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When do you "let it go" Pinkman 1 child; Melbourne, VC, Australia 5906 posts
5th May '13

When do you know to let go of an argument with your SO or keep it going?



I always struggle with it. I'm usually more of a let it go type of girl. I'm really easy going and try not to let anything bother me but there are other times when I know I'm harping on something I shouldn't.

Elle&Cole 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Rio Rancho, NM, United States 24990 posts
status 5th May '13

After he buys me something to apologize :) LOL...and by "buys me something" I mean lets me order take out every night for like a week without giving me the stank eye

mama2manyyy 33 kids; South Carolina 1823 posts
5th May '13

DH refuses to fight with me, its pretty irritating sometimes when he pisses me off. I just let things go immediately since its not even worth getting mad over with him.

JΔ$ Georgia 77608 posts
5th May '13

When you're just going around in circles. Pick your battles. Not everything is worth an argument in the first place.

Donna Jo Tanner 1 child; Beach Haven, New Jersey 6440 posts
5th May '13

Well it really depends on the argument. If its something regarding DS not until we actually reach a middle ground (or he admits he's wrong ;p). But if its just an argument about something I will state my facts and if he doesn't see it the same we drop it.

❀Sarah❀ 2 kids; Cocking, EU, Europe 124253 posts
5th May '13

When I figure out if I'm really hurt or there was a significant betrayal or wrong doing or if its my pride keeping me from apologizing or accepting an apology.

Emily Dickinson 18 kids; Indiana 57849 posts
5th May '13

If its something that is still going to bother me in a month or two, I will argue about it and get it resolved.



If it isn't, I let it go.

Donna Jo Tanner 1 child; Beach Haven, New Jersey 6440 posts
5th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Emily Dickinson:</b>" If its something that is still going to bother me in a month or two, I will argue about it and get it resolved. If it isn't, I let it go."</blockquote>




This is a great way of putting it. If its not something you can just get over the. Don't push it aside.

Mrs. Conan O'Brien 2 kids; Colorado 20924 posts
5th May '13

Unless it's important to me I let it go. I don't have the time or energy to argue over some BS lol

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
5th May '13

I pick my battles in the first place. So it would depend on what the argument would be about.

Mummy-2-2-Monsters Due July 11; 2 kids; Seven Hills, Australia 10461 posts
5th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Elliot Grace's Mama:</b>" After he buys me something to apologize :) LOL...and by "buys me something" I mean lets me order take out every night for like a week without giving me the stank eye"</blockquote>



Flowers :)
Without me asking for them. If he buys me flowers. Because he thinks its a waste of money and doesn't usually buy me flowers, so when he does it means a lot. Ands its usually a "sorry" bunch.

Munchkin Maker 2 kids; Maryland 733 posts
5th May '13

lol, I'm a grudge holder. It's an awful thing, seriously.
When SO and I FIRST got together, a girl messaged him on FB saying how her boyfriend just broke up with her and she needed her "best buddy" to make it better. Mind you they NEVER talk, and he DID go on a date with her a year prior.
That's not what necessarily bugs me, the fact that he put that message in a hidden folder and neglected to mention that he even received the message is what bugs me. Of course it was the typical "I didn't want to upset you or make you feel threatened". I don't give a damn, don't keep shit from me!! I BLEW UP about it. Went on and on and held my grudge for a good 2 weeks. He hasn't done it since. lol.
He's the opposite with me though, he knows I'm hormonal and pregnant. So if I do something that aggravates him, he'll walk out on the porch for a minute, come inside, and ask "You done now??". Every time.

Nae&Zoe's Mommy 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Red Deer, Alberta 666 posts
6th May '13
Quoting ♥ pinkman:" When do you know to let go of an argument with your SO or keep it going? I always struggle with it. ... [snip!] ... easy going and try not to let anything bother me but there are other times when I know I'm harping on something I shouldn't."

I think you need to step away from the arugment and just honestly think if its worth fighting about. For me and my husband we start to bicker about honestly the STUPIDEST things... After we calm down, we are like really did we just bicker about that.. Its hard for me cause Im a very emotional person, and I will say things very bluntly.. Ive def had to learn to think about what I say, how I say it and if its worth fighting about.

W.W. 3 kids; Arkansas 7890 posts
6th May '13

I'm still working on it, but I've been picking my battles a lot more and he's changed recently and wants to avoid us arguing almost as much as I do. Usually I just talk and try to put things into perspective for him when he simply isn't seeing it from both sides, whatever it may be. Things usually get resolved much faster that way and he learns from it...sometimes. Sometimes it's a cycle and that's when I get irritated and get more mad about things and ask why the hell he hasn't figured it out yet, especially when I spell it out for him. All of this is based on when I'm in the right, if I'm in the wrong I apologize and nothing goes any further, he is more silent than I am usually.

Eli&Elliot's Mommy! 2 kids; Brooklyn, New York 2109 posts
6th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ pinkman:</b>" When do you know to let go of an argument with your SO or keep it going? I always struggle with it. ... [snip!] ... easy going and try not to let anything bother me but there are other times when I know I'm harping on something I shouldn't."</blockquote>




My DH usually just let's me win. He just stops talking so I obviously keep going but stop when I'm literally still arguing by myself for like 5 minutes.