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Were you 100% ready for #2? Karlee's Momma♥ TTC since Mar 2014; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Ohio 458 posts
7th May '13

Ive been going back & fourth with my husband about possibly trying for #2 he is all for it, but I find myself feeling guilty because I dont want my daughter to feel left out or not feeling like she is getting the attention she needs so Idk if this feeling will go away once I get pregnant or not so Im wondering if you felt 100% sure that you wanted another before you tried again? & since Im not feeling a 100% should I just wait until Im for sure I want another? OR is it normal not to always be 100%? I do want another because Im not getting any younger, but my daughter is my WORLD & I wouldnt want her to feel left out! Hopefully you ladies know what I mean...any advice?

Moses. Due October 27; 3 kids; Texas 16003 posts
7th May '13

I felt the same exact way. DH spent a year convincing me. When my second was born, my daughter walked into the room with the biggest smile and while holding him for the very first time she looked up at me with tears falling down her face and said "thank you mommy, I love him so much." Probably one of my best moments of parenthood ever.

Karlee's Momma♥ TTC since Mar 2014; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Ohio 458 posts
7th May '13
Quoting Moses.:" I felt the same exact way. DH spent a year convincing me. When my second was born, my daughter walked ... [snip!] ... tears falling down her face and said "thank you mommy, I love him so much." Probably one of my best moments of parenthood ever."


Awww thats sooo sweet thanks for sharing that with me, it made me feel a little better! I hope I would get a reaction like that if I decide for #2!

Vivian [♥] 2 kids; Balls Deep, in, Georgia 13908 posts
7th May '13

I was so conflicted. I know I wanted DD to have siblings. I feel like I missed out on that. I'll never be an aunt, never had that bond or anything.
But at the same time I was soooooo happy with it being just DD. Like it was her and I against the world. Never had to split my time up with her, ever.
But DH wanted more, and hopefully a son (which he got) so we went with it. Shocked me even more when we got pregnant on the first try, first month. I was thinking it would take a few months (idk why) and by then I'd be totally on board. I was still kinda sad, especially when I went into labor because DD wasn't going to be an only child anymore. But now that DS is here, it's all perfect. DD loves him soooo much and when he's older and can play with her, she will love him even more. I'm happy with our decision, even if I wasn't at first.

Young Native Mama 2 kids; 2 angel babies; San Jacinto, California 129 posts
7th May '13

I felt the exact same way when we decided to NTNP didn't want my lil girl to feel like she wasn't my baby anymore, she's 3 but she's such a mommy's and daddy's girl and now we're expecting her brother she says she loves him and kisses my belly but I can see in her eyes she seems sad cuz she always asks if she's still my baby, im hoping she will feel better once he's here...

L♥vey +2 Due October 2; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Nevada 2322 posts
7th May '13

I know the feeling as well. I am so glad we waited until my son was old enough to know what is going on. He is my world too and seeing his excitement in getting a brother or sister makes it so much worth the wait. I couldn't have done two babies or kids in diapers. We were due to have one this past Feb. when he turned 4 but miscarried so hoping this one is born a little after he is 4 and a half. I do wish they were going to be closer in age so they could be in school longer together, but I would have been sad not giving my son my attention when he was a toddler.

Karlee's Momma♥ TTC since Mar 2014; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Ohio 458 posts
7th May '13

Thank you ladies soo much for sharing your stories, it let me know that what Im feeling IS normal!!! I guess Im more scared of the change, but its something that can be adjusted when the time comes.... ;)

Munchkin Maker 2 kids; Maryland 733 posts
7th May '13
Quoting Moses.:" I felt the same exact way. DH spent a year convincing me. When my second was born, my daughter walked ... [snip!] ... tears falling down her face and said "thank you mommy, I love him so much." Probably one of my best moments of parenthood ever."


That is so amazing. (:

Rette Mich 1 child; Texas 27601 posts
7th May '13

Yep Im 100% sure about having a 2nd. We will start trying probably next April- May and hopefully be pregnant within a year making ours about 7 years apart.

Munchkin Maker 2 kids; Maryland 733 posts
7th May '13

Not at all.
This LO is a "condom oopsie".
But now that we've had time to get used to the idea, it works out fine. The girls will be 16 months apart. By the time they are both in school (5-6 years) I can pick/start my career, while still having my 5-6 years of being a stay at home Mom. I'll still get all of their firsts, but afterwards I get to be out in the business world (or whatever I choose to do). It works for them to be close in age, for us anyways.
Needless to say we will be using 2 forms of birth control this time around lol.
I've gotten way more used to the idea of two itty babies. I'm excited, actually. But I've already been warned that I will have days where I am pulling my hair out. (:

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49251 posts
7th May '13

Hell no! She's a condom mishap. But I won't tell her that lol

Mom2William&Michael 2 kids; 1 angel baby; New York 7600 posts
7th May '13

I had a really bad case of baby fever. DH was less certain but thought it was the best time to have another. So I was super ready...until I got pregnant. Then I started feeling uncertain. I wasn't sure if I could handle two, if I'd love them both equally, or if my oldest would get all the attention he should. I felt that way my entire pregnancy.
And when LO was born? Things were perfect. I loved him just as much as my first, I had no problem taking care of them both, and DS is just as loved as ever.

Munchkin Maker 2 kids; Maryland 733 posts
7th May '13
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" Hell no! She's a condom mishap. But I won't tell her that lol"


lol, Ours is too.
Those darned June babies. (:

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49251 posts
7th May '13
Quoting Munchkin Maker:" lol, Ours is too. Those darned June babies. (:"


I know -.- I only had 2 periods after having my son and the ONE night we had an oops I was freakin ovulating! I took an OPK after it happened, praying for a negative, nope, positive. I threw it down on the counter and said "Son of a b***h, I'm pregnant."

Munchkin Maker 2 kids; Maryland 733 posts
7th May '13
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" I know -.- I only had 2 periods after having my son and the ONE night we had an oops I was freakin ovulating! ... [snip!] ... it happened, praying for a negative, nope, positive. I threw it down on the counter and said "Son of a b***h, I'm pregnant.""


LMAO. Truthfully, we had never had an issue with the condoms before. So we never "checked" them afterward. My periods were so irregular and could be as much as 33 days apart after DD, so I hadn't even thought much of being "late" until I hit day 40 without a period. I tested and SURE ENOUGH.