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Not fair at all (vent) Krista+baby Gracie 66 kids; Freeport, Florida 460 posts
May 2nd '13

I am 4 weeks pp and I have cervical prolapse pretty bad. Can't even have sex but baby daddy wants me to give him head all the time. I'm sick of giving head and want it all but can't because of this cervical issue that I'm waiting to see my doc on and see what my options are. I wish he'd understand my side of this. I'm worried I may have to have a hysterectomy and all he can think about is head. (End vent)

Sarah +2 ♥ 2 kids; Hollywood, FL, United States 11222 posts
May 2nd '13

So tell him no?

. , Richmond, VA, United States 75118 posts
May 2nd '13

So don't give it to him. I sure as hell wouldn't.

Krista+baby Gracie 66 kids; Freeport, Florida 460 posts
May 2nd '13

I keep telling him no and that its not fair. I got it down to where I give him head once or twice a week. I fight him on it and then he tells me "see u use me just to have babies" and that is not true.

ρiηkie ρie 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Kentucky 21902 posts
May 2nd '13
Quoting Krista+baby Gracie:" I keep telling him no and that its not fair. I got it down to where I give him head once or twice a week. ... [snip!] ... him head once or twice a week. I fight him on it and then he tells me "see u use me just to have babies" and that is not true."

f**k that nonsense. I'd bite his d**k. :? Sorry mama.

★Butter.Bean★ 1 child; Fort Lauderdale, Florida 402 posts
May 2nd '13

Ugggg men can be so insensative & dumb sometimes. I'd tell him to go eff himself, I'm not a blow up doll!

LeiLana80 2 kids; Ohio 243 posts
May 2nd '13

Oh, I'm so sorry about your prolapse. I understand- when I was in delivery with my daughter she got stuck and I pushed for 2.5 hours... now everything is p*******d and it's awful.
As for your husband... tell him to get over it. He is being selfish. I understand about "taking care" of your man, but in this case, you need to heal up (mentally and physically) and he needs to friggin' understand that. Tell him how you feel. Firmly.

. , Richmond, VA, United States 75118 posts
May 2nd '13
Quoting Krista+baby Gracie:" I keep telling him no and that its not fair. I got it down to where I give him head once or twice a week. ... [snip!] ... him head once or twice a week. I fight him on it and then he tells me "see u use me just to have babies" and that is not true."

I still wouldn't do it. You're just going to reinforce that his tantrums gets him what he wants.

Krista+baby Gracie 66 kids; Freeport, Florida 460 posts
May 2nd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ★Butter.Bean★:</b>" Ugggg men can be so insensative & dumb sometimes. I'd tell him to go eff himself, I'm not a blow up doll!"</blockquote>




I should tell him that lol.

JellyJaks Due December 12 (boy); 3 kids; 2 angel babies; El Mirage, Arizona 556 posts
May 2nd '13
Quoting ρiηkie ρie:" f**k that nonsense. I'd bite his d**k. :? Sorry mama. "


:!:

Krista+baby Gracie 66 kids; Freeport, Florida 460 posts
May 2nd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting LeiLana80:</b>" Oh, I'm so sorry about your prolapse. I understand- when I was in delivery with my daughter she got stuck ... [snip!] ... case, you need to heal up (mentally and physically) and he needs to friggin' understand that. Tell him how you feel. Firmly."</blockquote>



How did u fix ur prolapse? I only pushed twice and my daughter was out. 3 min. I wish he would understand me :(... Earlier I was ready to tell him to go find another girl to go get head from since I'm sick of the one way street. But in the end I'm happy I didn't say that cuz he probably would have lol.

Krista+baby Gracie 66 kids; Freeport, Florida 460 posts
May 2nd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ⚓ Sarah ⚓:</b>" um, why are you with him?"</blockquote>




I've been with him for 8 years. I love him but wish he'd respect my feelings on this issue. I understand "he's a guy and he's horny" (his excuse)... I'm horny to and there is nothing I can do About it... We love each other and our lil girls.

LeiLana80 2 kids; Ohio 243 posts
May 2nd '13
Quoting Krista+baby Gracie:" <blockquote><b>Quoting LeiLana80:</b>" Oh, I'm so sorry about your prolapse. I understand- ... [snip!] ... get head from since I'm sick of the one way street. But in the end I'm happy I didn't say that cuz he probably would have lol."

I'm not fixed. :( We're going to look into it after I deliver this next kid... but my doc didn't seem very hopeful about it (as in surgery to fix it). I sure as hell am not going to just live with it the rest of my life though. I don't think male doctors (or guys in general) get how awful it is, physically and mentally.
Stick with what you are comfortable with, as far as you and your husband. Don't allow him to push you. That is not fair. Hopefully he will eventually get that you are not being mean or selfish and that this is a legitimate issue. If not, he's being a selfish jerk. Which, unfortunately, men tend to be...

Krista+baby Gracie 66 kids; Freeport, Florida 460 posts
May 2nd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting LeiLana80:</b>" I'm not fixed. :( We're going to look into it after I deliver this next kid... but my doc didn't seem ... [snip!] ... mean or selfish and that this is a legitimate issue. If not, he's being a selfish jerk. Which, unfortunately, men tend to be..."</blockquote>




Lucky u could have another after that. Mine so bad it's at the opening of my vag. So like I said no sex for me :(... I want more kids and I'm gonna be devastated if my doc says hysterectomy. It scares me so much I get emotional about it sometimes.

LeiLana80 2 kids; Ohio 243 posts
May 3rd '13
Quoting Krista+baby Gracie:" <blockquote><b>Quoting LeiLana80:</b>" I'm not fixed. :( We're going to look into it ... [snip!] ... more kids and I'm gonna be devastated if my doc says hysterectomy. It scares me so much I get emotional about it sometimes."

Sex is so painful I can't do it anymore. Pregnancy made everything worse for me, too.
As far as treatment, they might try a pessary (yuck and ow), and I also heard about some crazy thing where they try to use electrodes to stimulate the muscles inside your vagina to get them to get stronger (physical therapy for your vag :shock:). They could also try tying everything back up again, but those types of surgeries don't always hold up. I guess it really depends on exactly your body- AND your doctor. If you don't like what you hear from him, get a second opinion! I love my OB, but he is not very helpful about this situation. I saw a woman doc in the same office and she was much more open to doing what was necessary to fix me! I think she understands it's MUCH more than a physical irritation.
Have you talked to your OB about it?