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MomNextDoor 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8351 posts
May 2nd '13
Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Asher and Haddie's Mommy:</b>" I'm pretty sure my son IS mature ... [snip!] ... I personally wouldn't hold him back but that's completely your decision. Lots of parents do it anyway even against my advice."


Well, it's more than just that, actually. He was an IUGR baby and so he's SUPER tiny. I know that may sound like a dumb reason, but he's already going to be the smallest kid in the class... I feel like if I start him too soon, not only will he be less mature than the other kids, but he will be WAYYY smaller. Like, not just a little smaller. Which is something I know won't matter until much later, but kids can be so cruel.... I worry he will get picked on all the time.

InkDMomma 35 kids; Clinton Township, Michigan 27418 posts
May 2nd '13
Quoting .Colleen.:" I think he is getting bored. I mean, just a month ago he was doing fine. It sounds like he has a hard time staying engaged"


AND his "main" teacher left, so he has a completely new lady in there and he didn't really like the other teacher to begin with, he said she isn't as nice as the teacher that left ( they had 2 teachers for the class)
So in the passed month he dealt with that too
He is SO smart, not even just saying because he is my kid. He knows crazy shapes other kids do not, he knows how to mix colors to get what color he wants, he can count to almost 70 by himself, he knows his alphabet and can write words, he is really into learning spelling of things.
I just feel like "that parent" saying he isn't getting challenged enough but I really think that, that is it.



I just keep thinking maybe it's a sensory thing? or IDK... I just wish I knew.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
May 2nd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting InkDMomma:</b>" thats his "thing" whenever he gets upset he like goes knuckle deep in his nose and then eats it. I constantly ... [snip!] ... doing it. I just figured he was a sensitive kid, but how she said everything made me think he had something "wrong" with him"</blockquote>




That doesn't sound any diff than my dd s*****g er thumb and she's done fine in K. She gets in trouble for it but were working on it. Shoot if that's the only bad thing her teacher has to say about her then who cares haha!!!



And yeah he probably is bored like you said if he doesn't like the activities they're doing.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
May 2nd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Asher and Haddie's Mommy:</b>" Well, it's more than just that, actually. He was an IUGR baby and so he's SUPER tiny. I know that may ... [snip!] ... is something I know won't matter until much later, but kids can be so cruel.... I worry he will get picked on all the time. "</blockquote>




Hey do whatever feels right! Us when is your state cut off? He may technically have missed the cut off had he not been early. So I guess it's diff. I've seen parents send their biggest kid in the class who are reading to DK. Why would you do that to your kid? Oh cause dad wanted him to be bigger for sports :roll: he already was bigger and then you're gonna put him in a class with kids who are not ready for K whatsoever. I just don't get people. We tried for months to talk them out of it. Welp they did it anyway. Nothing I can do.

MomNextDoor 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8351 posts
May 2nd '13
Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Asher and Haddie's Mommy:</b>" Well, it's more than just that, ... [snip!] ... K whatsoever. I just don't get people. We tried for months to talk them out of it. Welp they did it anyway. Nothing I can do."


Hahaha that's ridiculous! But yeah, that's a good way of looking at it. His due date was September 22 and had he been born on his due date, he would have missed the cut off which is August 22ish, I believe.

InkDMomma 35 kids; Clinton Township, Michigan 27418 posts
May 2nd '13
Quoting .Colleen.:" So alot has changed there recently From what you described, he sounds ready intellectually. I ... [snip!] ... workout within a month you'll know it and you can make a decision as to what preschool would be right for him at that time. "


I mean my MIL is a principal at another school in our district ( she is retiring this year though) and she said she doesn't see ANYTHING different with him than every other kid she encounters.
Yeah he is a butt head at home with listening sometimes and I have to repeat myself for him to do things but he gets it usually. He does "big boy" things at home so I don't see WHY he acts like that at school KWIM? I ask him to clean up and he does it, I ask him to get dressed and he does it but sometimes he needs help with buttons and such.



I mean I was a really sensitive kid, I cried A LOT but I grew out of it.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
May 2nd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting InkDMomma:</b>" AND his "main" teacher left, so he has a completely new lady in there and he didn't really like the ... [snip!] ... enough but I really think that, that is it. I just keep thinking maybe it's a sensory thing? or IDK... I just wish I knew."</blockquote>



He sounds fine mama. Don't stress. That can happen with new teachers too. I've had new teachers come part way through the yr and they freak out over some of the issues some kids have. It takes experience to see what is normal haha.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
May 2nd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Asher and Haddie's Mommy:</b>" That depends. I've talked to a lot of teachers who say, even if they don't feel like the child is mature ... [snip!] ... just a behavior thing, they won't hold them back. It messes with their numbers. But that probably depends on where you live. "</blockquote>




Yeah it probably does depend. In MI they can't repeat Prek unless they have a special need or if they go private. And DK is technically kindergarten retention. They won't tell you that but it is.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
May 2nd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Asher and Haddie's Mommy:</b>" Hahaha that's ridiculous! But yeah, that's a good way of looking at it. His due date was September 22 ... [snip!] ... date was September 22 and had he been born on his due date, he would have missed the cut off which is August 22ish, I believe. "</blockquote>



So honestly If I were your sons teacher I'd tell you to do what felt right. And if holding him back feels right then do it. But if you wanted to send him I'd tell you to do that too. I would be indifferent, Kwim? But most parents we try to talk out of DK unless they reaaaaly need it then we try to talk them into it. Most parents get overly concerned about their child being ready. It's very normal so we don't like them to over think it haha

InkDMomma 35 kids; Clinton Township, Michigan 27418 posts
May 2nd '13
Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting InkDMomma:</b>" AND his "main" teacher left, so he has a completely ... [snip!] ... way through the yr and they freak out over some of the issues some kids have. It takes experience to see what is normal haha."


I just don't want to be a shitty mom :(
That's why I figured I would ask on here since so many ladies deal with similar stuff. I wasn't sure if it was just another 4 year old thing or if he needed to be evaluated or something.
Skye is puking today with a fever and now this, I'm just having a really stressful, upsetting day. :cry:

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
May 2nd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting InkDMomma:</b>" I just don't want to be a shitty mom :( That's why I figured I would ask on here since so many ladies ... [snip!] ... or something. Skye is puking today with a fever and now this, I'm just having a really stressful, upsetting day. :cry:"</blockquote>




Don't let it get to you. *hugs* luckily no matter what she says or recommends you are his mom and can trump her :)

InkDMomma 35 kids; Clinton Township, Michigan 27418 posts
May 2nd '13
Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting InkDMomma:</b>" I just don't want to be a shitty mom :( That's ... [snip!] ... Don't let it get to you. *hugs* luckily no matter what she says or recommends you are his mom and can trump her :)"


thank you.
Even my husband was like... "soooo they were saying how great he was doing at conferences and NOW all of a sudden he is like this? it doesn't make any sense"
I guess we're going to just try extra hard at home AND invest in some "bitter nailpolish" to see if we can kick this booger eating crap in the ass.

TheyCallMeMOMMY♥ 3 kids; Albuquerque, New Mexico 6825 posts
May 2nd '13

My son does this, he is 3 almost 4. He is in a special ed program thats helped ALOT. I can see the changes in him.
Does your state offer summer programs?