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Breastfeeding help... user banned
6th May '13

I'll try to make this as short as possible. I've attempted (and failed) to breastfeed every one of my kids, opting instead to pump exclusively...but it's SUCH a pain in the ass. I've decided this time to give one more go-around at trying to actually breast feed and if it doesn't work, change to formula. So here are the things I *think* are going wrong.



1) I have huge b**bs and they're saggy. "Pendulous"n I believe is what they called them. My nipples point at the ground. Yuck, I know...I always feel like I had to hunch over and hold my b**b up for the baby to drink and it gets horribly uncomfortable. I've tried boppys.



2) I have big nipples and usually when the baby got done nursing they would look slanted like lipstick tubes, which I heard was bad. Lactation specialist said I needed them to get more of my breast in their mouths. Well, that's not possible...my n****e is the size of their newborn mouths.



3) I never knew when they were full. My daughter would nurse for 45 min to an hr, fall asleep, and wake up 15 min later screaming and hungry.



Is it hopeless? Any help would be appreciated, ladies. I've tried lactation consultants. One even came out to my house and gave me those breast shield things so the baby could latch better but that was hopeless too.

~Deer Eyes~ Due June 12; 4 kids; Norfolk, VA, United States 1892 posts
6th May '13

I say keep trying. For the first couple of weeks my son would nurse until he fell asleep then wake up hungry eat and fall asleep again. I understand it is hard, but if it is what you really want it is worth it. Sit up as straight as possible get as much of your n****e in baby's mouth as possible and just do it as much as baby wants.

Andi+Andy=Marley+1 2 kids; Fredericksburg, Virginia 4564 posts
6th May '13

Try laying down to feed the baby or keep a fluffy pillow on the couch, put it next to you legs and lean to the side and position your breast. That way you won't have to hold yourself.



Some babies cluster feed or if they fall asleep they are s*****g just to suck and not for milk so they don't get much if any. My son was nursing ever 15 to 30 minutes until he was 2.5 months old. It was very hard on me but after that stage it got easy. Just keep trying. It takes some time to get use to and find ways that will work for you

user banned 21 kids; North Dakota 3800 posts
6th May '13

What about latching? Is the slanted n****e thing I describe really that big of a deal?

~Deer Eyes~ Due June 12; 4 kids; Norfolk, VA, United States 1892 posts
6th May '13
Quoting *Mayhem*:" What about latching? Is the slanted n****e thing I describe really that big of a deal?"


I don't believe it should be.

Ivana, VBA2C success! 3 kids; Aurora, Colorado 6834 posts
31st May '13
Quoting *Mayhem*:" What about latching? Is the slanted n****e thing I describe really that big of a deal?"

it might be, if they are just n****e nursing they won't get good milk transfer. May I ask why the n****e shields didn't work? They do have different sizes.

user banned 21 kids; North Dakota 3800 posts
31st May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ivana, expecting #3!:</b>" it might be, if they are just n****e nursing they won't get good milk transfer. May I ask why the n****e shields didn't work? They do have different sizes. "</blockquote>



Tried all the different sizes, even ordered from Target. Just ended up with a few drops in them...milk just wouldn't come out but it wasn't a supply issue. I pumped so much I donated to a milk bank.

raptor mommy saves 1 child; Berlin, Germany 811 posts
1st Jun '13

Speaking as a big boobed, big n****e person myself... I just hold my b**b up. It's uncomfortable and I could never do "hands free nursing", but whatever it works.
HOWEVER What I did was wear a top with a square neckline, and kind just popped my b**b out on top, but only enough to get the n****e out. That way the n****e and b**b were kinda... propped up and I didn't have to hold my b**b the whole time. It's probably a b***h for clogged ducts.
As for the big n****e issue, my lactation consultant just said that if it didn't hurt me, and there was enough milk coming out, no worries.



Edit: DS was basically stuck to the b**b the first 4 months. He grew like a champ so I knew he was getting enough.
He's 7 months now and still BF.

user banned 21 kids; North Dakota 3800 posts
2nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting raptor mommy saves:</b>" Speaking as a big boobed, big n****e person myself... I just hold my b**b up. It's uncomfortable and ... [snip!] ... stuck to the b**b the first 4 months. He grew like a champ so I knew he was getting enough. He's 7 months now and still BF."</blockquote>




Thank you! How long do you let them nurse on each side. Like, do you let them nurse from both sides at a feeding or? The lactation consultant said "whatever you're comfortable with" but I never really knew what to do. Also my daughter wwould nurse until she fell asleep and I'd set her down...10 min later she wanted to eat agin.

raptor mommy saves 1 child; Berlin, Germany 811 posts
2nd Jun '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Mayhem*:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting raptor mommy saves:</b>" Speaking as a big boobed, big n****e ... [snip!] ... what to do. Also my daughter wwould nurse until she fell asleep and I'd set her down...10 min later she wanted to eat agin."</blockquote>




I had/have over supply with a fore/hind milk imbalance. So DS was getting tons of watery foremilk and not filling up, that's why he was stuck to the b**b for months. My lactation consultant told me to do block feeding, where you offer the same b**b for 2/3/4 hours so the other one slowly stops producing so much, then switch b**bs for the next block of hours. Took a while, but it worked. If DS was still hungry after 10 mins I just put him back on the b**b he was last drinking from, so he'd get the fatty hind milk.
He used to fall asleep too and forget to drink, plus it takes more work to get the fatty milk out, lazy bum lol.
Hope it helps!

Ivana, VBA2C success! 3 kids; Aurora, Colorado 6834 posts
3rd Jun '13
Quoting raptor mommy saves:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *Mayhem*:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting raptor mommy ... [snip!] ... He used to fall asleep too and forget to drink, plus it takes more work to get the fatty milk out, lazy bum lol. Hope it helps!"


this! Yeah I also had oversupply and my son ended up with those foamy green poops, and I was always feeling full! So I also did block feeding. I did TWO feeds per breast before switching and that ended the green poops and really helped regulate my supply and slowed down the overactive letdown.