it was best to continue to let her cry it out and let her realize she can't just cry to get her way or was it best to give her what she wanted to keep her from disturbing people any more. I fought hard with myself and almost caved but didn't. she ended up falling asleep eventually but i'm not sure if what I did was right? what would you have done?

Severus Snape Due March 15; 1 child; Tennessee 3511 posts
2nd May '13

I would have done exactly what you did. A 2 year old is not an infant so I don't think the CIO rules apply here. DD is just now starting to throw tantrums and I know it's nothing to what I will soon be.

❥New Beginnings Due September 2; TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; California 16189 posts
2nd May '13
Quoting Severus Snape:" I would have done exactly what you did. A 2 year old is not an infant so I don't think the CIO rules ... [snip!] ... think the CIO rules apply here. DD is just now starting to throw tantrums and I know it's nothing to what I will soon be. "


She'll be 3 in sept I thought I may have gotten lucky and maybe she wasn't going to do any epic tantrums but oh baby jesus was last nights bad! I felt like if I had given in she would think all she has to do is cry harder and longer to get her way but if I don't I'm being an ass to my neighbors and they might call the cops. Idk why that thought scares me I just have an irrational fear that they would think I was hurting her cause her cry made it seem that way I'm sure. but I just let it run it's course and luckily it seemed my neighbors understood

Mrs.Mud 6 kids; 2 angel babies; North Dakota 3231 posts
2nd May '13

CIO does not apply to a 2-year-old. You did the right thing. Caving to tantrums because of what the neighbors may think or do is going to set you up for a lifetime of difficulties with your child. You're not going to get in trouble for a your child throwing a fit, unless it's multiple times every single day.
I do suggest getting into a consistent bedtime routine and not have it include tv/movies. Bath, books, snuggles (maybe set a timer), and then bed. TV actually stimulates the brain, postponing sleep. And people who sleep with a tv on don't fully get into REM sleep... wish my husband would listen to me on that one!

~The Lunar Flower~ Due January 13; 1 child; Alabama 6738 posts
2nd May '13

You do just what you did. That was just her throwing a tantrum over not getting her way, she was not in need of anything(food or anything)& it was already late. I don't consider that really CIO but if you had caved she would have seen it as a sign that you cave to her being loud which is a huge tool for a child to have.

Severus Snape Due March 15; 1 child; Tennessee 3511 posts
2nd May '13
Quoting ❥New Beginnings:" She'll be 3 in sept I thought I may have gotten lucky and maybe she wasn't going to do any epic tantrums ... [snip!] ... cause her cry made it seem that way I'm sure. but I just let it run it's course and luckily it seemed my neighbors understood"


I completely understand and would worry about the same stuff. It's a fine line to walk between keeping peace with the neighbors and sticking to your parenting guns lol. I'm sure I'd be facing the same dilemmas if I was in your place. Just do what feels right no matter which way you go and don't beat yourself up over it.

❥New Beginnings Due September 2; TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; California 16189 posts
2nd May '13
Quoting Mrs.Mud:" CIO does not apply to a 2-year-old. You did the right thing. Caving to tantrums because of what the neighbors ... [snip!] ... sleep. And people who sleep with a tv on don't fully get into REM sleep... wish my husband would listen to me on that one!"


It's the first time we've ever been that loud in the almost 3 years we've been there so I think we're okay with the neighbors

❥New Beginnings Due September 2; TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; California 16189 posts
2nd May '13
Quoting Severus Snape:" I completely understand and would worry about the same stuff. It's a fine line to walk between keeping ... [snip!] ... same dilemmas if I was in your place. Just do what feels right no matter which way you go and don't beat yourself up over it. "


I knew not caving was right but I can't help but feel bad for my neighbors. guess I just needed a little reassurance that I did the right thing thanks everyone =)

Mrs.Mud 6 kids; 2 angel babies; North Dakota 3231 posts
2nd May '13
Quoting ❥New Beginnings:" It's the first time we've ever been that loud in the almost 3 years we've been there so I think we're okay with the neighbors"


Yah I know it's frustrating... my 10 month old is extremely needy and attached to me and he screams... a lot. I've had neighbors complain to the office, but wtf can I do about it? I can't hold him 24/7, I just can't. So they'll have to deal. I even had an older neighbor lady tell me she's stood outside my door before (creepy) and contemplated knocking and offering to take the baby for a bit. Too bad her apt reeks like a brothel due to the smoke and granny perfume. If the cops ever showed up, they're more than welcome to come on in and help me out, lol.

Severus Snape Due March 15; 1 child; Tennessee 3511 posts
2nd May '13
Quoting ❥New Beginnings:" I knew not caving was right but I can't help but feel bad for my neighbors. guess I just needed a little reassurance that I did the right thing thanks everyone =)"


I've seen people online put notes on the neighbors door explaining that you're working out a new bedtime routine so if they hear a lot of crying they know what's going on lol. Not sure if that's advisable, I just thought it was interesting.

❥New Beginnings Due September 2; TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; California 16189 posts
2nd May '13
beQuoting Severus Snape:" I've seen people online put notes on the neighbors door explaining that you're working out a new bedtime ... [snip!] ... so if they hear a lot of crying they know what's going on lol. Not sure if that's advisable, I just thought it was interesting."


maybe if it continues to happen I can slide a note to the immediate surrounding neighbors but so far it was only last night. bed time went well tonight