I no longer live with my boyfriend due to his behavior of ignoring me for pc games, friends & pot. Gave him ample time to return to school, get a job, buy SOMETHING for the baby on the way and he did/has done nothing. I've taken on all the responsibility of preparing/buying things, he contributes nothing but asks for so much from me. I'm 8 months pregnant.
He was caught stealing & though I was clueless & did nothing wrong I got an accessory charge. His father has paid my court fees, & my boyfriend has come to court (I've been 5 times got dismissed Thursday). I wanted to hop on the bus & visit my friend after court. My boyfriend immediately went off calling me an asshole, saying I wasted his time and after all he did I was just going to leave him. I just wanted to go hang out with my "buddies" he said. I said nothing & went home with him & he started ignoring me. So I left for a 3hr hike he practically chased me out the door with questions "who are you meeting up with, where are you going, when will you be back?" I replied with "whenever" and left.
His dad was buying him a new gaming monitor and my boyfriend asked me to go help him pick it out. Obviously I'm opposed & said no. He got pissed. Before they left for the store he couldn't find his wallet. I was lying down exhausted from the hike when he started yelling at me to get up & help him look. I didn't get up. He complained that he always helps me.He asked again for me to get up so he could look on the bed but I already knew the wallet wasn't on the bed. He removed all the covers right off of me, balled them up and threw them at me. In a sarcastic tone he said oops, didn't see you. I was so weak & the bundle of blankets so heavy, I couldn't move them off of me. He said look at how fucking lazy you are! His brother called up the stairs to hurry and my boyfriend started snapping at his brother too, then left.
When my boyfriend came back he was affectionate, and sweet towards me...acting like nothing had happened. I packed the rest of the things I had left from when I lived there & left first thing in the morning. This is blatant to me, for months I've been debating and struggling with what to do for months now. Only reason I was ever going back was because I could not miss court, now that it's over I'll never ever return. It's so fucking difficult dealing with a monster when you're with child...countless times I cry for hours, at lowest points engage in self harm ): and feel guilty for my mistake (HIM not my baby girl).
I'm so sorry! Hopefully things continue to get better for you. Stay strong!!
Well first off, you definitely did the right thing by leaving. The last thing you need when having a child is a grown child to look after, too. He needs to see that if he wants to be in your lives, he needs to smarten up and take some responsibility.
Second, I understand feeling weak and self-harming. I've been there. Just think about your baby girl and the example you want to set for her. Be strong so that she sees it, and she'll grow up to be a strong woman like you.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Van D:</b>" Well first off, you definitely did the right thing by leaving. The last thing you need when having a ... [snip!] ... girl and the example you want to set for her. Be strong so that she sees it, and she'll grow up to be a strong woman like you."</blockquote>
I agree with this!
Stay strong for your baby girl!! <3