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tonys_mama(army wife) 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Fort Irwin, California 15526 posts
5th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee [27 wks]:</b>" I won't even get started on his drinking. He gets drunk every night. It must be miserable living with me. :("</blockquote>




:( don't blam yourself for his wrong doings Hun. You said he has final exams soon, maybe he is just extremely stress about them?

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49254 posts
5th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee [27 wks]:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" Jason lied to me about it for ... [snip!] ... care of people with COPD all the time and don't want my daughters to watch their dad struggle for breath due to a nasty habit."</blockquote>



I hate the smoking, but I hated the lying more.

lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
5th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee [27 wks]:</b>" I won't even get started on his drinking. He gets drunk every night. It must be miserable living with me. :("</blockquote>




:( does he just have an addictive personality? Like if its not those will he just move on to something else?

Squeaky McGee 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 65151 posts
5th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee [27 wks]:</b>" I won't even get started on his ... [snip!] ... don't blam yourself for his wrong doings Hun. You said he has final exams soon, maybe he is just extremely stress about them?"</blockquote>



This has been going on our entire relationship, not just during finals week.

castaway 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 18806 posts
status 5th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee [27 wks]:</b>" I won't even get started on his drinking. He gets drunk every night. It must be miserable living with me. :("</blockquote>




Aww, don't take it that way. It is probably just how he copes with stress. :(

Squeaky McGee 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 65151 posts
5th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee [27 wks]:</b>" I won't even get started on his ... [snip!] ... :( does he just have an addictive personality? Like if its not those will he just move on to something else?"</blockquote>



I think he does. He acknowledges that he's a functional alcoholic. He just doesn't really care about his health.

Sweet Little Lies TTC since Dec 2013; 2 kids; Deception, WI, United States 3594 posts
5th May '13
Quoting Squeaky McGee [27 wks]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky ... [snip!] ... I think he does. He acknowledges that he's a functional alcoholic. He just doesn't really care about his health."

Do you think he doesn't care about his health or that his addiction is clouding his judgement?

Squeaky McGee 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 65151 posts
5th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sweet Little Lies:</b>" Do you think he doesn't care about his health or that his addiction is clouding his judgement?"</blockquote>



I don't know. He has just told me that he doesn't care about his health and thinks he'll be dead by 40.

Sweet Little Lies TTC since Dec 2013; 2 kids; Deception, WI, United States 3594 posts
5th May '13
Quoting Squeaky McGee [27 wks]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sweet Little Lies:</b>" Do you think he doesn't care about his ... [snip!] ... I don't know. He has just told me that he doesn't care about his health and thinks he'll be dead by 40."

I'm just really sorry you are having to deal with all of this. My husband is an alcoholic as well and I know how hard it is. I wish you all the best.

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
5th May '13

On the original topic I'd say talk to him about it. He's probably lying because he knows it'll upset you but that doesn't make it ok.



From reading the later posts I'd say he is depressed. Especially since he doesn't care about his health. I'm sorry you and him are having a hard time. Good luck OP

Two Princesses 2 kids; Long Beach, CA, United States 7199 posts
5th May '13
Quoting Loka Lokita:" I would tell him that it hurts me that he feels he needs to be dishonest, but I would let the smoking go as long as it is not when I can see it and it's outside only. "


I agree with this.
My alcoholic ex used to lie about drinking. but I could always smell it on him whenever he did it. and the fact that he was lying to my face made me really angry.

Mom[Oh] 2 kids; Fort Wayne, IN, United States 615 posts
5th May '13

Stef don't blam yourself. He obviously has problems of his own.
We'll be praying for Ty. That he takes his life,family and responsibilities more seriously. Love you.

Boob Juice Factory. [EBFB 3 kids; Melbourne, Australia 3264 posts
5th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee [27 wks]:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting b**b Juice Factory. [EBFB:</b>" Someone else's smoking habits ... [snip!] ... it. Would it start an argument if you asked him?"</blockquote> He's my husband. His health is very much my concern."</blockquote>




I probably shouldn't have used the word concern, but he's a grown man... He obviously knows smoking is bad.

Squeaky McGee 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 65151 posts
5th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting b**b Juice Factory. [EBFB:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee [27 wks]:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... I probably shouldn't have used the word concern, but he's a grown man... He obviously knows smoking is



Thanks for clearing that up. I didn't think he knew.

Squeaky McGee 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 65151 posts
5th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama♡MoriYah :]:</b>" Stef don't blam yourself. He obviously has problems of his own. We'll be praying for Ty. That he takes his life,family and responsibilities more seriously. Love you."</blockquote>



Thanks. Love you, too.