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recovery Liv's Mom :: Angie 1 child; 4 angel babies; Catasauqua, Pennsylvania 394 posts
6th May '13

So I had my baby 3 weeks ago vaginally and she is my first baby that I had delivered. I ended up getting stitches which they mentioned would eventually dissolve. My SO and I are going crazy ready to jump out of our skin cause we can't wait to make love. We are so blessed to finally have a baby girl in our lives we are just so overjoyed. So my question for you ladies is how long did it take you to recover ''down there'' how can you know if the stitches are completely dissolved? And was it enjoyable for your SO to have sex with you being that you're much more stretched out down there or doesn't it really make a difference. I know the recommended time is 6 weeks and I am not that sore anymore, but still I couldn't prob do it cause it would hurt too much.

The Pretender 2 kids; Brazil 1232 posts
6th May '13

Wait 6 weeks. You're feeling ok on the outside maybe but your insides (uterus) are still healing and likely still pretty raw. Uterine infections aren't a good time. Wait

Faye's Mama 1 child; Springfield, MO, United States 4569 posts
6th May '13
Quoting Liv's Mom :: Angie:" So I had my baby 3 weeks ago vaginally and she is my first baby that I had delivered. I ended up getting ... [snip!] ... the recommended time is 6 weeks and I am not that sore anymore, but still I couldn't prob do it cause it would hurt too much."


Wait until you get the clear from your doctor. Risking an infection isn't worth it.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44071 posts
6th May '13

I was tighter after my vag delivery :? It felt like I was a Virginia when I had sex. I was 5 weeks pp. make sure you're not bleeding. And if you can wait a little longer do so cause your body needs to heal. SO didnt say anything about feeling stitches down there :? I wanted to have sex before my appt cause I something "ripped" I wanted them to see it haha. But then that was a bad idea cause I got mirena and they wouldn't put it in cause I had sex :( so I had to wait 2 more weeks for sex. And we went on vacation and were dying!!!

Adriana's Mami♥ +1 Due December 14 (boy); 33 kids; Ontario 3858 posts
6th May '13

We ended up waiting 9 weeks I was WAY too sore.

Dexterr Due February 6; 1 child; United Kingdom 130 posts
6th May '13

I had stitches down there after an episiotomy, we had sex three weeks to the day after I had my baby. It was really painful so we didn't do it again until about five weeks after and it was uncomfortable. It's now been ten weeks and everything is pretty much just getting back to normal down there.

Mandi 18 kids; New Mexico 16517 posts
6th May '13

You should wait until your doctor gives you the go-ahead. That's normally 6 weeks. You risk infection prior to that, as you're still healing, and not all of your birth injuries are necessarily on the outside. Ensuring your cervix is fully closed and your uterus is back to its normal size is part of that 6 week recovery, also. And sex wasn't much different post-baby for my husband and I. It hurt the first few times, for me, after my first. But once that subsided, everything was fine. It's not "stretched out." If anything, I was still swollen from tearing.

Blythe. 1 child; Indiana 22379 posts
6th May '13

I waited 4 weeks

Mutha. TTC since Jan 1995; 3830 posts
6th May '13

I didn't get stitches or anything, but I bled for 9 weeks straight! When we finally decided to have sex it hurt! We didn't do it again for a while. I never really had any pain after having my daughter, my vagina felt fine. lol & having sex still hurt 9 weeks later. I would definetly wait the 6 weeks!!

Liv's Mom :: Angie 1 child; 4 angel babies; Catasauqua, Pennsylvania 394 posts
8th May '13

Thanks everyone. She's a month old on the 10th and I'm still feeling like there is a lot to heal still.. I can't wait to do it again, but her Dad is already making a dumb decision and not using a condom on a drunk night we had already. I haven't even had my appointment yet to get on BC! lol

Adriana's Mami♥ +1 Due December 14 (boy); 33 kids; Ontario 3858 posts
8th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Liv's Mom :: Angie:</b>" Thanks everyone. She's a month old on the 10th and I'm still feeling like there is a lot to heal still.. ... [snip!] ... a dumb decision and not using a condom on a drunk night we had already. I haven't even had my appointment yet to get on BC! lol"</blockquote>



Wow you had unprotected sex less than a month after having her? You're like superrrrrr fertile right now lol. Get bc ASAP.