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tonys_mama(army wife) 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Fort Irwin, California 15522 posts
5th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jessica & Kaleb:</b>" it wasnt a nice place... it was a small diner and hes not used to restaurant settings cuz we dont go ... [snip!] ... dont go much today was a treat i feel like everyone is forgetting were talking about a 3 year old who had to sit for 2 hours"</blockquote>



My 2 year old is very capable of sitting quietly in a restaurant for over 2 hours. You allow that behavior. He is 3 years old he should know better by now. Hell my one year old isn't even that disruptive. If my kids acted like that a I knew the couldn't sit still for long periods of time I wouldn't take them to a restaurant. There were multiple people that complained about his behavior so he obviously wasn't well behavied.

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
5th May '13
Quoting j0des(+2):" My 3 year old has issues..therefore, he doesn't go to restaraunts(except fast food). I would expect him ... [snip!] ... People should cut you some slack though, he is 3. If you were there a long time waiting on food, he was going to act out."


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Jessica & Kaleb 1 child; 1 angel baby; Massachusetts 4840 posts
5th May '13
Quoting misanthrope:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jessica & Kaleb:</b>" but he also has behavior issues steming ... [snip!] ... was just a c**t"</blockquote> But it wouldn't have come to that if you as his mother had controlled the situation."


i did... i dnt understand why no one is listening to me saying that, he stood on his chair once and it stopped and as soon as he started getting outa control to the point where he was actually being loud him and i went outside to wait for everyone... other than that he was just getting outa his chair to stand there with someone else... it wasnt a restaurant where that really mattered especially cuz no one was near us

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
5th May '13

Anyway OP, best of luck with your kid and his behavior.
But I do recommend you take a look at the way you parent, instead of putting the blame solely on your three year old.

Jessica & Kaleb 1 child; 1 angel baby; Massachusetts 4840 posts
5th May '13
Quoting j0des(+2):" My 3 year old has issues..therefore, he doesn't go to restaraunts(except fast food). I would expect him ... [snip!] ... People should cut you some slack though, he is 3. If you were there a long time waiting on food, he was going to act out."

thank you, im glad someone understands.... we did have some stuff with us (hence the toy under the table) and this was his first time in a restaurant in a year, a new environment to him which is exciting and he was hyper from it but its also going to be the last for a while

Hy'ska 2 kids; Washington 50677 posts
5th May '13

This post really annoys me. Coming from a parent of a speech and cognitively delayed 3 year old who has celiacs I get how it is and you're making excuses. Look up different parenting styles, work on signing with him. There are so many things you can do to improve your parenting techniques.

misanthrope 2 kids; Ramona, California 15430 posts
5th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jessica & Kaleb:</b>" i did... i dnt understand why no one is listening to me saying that, he stood on his chair once and ... [snip!] ... chair to stand there with someone else... it wasnt a restaurant where that really mattered especially cuz no one was near us"</blockquote>




I see where you are coming from but you should have removed him from the situation when he got antsy. With my daughter I take her outside to spot birds, or I give her my phone to play with (a very rare treat). If those things don't work we leave and I finish my food at home.

Jessica & Kaleb 1 child; 1 angel baby; Massachusetts 4840 posts
5th May '13
Quoting The Original Mayhem.:" Anyway OP, best of luck with your kid and his behavior. But I do recommend you take a look at the way you parent, instead of putting the blame solely on your three year old. "


please do not attack my parenting! That is very rude considering you do not know my child or how i handle it... we have been to doctors and the state and i take him everyone to get some help! I do everything they tell me and until u have a child with behavior issues that you cant control u have no right to tell me im not doing my job.... u have no idea how hard i work on him and the things i do.... disagree with this situation but do not attack my parenting

Kimmy Gibbler 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8039 posts
5th May '13

I dunno. I'm just under the general impression that if many people tell you something, but you still disagree with them, the majority is probably right. If 3 people in the same restaurant were disturbed by your son's behavior, than you probably should have removed him from the situation.

Jessica & Kaleb 1 child; 1 angel baby; Massachusetts 4840 posts
5th May '13
Quoting Brink:" This post really annoys me. Coming from a parent of a speech and cognitively delayed 3 year old who has ... [snip!] ... different parenting styles, work on signing with him. There are so many things you can do to improve your parenting techniques."


yes and i have done them all, hes been working with the state and doctors and im in multiple parenting group to learn strategies for him and we finally found something that works but dnt say im not trying

3 little monsters 3 kids; Olathe, Colorado 50990 posts
5th May '13

Those kinds of comments are completely unprofessional and you should have spoken to a manager. That said my son is 5, extremely delayed and there is no way in HELL I would allow that type of behavior in public, I didn't allow it at 3 and I certainly don't allow it at 5. I would have left far earlier because obviously he wasn't in the mood to sit still for a nice breakfast. It's not fair to ruin a nice breakfast for others because you wanted gluten free pancakes. Sometimes kids act up, it's natural but as a parent you need to address the behavior and remove him from the situation. You don't make excuses and just let it continue to happen.

Jessica & Kaleb 1 child; 1 angel baby; Massachusetts 4840 posts
5th May '13
Quoting 3 little monsters:" Those kinds of comments are completely unprofessional and you should have spoken to a manager. That said ... [snip!] ... you need to address the behavior and remove him from the situation. You don't make excuses and just let it continue to happen. "


the whole point of this post is that he wasnt acting up, until the end when we left as soon as he was.... its that this family place didnt like children at all.... and only 2 people made comments and the first guy made one b4 my son did anything at all so idk wat his problem was

tonys_mama(army wife) 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Fort Irwin, California 15522 posts
5th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jessica & Kaleb:</b>" the whole point of this post is that he wasnt acting up, until the end when we left as soon as he was.... ... [snip!] ... at all.... and only 2 people made comments and the first guy made one b4 my son did anything at all so idk wat his problem was"</blockquote>




That many people wouldn't have complained had he not been doing anything. If someone else's is paying so much attention to your kid to notice him going under the table he must have done something to cause them to be paying that much attention to him.

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
5th May '13
Quoting Jessica & Kaleb:" please do not attack my parenting! That is very rude considering you do not know my child or how i handle ... [snip!] ... u have no idea how hard i work on him and the things i do.... disagree with this situation but do not attack my parenting"


I do have a child with behavioral issues. But thanks :wink:



And I based my opinions off of how you said you handled things while you were out. And you handled things poorly. Sorry you don't want to hear it.

Jessica & Kaleb 1 child; 1 angel baby; Massachusetts 4840 posts
5th May '13
Quoting ღFrodoliciousღ:" :!::!: Exactly. He had to be doing SOMETHING to get noticed that much. "


he was behaved for the entire time until the end, and it that is when this happened and we were getting rdy to leave but the waitress took another 15min to give us our check so it was about that long as soon is it got to the point he was being disruptive we went outside....



maybe people should be reading all my comments