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BastiansMommy 1 child; Shelton, Washington 2428 posts
10th May '13
Quoting Britt & Caden + 1 more:" Nope wouldn't do it if it were my kid.. but my kids wouldn't do that. If they did though I still wouldn't. Am I biased? HELL YEA. DO I CARE? NO. If this ruins my relationship I don't care either."

If you can't be bothered to care if your relationship ends over this...then you shouldn't be in it. And I get that he's not your child so you want to treat him like any kid out on the street...but it's fucked up you want to f**k him over because of this.
What he did is wrong, no doubt about it...but that doesn't mean you should throw everything away and make life harder on him because of it. Make him work off the debt...manual labor, digging holes and filling them back in...whatever. And tell him he has to go live with his mom again, that you don't want him living in your house. But don't screw him over for life because of it.



Think about if one of your child had done it someone's car..would you want them to take it out of proportion and do this or give them the chance to redeem themselves?

Britt & Caden + 1 more Due June 1; 2 kids; Mississippi 3339 posts
10th May '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Britt & Caden + 1 more:</b>" Nope wouldn't do it if it were ... [snip!] ... did isn't okay, but you'd obviously be upset if he charged your kid with this (since you wouldn't), if the roles were reversed."


First let me clarify something 1) if my kid did this and had also been getting in trouble like this kid has, and has a record and did some dumb shit like this to my boyfriends car then yea I would understand.
2) No I wouldn't press charges on my kid bc first off I would be the would that would have to pay back the debt that is ridiculous. A juvenile parents are still responsible for the juvenile.
3) he has a record with the police department. How am I ruining his life. He has been already charged with breaking into peoples cars at the mall, stealing cell phones and just plain stealing. His choices ruined his life not me

Britt & Caden + 1 more Due June 1; 2 kids; Mississippi 3339 posts
10th May '13

and 4) I would call the police on my kids if they did this. Not press charges but would call the police to diffuse a situation.



People keep saying I am ruining his life and I don't understand that. First off he has a record already. How is my doing ruining his life. He made his bed now he needs to lie in it.

Britt & Caden + 1 more Due June 1; 2 kids; Mississippi 3339 posts
10th May '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Britt & Caden + 1 more:</b>" if the dad had the money to repair ... [snip!] ... So somehow ruining this kids future at 16 is vengeance? And since when do you owe your partner anything?"


He has a record. I haven't ruined his life and my SO owes me $3,500. I dont owe him

Britt & Caden + 1 more Due June 1; 2 kids; Mississippi 3339 posts
10th May '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Britt & Caden + 1 more:</b>" if the dad had the money to repair ... [snip!] ... So somehow ruining this kids future at 16 is vengeance? And since when do you owe your partner anything?"

I am so glad people feel so sorry for a kid that broke my back window, steals cell-phones, steals out of peoples cars, dropped out of school when he was staying with his mom, ran away from his moms house, gets mad when he doesnt get his way and bust holes in my wall and bust up my car when I get mad about it. Yea poor kid poor poor kid. I messed up his life. Yep that was all my doing. It wasn't the breaking into peoples car charge. It wasn't the hitting his mom. It wasn't the stealing cell phones it was all me!! How am I going to sleep at night knowing I messed up this sweet boys life.



Let me tell everyone saying that something. I have two kids ages 2 and 4 and if I want to protect my kids from this I will. This kid has cussed my kids out in the short time he has been here and threatened to beat my son up as well. This kid scares me. I have told his dad I am scared of him while he has been at the house and I will not leave my kids alone with him. He has anger issues bad. So if I am a bad person so be it

MinnesotaMommy2One 1 child; Minnesota 2384 posts
10th May '13

I'm all for consequences and think you and the father should devise a plan to address that but a felony would seriously ruin his future. He's still a kid. My bf did some stupid shit as a teenager and thank god no one was spiteful or revengeful enough to ruin his whole future.

