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How to discourage frustration in 3 yo? Colt's mommy 1 child; Moore, Oklahoma 20544 posts
2nd May '13

My LO is pretty smart for a 3.5 year old. He already knows his numbers, alphabet, colors, more than just the "normal" shapes, counts to ten in spanish, etc. I'm wanting to teach him more now, especially how to draw and write, but anything that isn't easy enough for him to get on the first or second try he gets frustrated and wants to give up. Anything he's not totally comfortable with, he doesn't want to do. Like I took him to the big pool and when he realized it was too deep to stand in he didn't want to go in. He sat on the side of the pool throwing balls at me for 25 minutes till another family with kids started playing with us and coaxed him in the water (then of course he loved it and didn't want to get out).

I try to be patient with him and force him to do things, but sometimes if I don't "make" him do something, then he will just be stubborn and refuse it forever! I'm not sure what I need to do to encourage him to keep trying at things. Any advice?

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11952 posts
2nd May '13

Do a series of exercises with him that encourage patience. Find a cool experiment or activity that you know will be to hard for him the first few times but when you show him what happens he gets so excited he won't want to stop trying until he does it (because it looks cool or whatever). The best thing to do is get him excited about things so that not getting it on the first try doesn't bother him as much. And don't bring up that he didn't do it. Just say thinks like "that is really good why don't we see if we can do it even better this time" ect.

Colt's mommy 1 child; Moore, Oklahoma 20544 posts
2nd May '13
Quoting 1inpink2inblue:" Do a series of exercises with him that encourage patience. Find a cool experiment or activity that you ... [snip!] ... that he didn't do it. Just say thinks like "that is really good why don't we see if we can do it even better this time" ect. "


Thanks! I just wish I could get him to draw or write. He just doesn't want to have anything to do with it. The only thing he likes to do is draw a line or swirl with each color crayon, then he's done and puts them away. Same with painting, his just likes to use each color, not make shapes or designs.

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11952 posts
2nd May '13
Quoting Colt's mommy:" Thanks! I just wish I could get him to draw or write. He just doesn't want to have anything to do with ... [snip!] ... crayon, then he's done and puts them away. Same with painting, his just likes to use each color, not make shapes or designs. "


Maybe crayons just aren't his medium. try paint, chalk, clay, ect until you find something he enjoys working with and inspires him to make "art".

Colt's mommy 1 child; Moore, Oklahoma 20544 posts
2nd May '13
Quoting 1inpink2inblue:" Maybe crayons just aren't his medium. try paint, chalk, clay, ect until you find something he enjoys working with and inspires him to make "art"."


I'll try different things. He's not in to art at all but he does love making music and turning everything into an instrument!

TheNuge 1 child; Pennsylvania 22817 posts
2nd May '13
Quoting Colt's mommy:" My LO is pretty smart for a 3.5 year old. He already knows his numbers, alphabet, colors, more than just ... [snip!] ... just be stubborn and refuse it forever! I'm not sure what I need to do to encourage him to keep trying at things. Any advice?"


those are normal frustrateions.
My LO is in an excellent pre-K program and she is almost 4 1/2.
It's only been in the past few months that she has been making letters consistently. She is not considered behind but is probably in the middle of the pack.
Just go at his pace and only ask a little more.