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Gotta catch'em all Brock Obama 1 child; Spain 6372 posts
6th May '13

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I♥RYLEIGH 49 kids; Windsor, Ontario 10431 posts
6th May '13

I wish I knew how you are handling this so well. SO and I are on the verge of breaking up and I am losing my damn mind trying to figure out how I am going to be a single mother when DD is only a month old

Akeema 18 kids; Altus AFB (AFB), Oklahoma 5979 posts
6th May '13

He's not in another country and that makes it so she can't see him offten. . . huh?




As far as explaining it to her, tell her mommy and daddy can't live together any more, but that her father still loves her very much. Just make sure she understands it's not her fault and that her father still loves her.

Akeema 18 kids; Altus AFB (AFB), Oklahoma 5979 posts
6th May '13
Quoting I♥RYLEIGH:" I wish I knew how you are handling this so well. SO and I are on the verge of breaking up and I am losing ... [snip!] ... breaking up and I am losing my damn mind trying to figure out how I am going to be a single mother when DD is only a month old "


Honestly once you get the rhythm down it's not as hard as people make it out to be. Not saying it isn't hard but it really was easier when I was the only parent at times, a lot less drama to be sure.

Brock Obama 1 child; Spain 6372 posts
6th May '13
I♥RYLEIGH 49 kids; Windsor, Ontario 10431 posts
6th May '13
Quoting Akeema:" Honestly once you get the rhythm down it's not as hard as people make it out to be. Not saying it isn't hard but it really was easier when I was the only parent at times, a lot less drama to be sure."


all it is is drama with him and his family. i'm sitting here sick to my stomach because his sister has sent sooo many harassing texts tonight. i'm scared to death. he doesn't do much tho anyways and i hate to admit it but i'm a control freak lol

Brock Obama 1 child; Spain 6372 posts
6th May '13
Quoting Akeema:" Honestly once you get the rhythm down it's not as hard as people make it out to be. Not saying it isn't hard but it really was easier when I was the only parent at times, a lot less drama to be sure."


Indeed. I agree to this. It also depends on how your relationship currently is. I hated getting home everyday when we were together. I had anxiety attacks, I was upset most of the time... certainly not a life that I miss.
I really, but really enjoy being by myself and the kid.

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18293 posts
6th May '13

Just tell her that sometimes mommies and daddies are better off being friends that don't live together and her daddy still loves her very much but he needs to spend some time away for work or whatever.

Brock Obama 1 child; Spain 6372 posts
6th May '13

Akeema 18 kids; Altus AFB (AFB), Oklahoma 5979 posts
6th May '13
Quoting I♥RYLEIGH:" all it is is drama with him and his family. i'm sitting here sick to my stomach because his sister has ... [snip!] ... harassing texts tonight. i'm scared to death. he doesn't do much tho anyways and i hate to admit it but i'm a control freak lol"


Well maybe you guys can work it out if you calm down on the control and he steps up and starts bitching out his sister. That's not right that you should feel that way.

Brock Obama 1 child; Spain 6372 posts
6th May '13
Quoting I♥RYLEIGH:" all it is is drama with him and his family. i'm sitting here sick to my stomach because his sister has ... [snip!] ... harassing texts tonight. i'm scared to death. he doesn't do much tho anyways and i hate to admit it but i'm a control freak lol"


I feel you. His family getting into our business was a mayor factor too.
He didn't want to cut the umbilical cord with his mother. She was having way too much say in our decisions. f**k THAT.
Now, I make all the choices and that feels good.

Akeema 18 kids; Altus AFB (AFB), Oklahoma 5979 posts
6th May '13
Quoting Brock Obama:" what? Didn't get that. But he decided to go back to where we are originally from. Totally his choice. ... [snip!] ... like ever. And we agreed that this country is the best place for our daughter to grow up. So here we are. The two of us. "


"What makes it harder is the fact that her dad is not in another country. So, she wont get to see him often- they skype but she doesn't quite like this."



That is what confused me. You said her dad is not in another country, it should be her dad is in another country. :P

Brock Obama 1 child; Spain 6372 posts
6th May '13
Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:" Just tell her that sometimes mommies and daddies are better off being friends that don't live together ... [snip!] ... that don't live together and her daddy still loves her very much but he needs to spend some time away for work or whatever."


Yes, I explain that to her in that sense more or less. I always let her know, though, that we love her very much and even though we are not under the same roof, we love her more each day.

Brock Obama 1 child; Spain 6372 posts
6th May '13
Quoting Akeema:" "What makes it harder is the fact that her dad is not in another country. So, she wont get to see him ... [snip!] ... this." That is what confused me. You said her dad is not in another country, it should be her dad is in another country. :P"


Ooops my bad... lol
he's away :$

Akeema 18 kids; Altus AFB (AFB), Oklahoma 5979 posts
6th May '13
Quoting Brock Obama:" Ooops my bad... lol he's away :$"


Lol it's okay I was just confused.