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The age of Legal Mandy Schlatterer Due March 27 (girl); 2 kids; New Port Richey, Florida 1437 posts
6th May '13

The law in America is 18 years old and you are legal to have sex with any age, be in a relationship with any age, etc...



We consider any man who is older who is attracted to or sexually interested in a girl under 18 a pervert. Over 18, it's okay. not a perversion, because it's legal.



But if you think about it, that age isn't a moral make or break on what is not perversion, it's just the law, they had to pick an age..



So let's say the law was 20 instead of 18. Would an older man sexually involved with a 19 year old girl be a pervert, because the law was different?



Or say it was 16. Would a 30 year old with a 17 year old suddenly be okay?



What is your opinion?
What really makes an attraction a perversion? A law?



*I don't have an opinion on this* it was inspired by someones facebook post

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44070 posts
6th May '13

I totally understand. Developmentally our brains aren't fully developed until 24-25. But we're expected to be "adults" at 18 just cause most people are done with HS then? Idk.

Christan_89 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8043 posts
6th May '13

I still find it super weird and slightly creepy/sleezy when much older men date 18 year olds. Or even girls wayy younger than them, regardless of their age.

♥Manda♥ Swan Valley, WA, Australia 29436 posts
6th May '13

I personally believe any age gap over 15yrs is perverted.



And any age having sex with anyone under 16 as they are still children before that age. (16 is the age of consent in Australia)

♀NoBoysAllowed 19 kids; San Diego, California 51862 posts
6th May '13

I think that the type of relationship a 30 year old is ready for is not the same as the type of relationship a 17 year old is ready for.
I also think that teens and young adults should know how to live on their own before being in an adult relationship. Pay bills, assume some personal responsibility, etc. If a 17 year old goes straight from relying on mommy and daddy to relying on sugar daddy/mommy, he/she will never figure out how to function on their own in the adult world.

Mandy Schlatterer Due March 27 (girl); 2 kids; New Port Richey, Florida 1437 posts
6th May '13
Quoting Manda♥Bella:" I personally believe any age gap over 15yrs is perverted. And any age having sex with anyone under 16 as they are still children before that age. (16 is the age of consent in Australia)"


Good example. Someone in Australia may not be a pervert in their relationship, say 17 and 23 for instance, move to America that year, and is suddenly a pervert..

kthx. Due January 13 (girl); Cleves, Ohio 66650 posts
7th May '13
Quoting Mandy Schlatterer:" Good example. Someone in Australia may not be a pervert in their relationship, say 17 and 23 for instance, move to America that year, and is suddenly a pervert.."


That's not really true. I think it's more so when girls/boys are under 16, that it becomes a problem. I haven't heard of many cases where a girl is 17, sleeping with someone who is 23, and then the man being arrested and becoming a sex offender. When you're that age.... it's just not a big deal. The older person usually is only convicted if the parents complain. I was 13 and an 18 year old took my virginity. THAT is perverted. At the time, I thought it was awesome. But thinking back now... Why the hell would someone that age want a girl who barely hit puberty?




I don't so much care if someone is 17-18 and dating someone who is 5-10 years older. I think it becomes weird when the person is 16, a sophomore in high school, and a grown person wants to sleep with them...

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27055 posts
7th May '13

I think it highly depends on the relationship. When I was in high school I was 17 and dated my friend Jake (we never had sex) and I believe he was 23 at the time. My parents LOVED him, still do. If we did have sex my parents would have trusted him.



But then again, I was dating a 17 year old when I was 15 and he was an ass.



It really depends on the relationship. I won't jump and call the cops if Lily was underage and had sex with someone that respected her as long as it's not like, a 30 year old. A 20 year old when she's 17? Honestly, no big deal. But if he disrespects her, then I will have issues.

Lucid Dreamer Florida 3829 posts
7th May '13

From what I know in some states the legal age of consent is 16

kthx. Due January 13 (girl); Cleves, Ohio 66650 posts
7th May '13
Quoting Lucid Dreamer:" From what I know in some states the legal age of consent is 16"


But there's a certain age limit. I think it's 5 years (like the person can be 5 years older than the 16 year old without getting in trouble).

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
7th May '13

I was 17 when DH and I met, he was 33. We never did anything because it was against the law, but there was a strong attraction between us, and a whole lot of sexual tension... of course I have always been extremely mature for my age. The day I turned 18 we hooked up, moved in together, now 5 years later we're happily married, and life couldn't be better :D

Lucid Dreamer Florida 3829 posts
8th May '13
Quoting kacti:" I was 17 when DH and I met, he was 33. We never did anything because it was against the law, but there ... [snip!] ... The day I turned 18 we hooked up, moved in together, now 5 years later we're happily married, and life couldn't be better :D"

I bet those sheets needed serious cleaning after the first time LOL

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
8th May '13
Quoting Lucid Dreamer:" I bet those sheets needed serious cleaning after the first time LOL"


Oh stop... you're making me blush! LOL... but yeah...

Lucid Dreamer Florida 3829 posts
8th May '13
Quoting kacti:" Oh stop... you're making me blush! LOL... but yeah..."

I am sorry but there was no way I could hold back on telling that joke. lol

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
8th May '13
Quoting Lucid Dreamer:" I am sorry but there was no way I could hold back on telling that joke. lol"


We have to clean the sheets pretty much EVERY time. LOL