Reply
Nikki Roy Due November 30 (boy); Japan 21 posts
3rd May '13

I have to first of all say I am disgusted that 2 people would gang up on someone just because of how they types and because there opinions differs....Needless to say........ that they do have a point to what they are trying to say.....But does it need to be said in that manner.... If you don't like what they have to say move on..... Why be just as childish and throw insults.... That just makes you look just as silly..... I thought this site was about learning and talking about babies..... Not to demean and belittle others......

Mrs.Mud 6 kids; 2 angel babies; North Dakota 3309 posts
status 3rd May '13

I just have to say that while the cheating itself may not effect the custody battle, the looking on Craigslist for sex sheds a poor light on him and his judgment. He is putting himself and potentially his child in a dangerous situation and the judge will listen to everything you have to say. You just have to be careful how you present it. You can't come off as the bitter ex, make sure EVERYTHING you say involves your son somehow. Such as, if he can't wait until he's out of his marriage to be searching elsewhere for sex, is he going to wait a whole week while he has his child or is he going to be inviting shady women over? That affects your child. And a baby is a good lure for a man looking for sex/women. But seriously, file as soon as possible. The person who files first generally has the upper hand. And don't let him take your child until everything is sorted out, because he would not have to give him back to you.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46083 posts
status 3rd May '13
Quoting Mrs.Mud:" I just have to say that while the cheating itself may not effect the custody battle, the looking on Craigslist ... [snip!] ... hand. And don't let him take your child until everything is sorted out, because he would not have to give him back to you."


Or he could get a babysitter and have a date out of the house...



Many people use the internet for dating, I truly doubt that a judge is going to consider that poor judgement.



Everything this woman says smacks of bitterness, anger and a want for revenge. Any judge worth their salt will see right through this.

Mrs.Mud 6 kids; 2 angel babies; North Dakota 3309 posts
status 3rd May '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Or he could get a babysitter and have a date out of the house... Many people use the internet for dating, ... [snip!] ... this woman says smacks of bitterness, anger and a want for revenge. Any judge worth their salt will see right through this."


Using the internet and a reputable site for dating is a 180 from posting on Craigslist for sex. He doesn't seem like the classy type to take a lady out to a nice dinner.
I see a woman who made some bad choices, is hurt and angry, yes, (and has every right to be so), but also concerned for her son. I think some people were very harsh with her. Our opinions really don't matter, anyway. It's up to a judge to listen to both sides and help them work something out. I was just trying to give her useful advice instead of belittling her.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46083 posts
status 3rd May '13
Quoting Mrs.Mud:" Using the internet and a reputable site for dating is a 180 from posting on Craigslist for sex. He doesn't ... [snip!] ... listen to both sides and help them work something out. I was just trying to give her useful advice instead of belittling her."


Yes, because you know him so well from what his bitter soon to be ex wife says about him.

Mrs.Mud 6 kids; 2 angel babies; North Dakota 3309 posts
status 3rd May '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Yes, because you know him so well from what his bitter soon to be ex wife says about him."


Yah, just like everyone that's jumping her ass knows her so well. I'm just choosing to be positive and try to help her instead of being a b***h, because that doesn't help anyone.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46083 posts
status 3rd May '13
Quoting Mrs.Mud:" Yah, just like everyone that's jumping her ass knows her so well. I'm just choosing to be positive and try to help her instead of being a b***h, because that doesn't help anyone."


Many people gave her very sound advice, and it was when she started acting all nutty that people started calling her out on it.



I understand that it is hard for someone who is hurt by their partner to have objectivity about things like child custody, however just because he is a shitty husband doesn't mean he is a shitty father.



No one said that she doesn't have a right to be upset that he cheated on her, but they did say that wasn't cause for him to have supervised visitation....which is true.

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
3rd May '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Many people gave her very sound advice, and it was when she started acting all nutty that people started ... [snip!] ... to be upset that he cheated on her, but they did say that wasn't cause for him to have supervised visitation....which is true. "


:!::D

mcardwell86 3 kids; Ohio 88 posts
3rd May '13

Something my ex's daughters mom put in their custody battle was that no one of the opposite sex could stay over night unless legally married. You may want to try putting something like that in it. Also she put in that neither parent nor a 3rd party could talk badly about either parent in the presence of the child. For the sake of your child something like this needs to be put in. As well as, no loss of temper by either parent. THE most important thing right now is your child and his feeling of stability and security. Otherwise it could set him up for a life time of anxiety and lack of security issues. Put aside your anger for your soon to be ex and his family and focus on your LO.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46083 posts
status 3rd May '13
Quoting mcardwell86:" Something my ex's daughters mom put in their custody battle was that no one of the opposite sex could ... [snip!] ... time of anxiety and lack of security issues. Put aside your anger for your soon to be ex and his family and focus on your LO."


No loss of temper? Seriously?

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49279 posts
3rd May '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" No loss of temper? Seriously? "


What, you get angry at your kids?!

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46083 posts
status 3rd May '13
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" What, you get angry at your kids?!"


No, of course not....it's in my court order I can't...I also can't go to the bathroom without calling me ex and asking permission.

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49279 posts
3rd May '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" No, of course not....it's in my court order I can't...I also can't go to the bathroom without calling me ex and asking permission."


God help you if you REALLY gotta go and he doesn't answer!
-snickers-

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27195 posts
3rd May '13
Quoting Mrs.Mud:" Using the internet and a reputable site for dating is a 180 from posting on Craigslist for sex. He doesn't ... [snip!] ... listen to both sides and help them work something out. I was just trying to give her useful advice instead of belittling her."


Why is it up to anyone to decide where is a good place for someone to find sex? Prostitution is legal in Nevada, would someone belittle him for hiring a hooker? If he finds shit online, who cares. It's his sex life. Unless he's having sex with the child around then really... who cares where he finds sex? It doesn't show a lapse of judgment. A "reputable site" is no different than craigslist. It's sex. He may have cheated, but who cares? Divorce his ass then. He still has a right to his children because there is nothing wrong with finding sex online. There really isn't. Divorce him, let him find the girls he wants in the way he wants. I mean hell, someone could say that finding a guy in a bar shows lapse of judgment... honestly it's no different than finding someone online because in the end, a one night stand happens. Which is not illegal.