Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" Well apparently :D He likes pregnant chicks, hence knocking me up AGAIN, and she is pregnant, so guess it works. MAYBE IT'S HIS!!! :shock:"
Quoting ♫ boobook ♫:" <blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" Well apparently :D He likes ... [snip!] ... she is pregnant, so guess it works. MAYBE IT'S HIS!!! :shock:"</blockquote> OMFG dude. I just spit my water out. Hahaha"
it would depend on how the wife felt about the friend, my husband let go of his best friend because i felt their friendship wasn't healthy, but that was because she blamed him for not being able to see her kids any more because he joined the army and then tried to bring a bunch of bs drama into our life and i didn't want her around our kids.
I see no problem with it. My husband and I both have friends who are single and of the opposite sex.
It depends on if they have in fact slept together before and if my SO has a history of cheating how comfortable Id be with it. My SO had to drop a few of his female friends bc they had no respect for me or our relationship. He's currently friends with someone he has previously slept with but I trust and love her. She'd never disrespect me or her relationship.
I don't see an issue with it. I am secure in my marriage. I am friends with married men.
I would never dream of being upset with my husband for having female friends. Obviously there are boundaries that must always be maintained when straight males and straight females have a friendship that they want to keep on a friendship level and that's true regardless of either of their marital statuses. There is always the potential for things to go down a slippery path if those boundaries are not maintained and many times those things happen unintentionally when the boundaries are crossed. They both may have started the friendship with no other intentions that just plain ol friendship and then BOOM, they're having an affair. That usually happens when they start spending alot of time together...alone. It's one thing to go have a drink with some work friends or even to go have a drink together real quick after work but when it starts to become habitual, it's leading into some rocky territory. There are plenty of people who probably could maintain a strictly platonic relationship with the opposite sex, even given those circumstances but I've seen those kind of things go sour many times so why even put yourself in the position?
So with all of that said, my answer to the question is YES! I absolutely think that straight men can be friends with married women and vice versa.......in my opinion, there just have to be clear boundaries that are always maintained. My husband has many female friends and quite honestly, he could go stay the night with one of them and I wouldn't give it a second thought. I trust him about as much as a person can trust their spouse (which is never 100% IMO but my trust with him is like 99.999%). I, as well, have plenty of male friends. My best friend (outside of my BG girls <3) is a male.......now, he is gay, but still :lol:
Quoting orchidlovingmama:" With all of the cheating and betrayal that happens in marriages nowadays, I just simply feel that its ... [snip!] ... if the two were friends long before the marriage and the wife is okay with it, that's a different story and I think its okay."
I kinda feel like if a man is going to cheat, he will cheat regardless. If he has a cheating heart, he will find a way whether his wife "allows" him to have female friends or not. It's up to the couple to dig into their relationship to figure out what is wrong and why one or both are seeking physical intimacy outside of their marriage. Restricting friendships will only build resentment and might possibly drive a wedge between the couple.
Quoting ♫ boobook ♫:" It's an issue. There is no reason for my hubby chatting it up with another female. Same with me another ... [snip!] ... the other has outgrown to see if we want them, etc. that sounds very complicated lol. It's just respect and having boundaries."
now I think what you're describing is perfectly reasonable. Most husbands and wives spend the majority of their time together and therefore, have mostly mutual friends. If I make a friend who happens to be of the opposite sex, it won't be long before he meets my husband and they become friends as well. It's kind of the natural progression of things, at least within my marriage. Most of our friends are mutual just because we spend so much time together as a couple.
Quoting Sonia[MOBAS]:" You should make him quit immediately!"
sadly, there are women who would demand that :x
Quoting Lin Brown:" it would depend on how the wife felt about the friend, my husband let go of his best friend because i ... [snip!] ... because he joined the army and then tried to bring a bunch of bs drama into our life and i didn't want her around our kids."
well that sounds more like a matter of rationality rather than jealousy. You didn't ask him to end his friendship with her because of her sex, it was because she was mistreating him. I don't blame ya there.
Wow..the words "allow and "make him/her" crazy!
I just, idk, if me and SO ever got married and he told me I couldn't have friends of the opposite sex I would laugh in his face :lol: All of my friends are guys, with one lesbian thrown in there. And I would never ask SO to drop his female friends. I just don't see the logic, if you're that paranoid about him/her cheating, why are you even with them? (general you)
<blockquote><b>Quoting Sly Dashie:</b>" I see no problem with it. My husband and I both have friends who are single and of the opposite sex."</blockquote>
There are some girls I have a problem with because they don't respect the boundaries but I don't tell dh he can't be friends with them, I just tell him why I don't like them and what I feel is inappropriate.
<blockquote><b>Quoting wombie:</b>" well that sounds more like a matter of rationality rather than jealousy. You didn't ask him to end his ... [snip!] ... ask him to end his friendship with her because of he I'msex, it was because she w mistreating him. I don't blame ya there."</blockquote>
I could never tell him he had to stop talking to the girl, she was the one and only one and I just told him that if he wanted her in his life then that was fine, but I didn't want her in mine or my kids lives. If a girl were to cross the line and the friendship made me uncomfortable that would be a different story.