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Siblings and what to do ChristinaLynne Due October 7 (boy); 2 kids; Pancake, TX, United States 28959 posts
status 4th May '13

I have a brother who is 3.5 years older then me. He has a daughter who is 7 and diabetic. He married her mother 6 years ago and needless to say she is a c**t. My brother and I have always had a close relationship until he married the troll. Yes I realize relationships change when people get married but as time goes on the worse it gets. I have tried everything I can to include them in my children's life and stay included in my nieces. They make it beyond hard. My other niece(sisters) spends tons of time with me. I'm constantly trying to include my other niece but my SIL refuses to allow her too. They failed to come to my daughters 1st birthday party and instead sent a present and their daughter with my sister. My brother no longer answers my phone calls or texts and I honestly am unsure why. The only thing I can think that has her angered is in Oct my husband and I seperated(he has PTSD and times were hard). I borrowed their truck, a vehicle they never use, and ran out of gas(a long story). My sister came and brought me gas. I later got into it with my sister in law because she went on to explain how I ruined her truck. That's it! I'm sure they aren't happy with the fact that I came home and I understand that but at the same time I disapprove of a lot about their marriage and the way they raise their daughter but it is not my business and I know it so I stay out of it.



I'm so unsure of how to approach the situation. How would you? Would you stop offering and trying? I offered for her to stay tonight with my other niece and go to the zoo with us. Her mother said no.

Mommy to munchkin 17 kids; Bandera, Texas 1229 posts
4th May '13

If she is always refusing I would probably tell her that you wont ask for the daughter anymore but if she wants her to spend time with her cousins that she has your number and to contact you when shes ok with it. And that would be that.

C.xox-mama Due October 22; 1 child; 1 angel baby; St Thomas, Ontario 1365 posts
4th May '13

SIL sounds like she needs a punch in the face. but that wouldnt solve anything :P

Kimber-lily Due September 27 (girl); 4 kids; Nova Scotia 28962 posts
4th May '13

I would just drop it, you can assume she just doesn't like you.



I don't let my kids go with people I dislike, family or not.

~a girl and a boy~ 2 kids; Iowa 55399 posts
4th May '13

I would stop trying and offering. Otherwise I would feel like I would get rejected every time.

ChristinaLynne Due October 7 (boy); 2 kids; Pancake, TX, United States 28959 posts
status 4th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~a girl and a boy~:</b>" I would stop trying and offering. Otherwise I would feel like I would get rejected every time. "</blockquote>




My only issue with stopping is I hate feeling like I don't get to be a part of her life. I hated not having close aunts and uncles and its something my sister and I work hard to make sure we are.



I don't know whether to message my brother or not.



And trust me to whoever said I should punch her I so wish I could but she has a good 200 lbs and a whole foot taller

Sugarhiccup LLC ; 5 kids; Lahaina, Hawaii 2825 posts
4th May '13

Let it go. If they are not adult enough to tell you what they're issue is with you than its no sense worrying yourself over it. Stop contacting them, they have your number if they choose to contact you.

Sugarhiccup LLC ; 5 kids; Lahaina, Hawaii 2825 posts
4th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ChristinaLynne:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~a girl and a boy~:</b>" I would stop trying and offering. Otherwise ... [snip!] ... or not. And trust me to whoever said I should punch her I so wish I could but she has a good 200 lbs and a whole foot taller"</blockquote>



I understand this, I truly do. I never had close uncles and aunts. I wanted my siblings and I to be close. It takes two to make that happen though.

ChristinaLynne Due October 7 (boy); 2 kids; Pancake, TX, United States 28959 posts
status 4th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sugarhiccup

C.xox-mama Due October 22; 1 child; 1 angel baby; St Thomas, Ontario 1365 posts
4th May '13

:( That sucks, idk, have you tried talking to your brother in person without SIL?

ChristinaLynne Due October 7 (boy); 2 kids; Pancake, TX, United States 28959 posts
status 4th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Clarissa Larson:</b>" :( That sucks, idk, have you tried talking to your brother in person without SIL? "</blockquote>




I never see him. He works so much while she sits on her fat ass

C.xox-mama Due October 22; 1 child; 1 angel baby; St Thomas, Ontario 1365 posts
4th May '13
Quoting ChristinaLynne:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Clarissa Larson:</b>" :( That sucks, idk, have you tried talking ... [snip!] ... to your brother in person without SIL? "</blockquote> I never see him. He works so much while she sits on her fat ass"


Just from the way you talk about her, i wanna punch her for you lmao. but im in one of those moods :P



I would try talking to him, if you ever get the chance, maybe shes abusive? Maybe he doesnt really get a say, ya know what i mean?