Quoting Safka9973:" I am surprised that everyone says stay away. I am interested in closure for sure, but if my Dad had ... [snip!] ... Just a simple "I'm sorry" and then for him to never mention it again. And I would simply nod, and he'd know I forgave him."
Your first reaction was to skip town. That is the right thing to do. Do not doubt your instinctive intuition. It was telling you the right thing with this
If you do go.. I wouldn't take your kids. What if he hasn't changed? Its too big of a risk.
<blockquote><b>Quoting ♡ Internet b***h:</b>" If you do go.. I wouldn't take your kids. What if he hasn't changed? Its too big of a risk."</blockquote>
I wouldn't be alone w him. They wouldn't be alone w him. The situation would simply be a large family gathering. My kids, obviously, know none of the background, and they would just sit down and eat a meal w all of us and then go play while the adults talk. I'm not afraid of him, he's no threat. This stuff all happened when he was very young, and afterwards he was removed from his BM and placed in a stable home. Ge disnt come back to us because, 1 my Mother would not allow it, and two my Dad ended up signing away his rights as he had already spents tens pf thousands trying to get full custody. My Dad has seen him a few times and talks to him frequently.
It's a mess. But I still have some thinking to do.
I greatly appreciate everyone's input. Thank you