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Kids flying alone Jenny&Boopy TTC since Jul 2014; 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 7326 posts
8th May '13

In your opinion, what would the appropriate age to fly alone be?



I'm having a really difficult time with my ex right now arguing about this. DS is 7 and my dad wants to fly him down to Tennessee for a week or two to visit this summer. During the summer months, my ex and I share custody 50/50. His two weeks each month aren't scheduled, we have to come up with a schedule ourselves. As a courtesy to him, I let him pick which weeks he wants since I'm a SAHM and he works so it really makes no difference to me when DS goes over there. I asked him several times in the last few weeks when he will be taking DS so I know when to have my dad schedule his trip for on my time. He wouldn't reply. So last week, when I picked DS up I asked him again what weeks do you want so I can have my dad book his flights there and back. I don't want to wait until the last minute when flights are booked solid and it would be more expensive. He said he's not ok with DS going so I needed to drop it. He's not even sure what weeks he wants because he can't get a reliable sitter for when he is working. I explained to him that I would get to go all the way to the gate with DS and wait until he's on the plane and it leaves, same with my dad on picking him up at his airport. I explained that I talked this over with DS and he was excited to go and isn't nervous about flying alone at all. I explained that he had no issues flying with me when he was 4 and the time before that. I explained to him it's only about an hour flight and it'd be a direct flight no connections at other places. He still said he doesn't want him going. When I asked why he said DS is too young to fly alone. I said well I started flying alone at 7-8 and I was always fine, there's usually extra attention paid to children flying alone by the flight attendants to make sure there are no issues. His response was yeah well I'm 24 and I've never even flown so he's not going. And he walked away. I'm like seriously :?. Because you've never been on an airplane you think DS should be get to go visit his grandfather and uncles and have some fun?



What do you think? Would you be ok with sending your child alone on a short flight to go see family? What age so you think would be appropriate for a child to start flying alone?

I Stab People 3 kids; Zambia 6604 posts
8th May '13

i wouldnt.

Cαtwomαn 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Gotham, DC, United States 12302 posts
status 8th May '13

I was 16 and terrified. Lol. This was years ago so my mom could walk me to the gate. I couldn't imagine not having her there. And I wasn't even a new flier. I've flown 20+ times in my life.

Blythe. 1 child; Indiana 22298 posts
8th May '13

I flew alone as a child too but back then the person picking them up could go all the way to the gate and meet them getting off the plane. I don't think you can do that now.

MommyToWesley 1 child; Delaware 3847 posts
8th May '13

I agree with the father. 7 is too young.
And unless things have changed recently, you can't go to the gate with him. You would have to leave him at security. In order to go to the gate, you would have to book him as an "Unaccompanied Minor", in which case you would get an escort pass to go through security and take him to the gate. It's usually an extra $100 or so, and I don't think the person picking up the child on the other end could come to the gate to get him.



I flew alone, but not until I was 12. My parents booked me as an UM. I wouldn't be okay with it until DS was closer to 12, though.

Mama Rachael♥ Due April 2; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Asheville, North Carolina 15836 posts
8th May '13

I wouldn't, not until teen years at least.

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; South Land, CA, United States 119170 posts
8th May '13

I wouldnt before 12 and maybe not even then, just depends on the child.

ILOVEWINE Due April 24; 2 kids; Sweden 10814 posts
8th May '13

DD is 4 and flew alone to meet my parents in Palm Springs. She thought it was so fun. I dunno I flew a lot as a kid alone and I feel really confertable with it. But your ex is being really dumb about it, not fair to your son at all.

Jenny&Boopy TTC since Jul 2014; 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 7326 posts
8th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting MommyToWesley:</b>" I agree with the father. 7 is too young. And unless things have changed recently, you can't go to the ... [snip!] ... alone, but not until I was 12. My parents booked me as an UM. I wouldn't be okay with it until DS was closer to 12, though."</blockquote>




That's hat my dad s planning on doing, getting the ass so I can go to the gate with DS and he can do the same picking him up. He'd only be alone on the plane not in the airport.

ILOVEWINE Due April 24; 2 kids; Sweden 10814 posts
8th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting MommyToWesley:</b>" I agree with the father. 7 is too young. And unless things have changed recently, you can't go to the ... [snip!] ... alone, but not until I was 12. My parents booked me as an UM. I wouldn't be okay with it until DS was closer to 12, though."</blockquote>




I was allowed to walk DD to the gate and my parents picked her from the gate.

Blythe. 1 child; Indiana 22298 posts
8th May '13
Quoting ILOVEWINE:" DD is 4 and flew alone to meet my parents in Palm Springs. She thought it was so fun. I dunno I flew ... [snip!] ... as a kid alone and I feel really confertable with it. But your ex is being really dumb about it, not fair to your son at all."

:shock: You put a 4 year old on a plane alone?

ILOVEWINE Due April 24; 2 kids; Sweden 10814 posts
8th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Blythe.:</b>" :shock: You put a 4 year old on a plane alone?"</blockquote>




Sure did. She has flown twice alone.

Jenny&Boopy TTC since Jul 2014; 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 7326 posts
8th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ILOVEWINE:</b>" DD is 4 and flew alone to meet my parents in Palm Springs. She thought it was so fun. I dunno I flew ... [snip!] ... as a kid alone and I feel really confertable with it. But your ex is being really dumb about it, not fair to your son at all."</blockquote>




He started flying with me when he was 1, flew with me last when he was 4 and had a blast. He's really excited. His only concern was finding the right plane but when I told him I'd be going to the gate with him he was like ok I want to go. My ex is only arguing with me to be an a*****e, it's what he does.

Schmayder ♥ 1 child; Iowa 11769 posts
8th May '13
Quoting ILOVEWINE:" DD is 4 and flew alone to meet my parents in Palm Springs. She thought it was so fun. I dunno I flew ... [snip!] ... as a kid alone and I feel really confertable with it. But your ex is being really dumb about it, not fair to your son at all."


FOUR? I would never let my son get on a plane alone at 4, let alone 7. Even if they are the most responsible kid in the world, nope. no no no no no way.

Zepplin's Mommy :) 1 child; Magnolia, Delaware 911 posts
8th May '13

personally i would let my children do it, since it is not a long flight at all and you will be able to drop him off at the gate and i believe you said your dad will be able to go to the gate and pick him up right after he walks off the plane. Which they usually make the under age children flying alone stay on the plane until everyone else is off and they will walk them off to and i believe stay with them until the person is there to pick them up. i have seen this happen, the children have a special tag like a name tag so the flight attendents know they are under age and flying alone, sometimes ive heard of where some people request a personal flight attendent to be with their child the entire time going on and off the planes.. now if it were a longer flight and had connecting flights then i wouldnt do it but since its short and straight there then yeah i would.

i also would just book the flight and not give your ex a choice on weeks since he cant give you a answer...