White Jesus +2 & 3/4 Due December 4; 2 kids; Kentucky 24000 posts
10th May '13

If you wouldn't do it to your own kid, don't do it to your SO's kid.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15185 posts
10th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Britt & Caden + 1 more:</b>" He has a record. I haven't ruined his life and my SO owes me $3,500. I dont owe him"</blockquote>




Since when do partners owe the other partner anything? Is that how being a "team" works?

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15185 posts
10th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Britt & Caden + 1 more:</b>" I am so glad people feel so sorry for a kid that broke my back window, steals cell-phones, steals out ... [snip!] ... he has been at the house and I will not leave my kids alone with him. He has anger issues bad. So if I am a bad person so be it"</blockquote>




Yet you let him live in your house. Strange.

Britt & Caden + 1 more Due June 1; 2 kids; Mississippi 3339 posts
10th May '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Britt & Caden + 1 more:</b>" He has a record. I haven't ruined ... [snip!] ... I dont owe him"</blockquote> Since when do partners owe the other partner anything? Is that how being a "team" works?


If you really wanna get into it. He had been stealing money from my bank account for the past two months. That money is money I had saved for my kids daycare, food, and bills and was using it at the casino. My account was drained. None of that money was his money. His is not my husband and we do not have joint bank accounts. Lets not get into talking about is that how a "team" works if we don't know the whole story. We have an arrangement where he will have it all payed out by July and I will not press charges on him... and yes I would have pressed charges on my SO too. That would have ended my relationship and at the time I didn't give a f**k. My kids come first and that money was money I had saved for bills and my kids.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15185 posts
10th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Britt & Caden + 1 more:</b>" If you really wanna get into it. He had been stealing money from my bank account for the past two months. ... [snip!] ... and at the time I didn't give a f**k. My kids come first and that money was money I had saved for bills and my kids."</blockquote>




You may need to reevaluate your life decisions if all of what you've talked about in this thread is true.

Britt & Caden + 1 more Due June 1; 2 kids; Mississippi 3339 posts
10th May '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Britt & Caden + 1 more:</b>" I am so glad people feel so sorry ... [snip!] ... He has anger issues bad. So if I am a bad person so be it"</blockquote> Yet you let him live in your house. Strange."


He has only been living with me two weeks. In that short period of time I had seen outburst he had at his father when not getting his way and cussing at my children and threatening to beat my son up He is no longer living with me either now. I had been told his father about his son and he assured me he just has anger problems and wouldn't hurt my kids but he is living somewhere else now.

Britt & Caden + 1 more Due June 1; 2 kids; Mississippi 3339 posts
10th May '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Britt & Caden + 1 more:</b>" If you really wanna get into it. ... [snip!] ... You may need to reevaluate your life decisions if all of what you've talked about in this thread is true."


Trust me I know but this thread wasn't about that it was about the kid. That is a whole other topic.

Britt & Caden + 1 more Due June 1; 2 kids; Mississippi 3339 posts
10th May '13
Quoting White Jesus +2 & 1/4:" If you wouldn't do it to your own kid, don't do it to your SO's kid."


Well I have already pressed charges I will drop charges once my car gets fixed. Yes it is a felony but like I said I will drop charges when my car is fixed.

Britt & Caden + 1 more Due June 1; 2 kids; Mississippi 3339 posts
10th May '13
Quoting Tasha Norman:" I'm all for consequences and think you and the father should devise a plan to address that but a felony ... [snip!] ... kid. My bf did some stupid shit as a teenager and thank god no one was spiteful or revengeful enough to ruin his whole future."

He's going to ruin his own future at the rate he is going.. but like I said I will drop charges once my car is fixed. I am not worried about the hole in the wall bc my dad does carpentry work and will do it I just have to buy the supplies. I am not worried about the dents in the car either. All I pressed charges on was my back window. I just want it fixed.. it rained all last night and my back speakers were ruined and my car is soaked. I am being easy on him I think by just asking for the back window and than dropping charges but I do believe the police should pick him up and put fear in him ESP since he did say he didn't give a f**k about any of it and laughed about it to his aunt.