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... materialista cadela♥ 2 kids; Brazil 26580 posts
5th May '13

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Kayleigh (VBAC GRAD) 2 kids; United Kingdom 1411 posts
5th May '13

i have had it twice, suffered badly after both my daughters,. i couldnt eat, sleep, all i did was cry, i was very suicidal too. it was the worst time of my life, i'm here if you wanna talk lizzie x

* Clairebear * 1 child; Ireland 2770 posts
5th May '13

I had baby blues after having my daughter last year. She was born by emergency c section after 36 hours of labour and I had to have a general anaesthetic for it. So right off, I think that had something to do with it. I couldn't hold her for 24 hours which didnt help either, by the time I got to hold her it felt like she wasnt mine or something. I really wanted to breast feed but my milk never came in properly either so having to bottle feed really upset me too. She had severe reflux and screamed all the time, she barely slept either. I was a single mother even though my mother was helping me i found it really hard. I couldn't settle her at all, she only seemed to want my mother or my cousin who was always calling in to help. I felt like the worst mother ever. I spoke to my doc and my public health nurse. I had mild ppd from about 3 weeks pp on but I didn't want to take meds. I wanted to see if I could do it without them. The nurse put me in contact with a voluntary scheme we have here called the community mothers programme. A lovely woman called Sharon calls once a week just to support and help, give advice etc. Even if I just want to vent or cry, it's a big help. Also helpful to talk about how I was feeling or what I was experiencing. She also convinced me to join a mother and baby group where I met other mothers going through similar stuff. My doc kept an eye on me but I still refused meds. I found it helps to talk about how I'm feeling etc. maybe some counselling might help? Definitely talk to your doc about it and he/she may have other suggestions too. I actually found going back to work helped me feel much better, I only work 19 hours but its great to get out of the house and meet other people. My daughter loves her childminder so I don't need to worry about how she's getting on, she doesn't miss me at all! Her reflux finally stopped at 10 months and she's like a different child now (shes nearly 13 months) so much more content and happy. I think I'm going to be ok now I finally feel much more like my old self. I'm sorry if this is a rambling answer I didn't mean it to be this long lol! But I'm here if you need to talk, you can pm me and parent tank me any time. You're not alone in this, it helps to talk about it and if you want or your doc suggests meds then you could give them a try. Hope all goes well for you! Hugs! :) :) :)