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my drama. (it's sorta long) user banned
4th May '13

pooooooooooof!

user banned 21 kids; North Dakota 3800 posts
4th May '13

Leave. You'll be fine.

user banned Due November 26; 1 child; Parkersburg, West Virginia 9548 posts
4th May '13

its easy to find a man that doesnt do drugs. not saying a good man but it would be a step up lmao

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
4th May '13

I would say that with a list like that, you are on the right track to finding your happiness. Your baby is so young that something like this wont really negatively affect her as much as if you waited a few years. He tells you, you are not worthy of love because he is trying to break you.

♥MomToSilas+1♥ Due December 9; 1 child; ., IL, United States 11296 posts
status 4th May '13

Leave. You can do better and will be fine. Your DD doesn't need mommy and daddy together in such a bad scenario. She shouldn't be surrounded by such negativity.

ℕightingale 1 child; Mississippi 7387 posts
status 4th May '13
Quoting *Mayhem*:" Leave. You'll be fine."


:!::!:

♥three babies ♥ Due September 13; 4 kids; Louisville, Ky, United States 7373 posts
4th May '13

I've seen a few women in my day going thru this. Every time they tell me what's going on i tell them to leave. YOU CAN DO IT. My mother was a single mother since I was 2 year old. My mom and dad were a good relationship and she got out.
You can DO WHATEVER YOU WANT when you want. No man should tell you what to do. You have a child in the world now and you can't let her/him see how bad it gets. I've seen worse in my time with my mom ex husband.
You shouldn't be unhappy. If he "promise" this and that then hold him to it. Kick him out or leave.

Mrs.Sherwood ☮ 23 Weeks Due January 12 (girl); Mesa, AZ, United States 4187 posts
status 4th May '13
Quoting Mrs.Dixon1228:" Oh this is bad. really bad. my husband has made me feel completely guilty for wanting to get out of ... [snip!] ... love him so much. i want DD to have her mommy and daddy together, but is it so wrong for wanting a GOOD relationship? advice?"


Normally my advice in marriages is to work as hard as you can to make it work, because marriage is forever, however - my advice in this case is to listen to your gut. Clearly he doesn't treat you well and he has issues. Maybe leaving him will give him incentive and help him get clean. It sounds like you've tried very hard to make it work, but you can't force someone to love you or treat you right. You wouldn't want your daughter in a marriage like this, right? Then you definitely don't want her to see you in a marriage like this, and thus think it's acceptable. Move on and if he truly makes changes, consider giving it a "trial run". You deserve better. Let him know what you're planning on doing, file for child support, and make your life better for your daughter.
Good luck.

user banned 1 child; Bluefield, Virginia 1053 posts
4th May '13

pooooooooooof!

Simply, Mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Upland, 11712 posts
4th May '13

Leave. You wont regret it & your daughter would rather come from a divorced home than a one she has to witness fighting in. She will be proud of you. I had my son at nineteen. His dad walked out on me and I thought I had screwed up my life.... but then I met my husband and now I'm 24 & I am telling you life gets so much better and has so much more to offer than being miserable about someone who doesn't really care for you. THere really is someone out there better than that for you.

Meagan Hill 1 child; USA 183 posts
4th May '13

You need to think of your daughter's saftey and happiness before you think of anything. and if you stay with him and let her see him treat you like that all it's doing is telling her that it's OK for a man to treat HER that way, would you want someone treating your daughter the way her father is treating you? think about that....and then leave

Soon 2 be mom of 3 Due November 6; 2 kids; Massachusetts 412 posts
4th May '13
Quoting Sonia[MOBAS]: He tells you, you are not worthy of love because he is trying to break you."

This!! Been there done that...moving out wasn't easy I was scared but I got through it, my kids are better for it and I met and married a great guy who treats me right. Keep your head up, it'll all work out

user banned 21 kids; North Dakota 3800 posts
4th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs.Dixon1228:</b>" Thanks women:) it is just so hard. even harder to admit that i messed up at 19 getting married and ... [snip!] ... married and having a baby(I DO NOT REGRET MY DAUGHTER) (just that i messed up by having her so young) its hard to leave. :("</blockquote>



Ahhh look at it this way...would you rather teach your daughter to learn how to admit you made a mistake, take the good with the bad, and get out of a bad situation or would you want her to learn to wallow in self-pity and blame for the mistakes she's made?



It's part of life, hindsight is 20/20, mistakes are lessons...all that jazz.

user banned 1 child; Bluefield, Virginia 1053 posts
4th May '13

poooooooof!

Simply, Mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Upland, 11712 posts
4th May '13
Quoting Mrs.Dixon1228:" he keeps telling me that "the power of the relationship lies with the one that cares the least" --pretty ... [snip!] ... me its me because i want to leave... he says he loves me sooo much...and he repeats it i dont know what to believe ugh!"


believe in yourself. That is what you should believe. If your brain is telling you get out... then you need to listen to it even if the heart wants you to stay.