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Spoiling an infant? Caleb + Carys ♥ 17 kids; Illinois 46 posts
4th May '13

Is it really possible to 'spoil' an infant?
I got some baby cuddles with my friend's son today, and her mother told us that he is going to become spoiled if he's held constantly. According to her, he won't know what to do with himself when he's put down, and he will become 'clingy'.

Snow 1 child; Storybrooke, ME, United States 34017 posts
4th May '13

That's a load of crap.

Princess Celestia +1 TTC since Nov 2014; 1 child; Tallahassee, Florida 3679 posts
4th May '13

Fruit spoils, infants don't.

Drunk Blair Waldorf 2 kids; Alpharetta, Georgia 19208 posts
4th May '13

WHY do people think it's such a bad thing to hold their children and soothe their cries?



My 14 month old is SUPER independent. She always has been since she discovered there were things she could do other than just lay there. And I still held her a lot and snuggled her constantly. Now she's a "big girl" and she doesn't have time for mommy's snuggles, so she only snuggles when she's tired. :lol:

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
4th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Princess Celestia [14]:</b>" Fruit spoils, infants don't."</blockquote>




Lmao!!! Even if they do I love me a spoiled baby. I can't imagine not losing my baby constantly as much as it bugs me when I'm overly tired I just enjoy it while I can.



Actually holdin a baby is essential for brain development. When a baby feels safe and secure they are able to learn. If a baby is constantly in a state of fear of not knowin when it if their needs will be met heir brain shuts down into survival mode. Then as babies grow they begin to explore more and more away from their caregiver at their own pace.

Caleb + Carys ♥ 17 kids; Illinois 46 posts
4th May '13
Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Princess Celestia [14]:</b>" Fruit spoils, infants don't."</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... down into survival mode. Then as babies grow they begin to explore more and more away from their caregiver at their own pace."


Huh, I didn't know that.
Regardless, my kiddo's going to snuggled with all the time. :)

Autumn Whisper 1 child; Utah 9977 posts
4th May '13

My son was held most of the time and slept with me. He was never left to cry, always responded to as soon as I could get there.



He is 4 now, happy, healthy, and well-adjusted. Independent and very full of empathy. I am home base...he keeps track of me, but he is not clingy and definitely not spoiled. He even loves to snuggle, but he doesn't have to be carried or snuggled.



You can't spoil them. It is teaching them love and trust, and that their needs can be met. It is setting up a basic pattern of healthy attachment and love for their future relationships.

Juggernog-aholic 4 kids; 2 angel babies; P, AR, United States 20227 posts
4th May '13
Quoting Drunk Blair Waldorf:" WHY do people think it's such a bad thing to hold their children and soothe their cries? My 14 month ... [snip!] ... constantly. Now she's a "big girl" and she doesn't have time for mommy's snuggles, so she only snuggles when she's tired. :lol:"


:!: same with EJ. Once he started crawling/walking, he didn't want snuggles as much. And I co-slept, co-bathed everything with him, and held him a lot cause it was just me and him for the first 12 months lol.

Autumn Whisper 1 child; Utah 9977 posts
4th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Princess Celestia [14]:</b>" Fruit spoils, infants don't."</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... down into survival mode. Then as babies grow they begin to explore more and more away from their caregiver at their own pace."</blockquote>




This is all true!



Physical touch is good for bonding and brain development.

hobbit* 3 kids; New Zealand 44783 posts
4th May '13

Babies go through clingy stages anyway.
My baby wasn't over held a lot and she's becoming clingy now at 9 months

White Chocolate Milk 1 child; Chelsea, Alabama 12303 posts
4th May '13

Actually it can have the opposite effect on them. They can become more independent with lots of cuddles and holding.

user banned Due November 26; 1 child; Parkersburg, West Virginia 9548 posts
4th May '13

i didnt know babies had a sell by date lmao! but no people said that about my daughter. she is 16 months and loves other people and is always so calm and funny. she knows that someone will always be there to take care of her needs. it takes anxiety out of it