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Is this..normal? or should I do something? InkDMomma 35 kids; Clinton Township, Michigan 27418 posts
May 2nd '13

MY 4.5 year old's pre-k teacher just called me about concerns she had
We JUST had a conference over a month ago and she said he was doing amazing. Now she calls me today to tell me she doesn't think he is mature enough for kindergarten.
He cries a lot through out the day at school, gets upset when he has to do things or when he is asked to do something, and he like NON STOP picks his nose and eats it.



I'm not sure what to do, I asked if she had any suggestions and she didn't have any, she just said sometimes kids aren't mature enough for kindergarten :?

Ivana, VBA2C success! 3 kids; Aurora, Colorado 6834 posts
May 2nd '13

they start kindergarten before 5 where you live?? My daughter won't start until this fall AFTER her 5th bday. Maybe he is still a bit too young??? idk.

InkDMomma 35 kids; Clinton Township, Michigan 27418 posts
May 2nd '13
Quoting .Colleen.:" would a summer program help him be ready for Kinder?"


really the only thing they are offering is like a week in August. He is already signed up for that too. I didn't know whether it's him being hard headed, actually not being mature enough, or him losing interest in pre-k, he is not really into music and art and they do a lot of that there.

InkDMomma 35 kids; Clinton Township, Michigan 27418 posts
May 2nd '13
Quoting Ivana, expecting #3!:" they start kindergarten before 5 where you live?? My daughter won't start until this fall AFTER her 5th bday. Maybe he is still a bit too young??? idk. "


He starts kindergarten when is he 5...
he turns 5 in July and starts kindergarten in September

Ivana, VBA2C success! 3 kids; Aurora, Colorado 6834 posts
May 2nd '13
Quoting Ivana, expecting #3!:" they start kindergarten before 5 where you live?? My daughter won't start until this fall AFTER her 5th bday. Maybe he is still a bit too young??? idk. "

ohh pre-k! haha i misread that. i know it as preschool.

InkDMomma 35 kids; Clinton Township, Michigan 27418 posts
May 2nd '13
Quoting .Colleen.:" is it full day or half day kinder?"


He will be going full day in the fall.
pre-k right now he only goes M-Thurs 1230 to 330

MomNextDoor 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8351 posts
May 2nd '13

I'm pretty sure my son IS mature enough to start kindergarden in the fall, but we're going to wait anyway. His birthday is in August. I've talked to sooo many people and they say that a lot of the times, it's not noticeable until they hit middle school and they aren't nearly as mature as the rest of the kids. I figure, if I can give him a leg up, then why not?

Angel [Mariah's Mommy] 1 child; Indianapolis, Indiana 18065 posts
May 2nd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting InkDMomma:</b>" He starts kindergarten when is he 5... he turns 5 in July and starts kindergarten in September"</blockquote>




A lot can change in the 3 months before he starts kindergarten though. So by the time Sept hits he might be perfectly ready

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
May 2nd '13

Meh he sounds normal to me. What else does she suggest you do? Developmental kindergarten (or young 5s) is a waste. And he can't go to prek again. Id rather my kid do 2 yrs of K than DK. But being a Whiney 4 yo and picking his nose doesn't mean he isn't ready for K :roll:

MomNextDoor 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8351 posts
May 2nd '13
Quoting Ladee+Grant+Lilly:" He can always repeat Kinder if he isn't ready to go to first grade. I wouldn't start him late, I'd rather him have two full years (if he has to repeat) of actual school"


That depends. I've talked to a lot of teachers who say, even if they don't feel like the child is mature enough to start first grade, they can't hold them back if they are doing the work. So if it's just a behavior thing, they won't hold them back. It messes with their numbers. But that probably depends on where you live.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
May 2nd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" is it full day or half day kinder?"</blockquote>



MI only offers FD.

InkDMomma 35 kids; Clinton Township, Michigan 27418 posts
May 2nd '13
Quoting Ladee+Grant+Lilly:" He can always repeat Kinder if he isn't ready to go to first grade. I wouldn't start him late, I'd rather him have two full years (if he has to repeat) of actual school"


That's what I'm thinking, everything in preschool he KNOWS and that's why that crossed my mind. He tells me some days how he didn't like going because all they did was story time or music time. I thought it might just be a him needing more challenges?

Rebekah Garden x3 Due October 5 (boy); 33 kids; Fall River, Massachusetts 5223 posts
May 2nd '13

Just to make you feel better if you do decide to follow her recommendation, boys mature faster and they do best being the oldest in the grade! So if he repeated pre k he would be the oldest next year and it may give him an advantage!

InkDMomma 35 kids; Clinton Township, Michigan 27418 posts
May 2nd '13
Quoting lolajessup:" Meh he sounds normal to me. What else does she suggest you do? Developmental kindergarten (or young 5s) ... [snip!] ... Id rather my kid do 2 yrs of K than DK. But being a Whiney 4 yo and picking his nose doesn't mean he isn't ready for K :roll:"


thats his "thing" whenever he gets upset he like goes knuckle deep in his nose and then eats it.
I constantly am on him about it and I just don't even know how to stop him from doing it.
I just figured he was a sensitive kid, but how she said everything made me think he had something "wrong" with him

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
May 2nd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Asher and Haddie's Mommy:</b>" I'm pretty sure my son IS mature enough to start kindergarden in the fall, but we're going to wait anyway. ... [snip!] ... middle school and they aren't nearly as mature as the rest of the kids. I figure, if I can give him a leg up, then why not? "</blockquote>



I've done lots of training on this and typically by 3rd grade the Playing field levels. Lots of kids are held back in 3rd grade cause that's when it becomes more apparent who's behind. I personally wouldn't hold him back but that's completely your decision. Lots of parents do it anyway even against my advice.