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Cast Your Vote:

    • I have no idea. -- Votes: 11
    • We have random contact but he does no help parenting. -- Votes: 5
    • He is an extremely part-time dad, barely around, little support. -- Votes: 14
    • I actually consider him a parent, he is around and involved. -- Votes: 17
    • Other -- Votes: 2
Where's your "baby daddy"? *Poll* MahmuhMahmuh 3 kids; Wichita, Kansas 6706 posts
9th May '13

I saw a comment in another thread that said something along the lines of "Most single mom's don't even have a baby daddy that is around".. I don't particularly care for the term "baby daddy" just making that clear, I only use it on here because it's how women describe the father of their children who isn't the SO.. I call him my co-parent. He doesn't do what I want him to, it's not near enough IMO, but he is around. He pays his child support, checks on his kids, and shows up to see them when we have agreed that he will.



Anyways I made a poll, if you are a single mom, or even a married mom, or mom with a SO who isn't the father of your child, where's your baby daddy?

^.^ Chippermunkk 1 child; Dalzell, South Carolina 37492 posts
9th May '13

I don't like the term baby daddy, and I think one of the main reasons why, is I don't see Jay as that. He's always been around, even though things could have went the other way. Draven is actually living with him now, and has been since before Christmas. Before that, if I asked him to get him he would, if Draven would need something he would get it. He doesn't pay child support, and he never has, It wasn't something we thought we needed.

Aubrey(:Ryleigh TTC since May 2013; 2 kids; Lubbock, TX, United States 145 posts
9th May '13

My girls both have different dads, 1 is a GREAT dad, pays child support, gets her on his weekends and is there anytime i need him, i call him aubreys dad because thats what he is or by his name, he hates the term "baby daddy"



My youngest's dad isnt around AT ALL, i call him Ryleighs dad or by his name, even though is isnt around i hate the term "baby daddy"

Ladee+Grant+Lilly 2 kids; Tallahassee, FL, United States 20300 posts
9th May '13

Both of my children's fathers (I reserve baby daddy for those a*****es who do bare minimum) are incredibly involved with their kids. I am very lucky and blessed for them to have the fathers that theyhave.

MahmuhMahmuh 3 kids; Wichita, Kansas 6706 posts
9th May '13
Quoting ^.^ Chippermunkk:" I don't like the term baby daddy, and I think one of the main reasons why, is I don't see Jay as that. ... [snip!] ... would need something he would get it. He doesn't pay child support, and he never has, It wasn't something we thought we needed."


I wish we had that good of an arrangement, we tried that at the beginning but we don't really agree on how money should be spent ( a lot of why we aren't together) and it's just easier for him to give me money than to argue over what our kids need and don't need. (it's usually him thinking they need things that they don't, while ignoring needs like clothing and proper childcare).

Ronnie RadKat 4 kids; Arizona 21924 posts
9th May '13

I have 2. 1st one is father to my 14 and almost 12yr olds, he doesn't co parent, pays zero support, has had his rights revoked and has a contact order in place. He was my highschool sweetheart and is now a drug addict/ alcholic.



#2 is daddy to my 2yr old. He's very involved, supports his son, provides me with emotional support as well and help parenting my other children. He has seen his child basically every day of his life since birth, despite us not being involved most of the pregnancy and only since 6 months ago.

Juggernog-aholic 4 kids; 2 angel babies; P, AR, United States 20138 posts
9th May '13

DS1's bio father has nothing to do with him. His family is very involved and they love their Nana and Poppy. BD even lives with them, so we run into them when we take the kids to see his parents, but he hides in his room or leaves once we get there.



Once we can, DH is going to finalize his adoption and change DS1's last name.

^.^ Chippermunkk 1 child; Dalzell, South Carolina 37492 posts
9th May '13
Quoting MahmuhMahmuh:" I wish we had that good of an arrangement, we tried that at the beginning but we don't really agree ... [snip!] ... need. (it's usually him thinking they need things that they don't, while ignoring needs like clothing and proper childcare). "

Yeah, I'm SOOO glad That I have that with him, it makes things a lot easier. He spends his money how he wants, and I have no complaints as long as Draven had diapers and wipes, and was fed. When I was in school I would do Draven's clothes (full wardrobes) He buys an outfit here and there, but Dravens still clothed. And we never had to do anything with childcare, because family is always watching him.

