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Terrified of a hospital birth... I♡C&R. 2 kids; Thornton, CO, United States 25120 posts
status 7th May '13

I had my first in the ONLY free standing birth center throughout all of Colorado, but we also had Cigna insurance at the time and they covered all but $1,070 of his birth in which we paid while I was pregnant in cash. Now, we're pregnant again and due in December. I have Kaiser insurance which only allows me to birth in two different hospitals covered by insurance. It DOESN'T cover birth centers or home birth midwives. I'm okay paying a bit more than I did with our son, but can't afford much more than $2,500 and I'd need to make payments on it during and after birth being as I don't have that up front in cash, but maybe a small amount as a "down payment". I'm at a loss with what to do. The birth center wants $4,500 out of pocket and BEFORE the birth of our baby so that isn't an option. I don't qualify for Medicaid nor do I want to take advantage of it when others need it. My only other option in a home birth midwife. But who would be in our price range is my question. I'm finding them all to be $4,000+ here in Colorado unless I am not looking in the right places. Help!!! I'd be okay with a unassisted free birth, but my husband nor family agree with it.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
7th May '13

What makes you afraid of a hospital birth? I know Kaiser out here offers midwives at certain locations is that an option? I had my second with Kaiser and it was a thousand times better than my first hospital birth.

Hy'ska 2 kids; Washington 50791 posts
status 7th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting I♡C+#2.:</b>" I had my first in the ONLY free standing birth center throughout all of Colorado, but we also had Cigna ... [snip!] ... am not looking in the right places. Help!!! I'd be okay with a unassisted free birth, but my husband nor family agree with it."</blockquote>




Call the midwifes and talk to them. Mine does sliding scale for those paying cash/uninsured.




And I don't blame you not wanting a hospital birth at all.

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
7th May '13

Why are you afraid?



There was a woman on here who paid her midwife what she could and then cleaned her midwife's house weekly to pay off the rest so she could have a homebirth. Maybe you can arrange something like that?

I♡C&R. 2 kids; Thornton, CO, United States 25120 posts
status 7th May '13

Why would I want to go to the hospital if I don't have a medical reason to be there? Birth is a natural process and it shouldn't be interrupted by "doctors". Doctors operate. I want little to no intervention.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
7th May '13
Quoting I♡C+#2.:" Why would I want to go to the hospital if I don't have a medical reason to be there? Birth is a natural ... [snip!] ... Birth is a natural process and it shouldn't be interrupted by "doctors". Doctors operate. I want little to no intervention."

Im just saying not all hospital births are horrible with doctors hovering waiting to operate. I had very little to no intervention in my second hospital birth. I had a birth plan and a doula and the hospital was very good about following my wishes. Obviously try and work something out but if in the end you end up in a hospital its not the end of the world. Just advocate for yourself and your child.

I♡C&R. 2 kids; Thornton, CO, United States 25120 posts
status 7th May '13
Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:" Why are you afraid? There was a woman on here who paid her midwife what she could and then cleaned ... [snip!] ... her midwife's house weekly to pay off the rest so she could have a homebirth. Maybe you can arrange something like that?"

I know of that mama, but I guess I'd be afraid to start calling midwives and working out deals and feeling bad for not being able to pay them in cash. I totally wouldn't mind doing that though and I would if a midwife would work with me.

I♡C&R. 2 kids; Thornton, CO, United States 25120 posts
status 7th May '13
Quoting Jennybananna:" Im just saying not all hospital births are horrible with doctors hovering waiting to operate. I had very ... [snip!] ... out but if in the end you end up in a hospital its not the end of the world. Just advocate for yourself and your child."


That's what I keep holding on to. I know the hospital I'll be at is super baby friendly, but no clue how friendly they are about letting me do what I want either. I'm talking birth however I want, no IV, labor in water, etc. Stuff I'd do outside of a hospital. I'm really only going there to make family feel better. I TRUST my body to do what it needs COMPLETELY on its own.

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
7th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting I♡C+#2.:</b>" Why would I want to go to the hospital if I don't have a medical reason to be there? Birth is a natural ... [snip!] ... Birth is a natural process and it shouldn't be interrupted by "doctors". Doctors operate. I want little to no intervention."</blockquote>




They can't intervene without your consent. If need be, find a doctor or hospital that will respect that wish, they do exist.




My friend had a hospital birth with absolutely no intervention, even when she was 9cm her doctor respected her wishes and waited for her water sac to break naturally instead of him doing it.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
7th May '13
Quoting I♡C+#2.:" That's what I keep holding on to. I know the hospital I'll be at is super baby friendly, but no clue ... [snip!] ... a hospital. I'm really only going there to make family feel better. I TRUST my body to do what it needs COMPLETELY on its own."

I was ok with an IV but chose a saline lock. I was allowed to shower (no baths available) Otherwise the only "requirement" they had was 15 min of monitoring every hour. I sat on the birthing ball with a tens unit during those times. We did delayed cord clamping, no pitocin (not that I needed it) they did break my water but with my permission.

I♡C&R. 2 kids; Thornton, CO, United States 25120 posts
status 7th May '13
Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:" <blockquote><b>Quoting I♡C+#2.:</b>" Why would I want to go to the hospital if ... [snip!] ... even when she was 9cm her doctor respected her wishes and waited for her water sac to break naturally instead of him doing it."

I fear the whole doctor thing. I won't even know who is delivering my baby because they rotate a Kaiser doctor every 12 hours. Stupid. I can't pick just ONE. It's a gamble. I can only PRAY the nurse will work with me and doctor will come in last minute if that's the way it has to be.

I♡C&R. 2 kids; Thornton, CO, United States 25120 posts
status 7th May '13
Quoting Jennybananna:" I was ok with an IV but chose a saline lock. I was allowed to shower (no baths available) Otherwise the ... [snip!] ... those times. We did delayed cord clamping, no pitocin (not that I needed it) they did break my water but with my permission. "

What's the difference between a saline lock and an IV? I've heard of both, but would be curious the difference between the two...

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
7th May '13
Quoting I♡C+#2.:" What's the difference between a saline lock and an IV? I've heard of both, but would be curious the difference between the two..."

A saline lock is where you have the IV in but its just not hooked up to anything. The IV is where they have you hooked up to fluids constantly and you are stuck with the stupid pole if you want to walk around.

I♡C&R. 2 kids; Thornton, CO, United States 25120 posts
status 7th May '13
Quoting Jennybananna:" A saline lock is where you have the IV in but its just not hooked up to anything. The IV is where they ... [snip!] ... IV is where they have you hooked up to fluids constantly and you are stuck with the stupid pole if you want to walk around. "

Are their pros to being hooked up to fluids constantly? Does it help in any way?

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
7th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting I♡C+#2.:</b>" I know of that mama, but I guess I'd be afraid to start calling midwives and working out deals and feeling ... [snip!] ... for not being able to pay them in cash. I totally wouldn't mind doing that though and I would if a midwife would work with me."</blockquote>




Hell, I'm sure some would LOVE that. Especially ones with kids of their own. Gives them the pleasure of helping someone have a perfect birth, AND they don't have to clean their house half as often?! Hell, sign me up! LOL