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I am so confused about this guy. Port Amoral Due March 7; 65 kids; Toronto, Ontario 86 posts
6th May '13

So, I've been friends with this guy for about a year and a half now. We talk everyday, it's very rare that we go 1 full day without talking to each other, even if it's just a hello. But something confuses me on what his motives are.



I talked to this guy the other night, I made a reply, and he didn't write back that night. Next morning, I change my facebook status to in a relationship because I just got into one finally, and he messages me and says "Hope your having a great day, congrats on the boy, lol, explains why you are not talking to me much anymore again lol"


But, we talk everyday! lol. How is that not much anymore, when he didn't continue our conversation. Im not going to start up another conversation when he didn't reply to the first reply.



Then 10 minutes after he sent that message, he sends this one
I'm not trying to fight with you or anything, but you're doing to me the exact thing someone did to you that you did to me a little while back. I would be dumb to let it continue anymore... This is my goodbye for real, good luck in Essen this year, don't worry I won't go to their games and bother you. Stay adorable. luv ya always



So whats his problem? I didn't do anything, we talk everyday, so how am I ignoring him. Is he just controlling and insecure? Should I apologize for whatever I did, that I dont know that I did?

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
6th May '13

Does he think that the relationship you had was going somewhere you didn't think it was? Maybe he thought it was leading to more and now that you're with someone he feels hurt and used.

What's wrong, flat face? TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; 3 angel babies; Texas 13678 posts
6th May '13

Lol. Sounds like he liked you and totally thought you liked him.

Juggernog-aholic 4 kids; 2 angel babies; P, AR, United States 20227 posts
6th May '13
Quoting Finding Beauty:" Lol. Sounds like he liked you and totally thought you liked him."


:!:

J+B=Z&L ♡ 2 kids; Pensacola, Florida 5878 posts
6th May '13

sounds like he's into you and thought things were going somewhere...and now you're in a relationship with someone else.



ETA: Don't apologize you didn't do anything wrong. He should have spoken up.

user banned 21 kids; North Dakota 3800 posts
6th May '13

Leave it. He sounds manipulative, immature, and maybe even a frequent flyer on the crazy airplane with his "this is my goodbye for real" text.

Mrs.Mud 6 kids; 2 angel babies; North Dakota 3314 posts
6th May '13

Dude is completely into you and butt-hurt that you are seeing someone else. Guess he should have spoken up and made his intentions more clear! Shortly after my now-husband and I got together, this girl that he was friends with messaged him on fb something like "why can't I ever catch you single?!" He didn't realize that she had feelings for him, even though I told him she did!

Alisha Murphy-Brancheau 1 child; Michigan 26 posts
6th May '13

Just from what i got from that conversation with the guy is that he likes you but is trying to tell you in other ways and to answer your questions don't apologize for something that you didn't do or didn't know you did. Some guys have different ways of trying tell you that they like you and that's what i see in this conversation. You may have ticked him off when you changed your status on Facebook to being in a relationship and therefore he is telling you that he don't want to talk to you anymore because he don't want to cause problems between you and the guy your in a relationship with now.

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
6th May '13
Quoting Finding Beauty:" Lol. Sounds like he liked you and totally thought you liked him."


:!::!:




He thought that yall talking everyday meant more than just being friends..

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
6th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Crystal Marie S.:</b>" Does he think that the relationship you had was going somewhere you didn't think it was? Maybe he thought it was leading to more and now that you're with someone he feels hurt and used."</blockquote>



This. I guess I'd get together in person and lay all this on the table. Tell him your true feelings and what you thought he felt and let him do the same. I mean shoot if he's ready to not talk to you forever might as well clear the air and see what happens.

*B & D Mommy* Due January 19; 2 kids; Illinois 16210 posts
6th May '13

Yeah it seems he really liked you and thought that maybe he had a chance..until you got with someone else. So he tried to act happy for you and then decided that it is best to stay away?

C'sMom! 1 child; Minnesota 1263 posts
6th May '13

I am completely clueless at picking up on cues from guys and I have had something similar happen to me. They have to be pretty direct with me or I would think like you. I don't think you did anything wrong here. If he was truly interested in you, he should have been direct. Relationships are about communication and he it seems as though he thought you should be able to read his mind.

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
6th May '13

He probably feels like you were leading him on... I don't talk to anyone everyday (except for the people in my household), he probably thought you were into him and wants to end the friendship because it hurt him.

Port Amoral Due March 7; 65 kids; Toronto, Ontario 86 posts
7th May '13

I never once asked him out or gave him the idea that I liked him physically or mentally. Was I in the wrong for talking to him everyday? I mean if I dont talk to him everyday, he gets so upset and says you are ignoring me on purpose.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
7th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Port Amoral:</b>" I never once asked him out or gave him the idea that I liked him physically or mentally. Was I in the ... [snip!] ... for talking to him everyday? I mean if I dont talk to him everyday, he gets so upset and says you are ignoring me on purpose."</blockquote>




Do u like him like that? If not just message him back and say u love being friends with him and you're hurt he'd make your friendship circumstantial.