MahmuhMahmuh 3 kids; Wichita, Kansas 6706 posts
9th May '13
Quoting A*A*R:" My girls both have different dads, 1 is a GREAT dad, pays child support, gets her on his weekends and ... [snip!] ... dad isnt around AT ALL, i call him Ryleighs dad or by his name, even though is isnt around i hate the term "baby daddy""


I'm with you, I actually never use it IRL.. I always see it and think "how ghetto" lol but it seems to be the most common name for the father of the child who isn't with the mother that is used on here.

greenmamabecky☮ TTC since Jul 2013; 18 kids; Enfield, Connecticut 20987 posts
9th May '13

My BD is awesome. We have opposite schedules so it makes it hard, but he sees his son about twice a week and gives us $100/ week no questions asked. Pretty sure he works under the table so if we went to court he wouldn't have to give me shit. Also him and DH get along great and are even going fishing together Friday :shock:
Last night he brought over some fish he caught and asparagus and I made the three of us dinner.

MahmuhMahmuh 3 kids; Wichita, Kansas 6706 posts
9th May '13
Quoting Will☮Creedence:" My BD is awesome. We have opposite schedules so it makes it hard, but he sees his son about twice a week ... [snip!] ... fishing together Friday :shock: Last night he brought over some fish he caught and asparagus and I made the three of us dinner."


Lmao, reminds me of when my ex and I were fighting once about his wife and how she handled some things after they got married and I pointed out to him that he would not be happy if I were to get married and my husband disrespected him, especially regarding our kids he replied with "I hope that when you get married he's a good dude, you're a nice lady, I also hope he likes football and beer, so we can hang out and watch ball games and leave beer caps on the floor to make you mad together".. Right, I'm gonna get married and encourage you to annoy me together with my husband.. Keep dreaming.

greenmamabecky☮ TTC since Jul 2013; 18 kids; Enfield, Connecticut 20987 posts
9th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting MahmuhMahmuh:</b>" Lmao, reminds me of when my ex and I were fighting once about his wife and how she handled some things ... [snip!] ... make you mad together".. Right, I'm gonna get married and encourage you to annoy me together with my husband.. Keep dreaming."</blockquote>




Lol. BD tried to disrespect me ONCE right after our son was born. DH grabbed the phone, told him the f**k off, and he has been sugary sweet ever since lol

MahmuhMahmuh 3 kids; Wichita, Kansas 6706 posts
9th May '13
Quoting Will☮Creedence:" <blockquote><b>Quoting MahmuhMahmuh:</b>" Lmao, reminds me of when my ex and I were ... [snip!] ... me ONCE right after our son was born. DH grabbed the phone, told him the f**k off, and he has been sugary sweet ever since lol"


Yeah he isn't really the type to be disrespectful, most of my problems have been with the woman he married, but after a few "let me show you how bat shit crazy I can be" episodes with her, she's cooled it with the mouth. We're cool now, but I occasionally remind her that I'm a mom, I keep a big jar of crazy on hand for anytime I might need it. She gets it now.

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; ., GA, United States 21236 posts
9th May '13

For over a year the sperm donor lived literally one road past mine. He never called or came by or anything. No child support either.



4 years later I have moved about 10 miles away and he is still in the same place (with his parents at almost 30!!!). I haven't heard from him in a long time. I went to his church for a short time (it was my SIL's church and he was there with his GF.)
He said hello to me, but completely ignored our child standing at my side.



I hate him.

Diana plus 2 2 kids; Norfolk, Virginia 3576 posts
9th May '13

My ex husband/kids' dad is very, very much in their lives. He has them half the month and I have them half the month. And if I am short on money (when I have the kids), he'll give me some money (which is sorta supposed to be to be like child support, I guess). We also both alternate on paying daycare. So I am lucky to have their dad very much involved in their lives.