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user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
5th May '13

Anyway OP, best of luck with your kid and his behavior.
But I do recommend you take a look at the way you parent, instead of putting the blame solely on your three year old.

Jessica & Kaleb 1 child; 1 angel baby; Massachusetts 4840 posts
5th May '13
Quoting j0des(+2):" My 3 year old has issues..therefore, he doesn't go to restaraunts(except fast food). I would expect him ... [snip!] ... People should cut you some slack though, he is 3. If you were there a long time waiting on food, he was going to act out."

thank you, im glad someone understands.... we did have some stuff with us (hence the toy under the table) and this was his first time in a restaurant in a year, a new environment to him which is exciting and he was hyper from it but its also going to be the last for a while

Hy'ska 2 kids; Washington 50791 posts
status 5th May '13

This post really annoys me. Coming from a parent of a speech and cognitively delayed 3 year old who has celiacs I get how it is and you're making excuses. Look up different parenting styles, work on signing with him. There are so many things you can do to improve your parenting techniques.

misanthrope 2 kids; Ramona, California 15431 posts
5th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jessica & Kaleb:</b>" i did... i dnt understand why no one is listening to me saying that, he stood on his chair once and ... [snip!] ... chair to stand there with someone else... it wasnt a restaurant where that really mattered especially cuz no one was near us"</blockquote>




I see where you are coming from but you should have removed him from the situation when he got antsy. With my daughter I take her outside to spot birds, or I give her my phone to play with (a very rare treat). If those things don't work we leave and I finish my food at home.

Jessica & Kaleb 1 child; 1 angel baby; Massachusetts 4840 posts
5th May '13
Quoting The Original Mayhem.:" Anyway OP, best of luck with your kid and his behavior. But I do recommend you take a look at the way you parent, instead of putting the blame solely on your three year old. "


please do not attack my parenting! That is very rude considering you do not know my child or how i handle it... we have been to doctors and the state and i take him everyone to get some help! I do everything they tell me and until u have a child with behavior issues that you cant control u have no right to tell me im not doing my job.... u have no idea how hard i work on him and the things i do.... disagree with this situation but do not attack my parenting

Kimmy Gibbler 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8039 posts
5th May '13

I dunno. I'm just under the general impression that if many people tell you something, but you still disagree with them, the majority is probably right. If 3 people in the same restaurant were disturbed by your son's behavior, than you probably should have removed him from the situation.

Jessica & Kaleb 1 child; 1 angel baby; Massachusetts 4840 posts
5th May '13
Quoting Brink:" This post really annoys me. Coming from a parent of a speech and cognitively delayed 3 year old who has ... [snip!] ... different parenting styles, work on signing with him. There are so many things you can do to improve your parenting techniques."


yes and i have done them all, hes been working with the state and doctors and im in multiple parenting group to learn strategies for him and we finally found something that works but dnt say im not trying

3 little monsters 3 kids; Olathe, Colorado 50990 posts
5th May '13

Those kinds of comments are completely unprofessional and you should have spoken to a manager. That said my son is 5, extremely delayed and there is no way in HELL I would allow that type of behavior in public, I didn't allow it at 3 and I certainly don't allow it at 5. I would have left far earlier because obviously he wasn't in the mood to sit still for a nice breakfast. It's not fair to ruin a nice breakfast for others because you wanted gluten free pancakes. Sometimes kids act up, it's natural but as a parent you need to address the behavior and remove him from the situation. You don't make excuses and just let it continue to happen.

Jessica & Kaleb 1 child; 1 angel baby; Massachusetts 4840 posts
5th May '13
Quoting 3 little monsters:" Those kinds of comments are completely unprofessional and you should have spoken to a manager. That said ... [snip!] ... you need to address the behavior and remove him from the situation. You don't make excuses and just let it continue to happen. "


the whole point of this post is that he wasnt acting up, until the end when we left as soon as he was.... its that this family place didnt like children at all.... and only 2 people made comments and the first guy made one b4 my son did anything at all so idk wat his problem was

tonys_mama(army wife) 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Fort Irwin, California 15526 posts
5th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jessica & Kaleb:</b>" the whole point of this post is that he wasnt acting up, until the end when we left as soon as he was.... ... [snip!] ... at all.... and only 2 people made comments and the first guy made one b4 my son did anything at all so idk wat his problem was"</blockquote>




That many people wouldn't have complained had he not been doing anything. If someone else's is paying so much attention to your kid to notice him going under the table he must have done something to cause them to be paying that much attention to him.

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
5th May '13
Quoting Jessica & Kaleb:" please do not attack my parenting! That is very rude considering you do not know my child or how i handle ... [snip!] ... u have no idea how hard i work on him and the things i do.... disagree with this situation but do not attack my parenting"


I do have a child with behavioral issues. But thanks :wink:



And I based my opinions off of how you said you handled things while you were out. And you handled things poorly. Sorry you don't want to hear it.

Jessica & Kaleb 1 child; 1 angel baby; Massachusetts 4840 posts
5th May '13
Quoting ღFrodoliciousღ:" :!::!: Exactly. He had to be doing SOMETHING to get noticed that much. "


he was behaved for the entire time until the end, and it that is when this happened and we were getting rdy to leave but the waitress took another 15min to give us our check so it was about that long as soon is it got to the point he was being disruptive we went outside....



maybe people should be reading all my comments

3 little monsters 3 kids; Olathe, Colorado 50990 posts
5th May '13
Quoting Jessica & Kaleb:" the whole point of this post is that he wasnt acting up, until the end when we left as soon as he was.... ... [snip!] ... at all.... and only 2 people made comments and the first guy made one b4 my son did anything at all so idk wat his problem was"


He was acting up though. He was "antsy", he stood in his chair once, he yelled, he got out of his seat to retrieve a toy from under another table, all of that is extremely disruptive and frankly annoying. A "family" place doesn't mean Chucky E Cheese and it's fine to let your kids run around. It means they have food available in childrens portions and the atmosphere is more relaxed. Clearly he was acting up enough that several people commented on it and one person choose to leave. You need to look at the facts you put out there instead of looking to excuse your poor behavior. We've all been there. Once my son broke a plate when he was 2. I was mortified but I learned from it. I'm sorry it hurts your feelings but you were the main problem there. Not the other customers and not your 3 year old, YOU.

Jessica & Kaleb 1 child; 1 angel baby; Massachusetts 4840 posts
5th May '13
Quoting The Original Mayhem.:" I do have a child with behavioral issues. But thanks :wink: And I based my opinions off of how you ... [snip!] ... off of how you said you handled things while you were out. And you handled things poorly. Sorry you don't want to hear it. "


how? i took him outside when he started walking around i corrected him when he stood on the chair and he didnt do it again? what did i do wrong here aside from ur opinion of him going under that table, but imo he dropped it he should get it no one was around so i didnt see an issue with that

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
5th May '13
Quoting Jessica & Kaleb:" he was behaved for the entire time until the end, and it that is when this happened and we were getting ... [snip!] ... as soon is it got to the point he was being disruptive we went outside.... maybe people should be reading all my comments"


If you had no trouble giving your friend the money in the first place, and leaving, you certainly could've done it sooner.



It's really sad to me that you're acting like your f**king 3 year old is at fault for all of this. Or the customers. Or the waitress. You've accepted blame for nothing, and have not accepted any of the honest criticism. That's crappy of you. How old are you, to act like this?