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Captain Mommy TTC since Mar 2012; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Oklahoma 15510 posts
May 5th '13
Quoting Squeaky McGee [27 wks]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting smartass.:</b>" If it doesn't bother you I'd just let it go."</blockquote> It does bother me. Did you miss that in the OP?"


Oops I misread it.
Then I would definitely ask him about it without attacking him.
Maybe offer help to get him started on quitting?

bye felicia 6 kids; china, ny, United States 2522 posts
May 5th '13

i went through this exact issue with dh.. he said hed quit, but lied about. i asked him so many times to stop, after constantly fightin about it, i said f**k it its ur life.. still drives me crazy though

user banned 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 75866 posts
May 5th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama♡MoriYah :]:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee [27 wks]:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... Is he smoking around Lo? Does she ever see him smoking? That is of your concern aswell as his health and why he's lying."</blockquote>



No, he does it at work (Rob said he bums cigarettes from him) or after I go to bed.

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49366 posts
May 5th '13

Jason lied to me about it for like 8 months even when given many chances to be honest. I got sick of it finally and went out and got them out of his backpack for work and threw them at him at 1am and commenced yelling at him. Took a LONG TIME to trust him with anything again.

~a girl and a boy~ 2 kids; ,, IA, United States 59860 posts
May 5th '13

Of course it your concern! It's your husband! I would bring it up to him and talk with him about it. Maybe he's ashamed?

user banned 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 75866 posts
May 5th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" Jason lied to me about it for like 8 months even when given many chances to be honest. I got sick of ... [snip!] ... backpack for work and threw them at him at 1am and commenced yelling at him. Took a LONG TIME to trust him with anything again."</blockquote>




He hides them in his truck. I don't even like to look at them. I don't know why it bothers me so much. Maybe because I take care of people with COPD all the time and don't want my daughters to watch their dad struggle for breath due to a nasty habit.

Mom[Oh] 2 kids; Fort Wayne, IN, United States 713 posts
May 5th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee [27 wks]:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama♡MoriYah :]:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... and why he's lying."</blockquote> No, he does it at work (Rob said he bums cigarettes from him) or after I go to bed."</blockquote>




Yeah dave has told me before that robs told him that Ty smokes everyday....but u didn't hear it from me.lol

user banned 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 75866 posts
May 5th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama♡MoriYah :]:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee [27 wks]:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... Yeah dave has told me before that robs told him that Ty smokes everyday....but u didn't hear it from me.lol"</blockquote>




Nope, I didn't, lol. I heard it from Rob. That isn't a lie.

Thorian's Mommy 1 child; Westbrook, ME, United States 8454 posts
May 5th '13
Quoting Squeaky McGee [27 wks]:" My DH has always lied about his smoking. I know he does it. I can smell it on him. I'm not stupid. The ... [snip!] ... the need to lie about it. I don't ever say anything to him. I just let it go. Would you say something or continue to let it go?"


I know SO smokes but he does it inside when im gone. He denies it but Im not stupid, i can smell it. :(

Mom[Oh] 2 kids; Fort Wayne, IN, United States 713 posts
May 5th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee [27 wks]:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama♡MoriYah :]:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... everyday....but u didn't hear it from me.lol"</blockquote> Nope, I didn't, lol. I heard it from Rob. That isn't a lie."</blockquote>




Lol okay



I would try to talk calmly about it and just talk about why he's lying about what he's doing and not give your opinion...considering he already knows how u feel about smoking.

castaway 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 20306 posts
May 5th '13

I went through this with my ex husband. I chose to confront him. I told him that I was worried about his health and it hurt deeply knowing he was lying to me. I told him, if he lied to me about this, it really concerned me that there may be other things he wasn't telling me.



I think it's best to speak from the heart, calmly and in earnest. If it bothers you it IS a REAL PROBLEM. There is no sliding scale in marriage if youare a rational person, if something troubles you, you should share it. Maybe you'll decide to let him have his vice, or maybe he'll decide it's not worth it. But it has to come out. I would try and keep it as casual as possible so he doesn't feel attacked.




good luck.

user banned 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 75866 posts
May 5th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama♡MoriYah :]:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee [27 wks]:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... about why he's lying about what he's doing and not give your opinion...considering he already knows how u feel about smoking."</blockquote>




I'll probably bring it up after his final exams. I don't want to add to his stress. I'm probably part of the reason he smokes to begin with. :-/

user banned 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 75866 posts
May 5th '13

I won't even get started on his drinking. He gets drunk every night. It must be miserable living with me. :(

Mrs.C+4.5 5 kids; 1 angel baby; Duncan, OK, United States 17603 posts
May 5th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee [27 wks]:</b>" I won't even get started on his drinking. He gets drunk every night. It must be miserable living with me. :("</blockquote>




:( don't blam yourself for his wrong doings Hun. You said he has final exams soon, maybe he is just extremely stress about them?

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49366 posts
May 5th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee [27 wks]:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" Jason lied to me about it for ... [snip!] ... care of people with COPD all the time and don't want my daughters to watch their dad struggle for breath due to a nasty habit."</blockquote>



I hate the smoking, but I hated the lying more.