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Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, New York 55141 posts
2nd May '13
Quoting Teenage Girl:" How do I get him to fall asleep when he doesn't want to? Because before this routine, I tried having him be done with his shows by 8 and he would fight and get up and run around for an hour. "


That is just something you will have to be consistent about



Cut out the TV, cause that can rev kids up more. No TV 1-2 hours before bed



Read in his room, rub his back, but make it clear that it is time to sleep. Tell him that he can stay awake if he wants. Put a few books by his bed. But he has to stay in bed. If he gets up, put him right back. A few words, a back rub, and do it over




It might take a few weeks to get him into a new routine, but I think it will be best



Just a bit of background of me. My daughter has a sleep disorder. Everything I am telling you is exactly what the sleep therapists and doctors have told me

user banned California 36390 posts
2nd May '13
Quoting Colt's mommy:" I just tell LO stay in his room. I keep a little dixie cup of water in there for him and he only comes ... [snip!] ... is better. We always read a book or too before bed and I only let him watch tv before bed on the weekends when daddy's at work."


We co-sleep.

Colt's mommy 1 child; Moore, Oklahoma 20545 posts
2nd May '13
Quoting Teenage Girl:" We co-sleep. "


I guess then, just tell him he needs to stay in bed? Do you go to sleep at the same time as him? I always want to go to sleep earlier than my LO on the weekends, lol. It's a pain when I'm ready to go to sleep at 8 but LO is wide awake.

user banned California 36390 posts
2nd May '13
Quoting Colt's mommy:" I guess then, just tell him he needs to stay in bed? Do you go to sleep at the same time as him? I ... [snip!] ... to go to sleep earlier than my LO on the weekends, lol. It's a pain when I'm ready to go to sleep at 8 but LO is wide awake."


No. :( My DH works late so after LO goes to bed, I try to do the dishes and laundry and cleaning plus making DH's dinner.

Drunk Blair Waldorf 2 kids; Alpharetta, Georgia 19208 posts
2nd May '13
Quoting Teenage Girl:" Dinner is usually around 6:30. That's another problem. He keeps waking up telling me he's hungry and ... [snip!] ... I seriously feel like a failure as a mother. DH never, ever, ever helps because he won't get up with him. I feel defeated. "


Have you asked your in-laws what their bedtime routine is for him? That might help if you show consistency with his routine the way they do it. What kind of meals do they feed him? Could that also contribute to it? Maybe he's not eating enough at your house because it's different food than grandma's food and he likes those meals better?



And you're not a failure as a mother. Your DH is a failure as a father in the sense that he refuses to help with his own son, and I'm sorry you don't have a partner to raise your child with.

user banned California 36390 posts
2nd May '13
Quoting Drunk Blair Waldorf:" Have you asked your in-laws what their bedtime routine is for him? That might help if you show consistency ... [snip!] ... father in the sense that he refuses to help with his own son, and I'm sorry you don't have a partner to raise your child with."


Yeah and it's the same as mine except they read instead of tv so I guess I'll switch that over. And he works a lot and I'm a SAHM so he doesn't understand why I need help. On top of that, if he doesn't get at least 7-8 hours of sleep, he just WON'T get up, at all. Like, he'll go back to sleep on the couch without giving LO breakfast or a drink or watching him which scares the shit out of me.

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2nd May '13

I just realized that they also take LO outside to play which I don't do here because of my neighbors.

Drunk Blair Waldorf 2 kids; Alpharetta, Georgia 19208 posts
2nd May '13
Quoting Teenage Girl:" Yeah and it's the same as mine except they read instead of tv so I guess I'll switch that over. And ... [snip!] ... he'll go back to sleep on the couch without giving LO breakfast or a drink or watching him which scares the shit out of me."


Um, because he's M's parent too? You didn't sign on for being on call 24/7 and allowing C to sleep 7-8 hours straight and not help you with the kid. Like why even bother having a kid if you're not going to physically help take care of it? Working is not an excuse to get out of parenting your child when you are home. You provide childcare and housekeeping services all day. When he's home, you should have that break.



And yeah, try reading a book to him and like I said, maybe it's something to do with his meals, too. I'm not sure what they feed him versus what you feed him. But consistency always helps with the youngins. They love routine.

Drunk Blair Waldorf 2 kids; Alpharetta, Georgia 19208 posts
2nd May '13
Quoting Teenage Girl:" I just realized that they also take LO outside to play which I don't do here because of my neighbors."


Why because of your neighbors?

user banned California 36390 posts
2nd May '13
Quoting Drunk Blair Waldorf:" Why because of your neighbors?"


Well, some of them are just really bad influences and the ones I did like won't let M play with their kids because he's not vaxed. :roll: But we're moving this weekend and getting a small pool this summer and my in-laws have a lot of yard and a safe neighborhood to walk in so we'll be able to do more.

user banned California 36390 posts
2nd May '13
Quoting Drunk Blair Waldorf:" Um, because he's M's parent too? You didn't sign on for being on call 24/7 and allowing C to sleep 7-8 ... [snip!] ... I'm not sure what they feed him versus what you feed him. But consistency always helps with the youngins. They love routine."


I mean, he helps with him when he's home and AWAKE he just won't get up early to help with him. If he hasn't had at least 7 hours, he will NOT get out of bed for ANYTHING. Like, the entire Chicago Bears football team could walk in and he'd be like "Tell them to come back in two hours." :roll: I have no idea either except that they give him more snacks (like teddy grahams and fruit snacks.)

Drunk Blair Waldorf 2 kids; Alpharetta, Georgia 19208 posts
2nd May '13
Quoting Teenage Girl:" Well, some of them are just really bad influences and the ones I did like won't let M play with their ... [snip!] ... a small pool this summer and my in-laws have a lot of yard and a safe neighborhood to walk in so we'll be able to do more."


Well it sounds like you'll have a great summer outdoors then. And maybe being in grandma's house will help the sleeping thing also. But I so feel you on the 3-4 hours of sleep thing. I've had my share of sleepless nights with both kids. It does get better.

Drunk Blair Waldorf 2 kids; Alpharetta, Georgia 19208 posts
2nd May '13
Quoting Teenage Girl:" I mean, he helps with him when he's home and AWAKE he just won't get up early to help with him. If he ... [snip!] ... back in two hours." :roll: I have no idea either except that they give him more snacks (like teddy grahams and fruit snacks.)"


Well, having more food probably would keep him full longer. I don't know necessarily if he needs teddy grahams and fruit snacks if you're not comfortable with those as snacks, but some kids need 3 meals a day and then 2-3 snacks a day too.

Colt's mommy 1 child; Moore, Oklahoma 20545 posts
2nd May '13
Quoting Drunk Blair Waldorf:" Well, having more food probably would keep him full longer. I don't know necessarily if he needs teddy ... [snip!] ... fruit snacks if you're not comfortable with those as snacks, but some kids need 3 meals a day and then 2-3 snacks a day too."


Our LO eats 3 meals a day with at least one snack, sometimes two. Snacks are usually fresh fruit or cheerio's. He LOVES pears

user banned California 36390 posts
2nd May '13
Quoting Drunk Blair Waldorf:" Well, having more food probably would keep him full longer. I don't know necessarily if he needs teddy ... [snip!] ... fruit snacks if you're not comfortable with those as snacks, but some kids need 3 meals a day and then 2-3 snacks a day too."


Well another problem we're having is the whole, I only want to eat a few things issue so I've been trying to not give in but it's apparently biting me in he ass. :x I feel like I can't win! But last night he DID eat some pasta which was a huge victory since I didn't even think he liked it.