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saageex3 1 child; New York 5786 posts
10th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting I'mOnFire:</b>" I agree with you here. Everyone has different opinions on how their child should be punished. If you ... [snip!] ... away with nothing. Because once they see one thing is okay its over from there. They will run all over you like a wild banchi "</blockquote>



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It's a hard question to answer since kids are different. You can have a manipulative little 4 year old, or you can have a 4 year old who was just playing around and didn't really think she was doing anything wrong.



I think as her parent, you can tell her intentions and then punish her off of that.



If she was like "f**k yo flowers" then yeah, i would punish her.

Live-Laugh-Love 3 kids; Kitchener, ON, Canada 8054 posts
10th May '13
Quoting Booger & Bubba's Mommy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Blythe.:</b>" There can be consequences that don't involve ... [snip!] ... ignorant comments about what others would do. How about be helpful, not defensive about something that doesn't involve you."


Using a different form of discipline.. besides locking a 3 year old in their room like a prisoner, is not "giving them everything on a silver platter" :roll: you're ridiculous.

I'mOnFire 1 child; Kentucky 2133 posts
10th May '13
Quoting Booger & Bubba's Mommy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting I'mOnFire:</b>" I agree with you here. Everyone has different ... [snip!] ... Kids need natural consequences & parental ones. As an adult I can't do anything I want why would I teach my kids they can."


This is a good way to put it. It's very true.

PurpleBama582 52 kids; Dothan, Alabama 3875 posts
10th May '13

I would probably send her to her room, telling her why she was in there, saying she hurt her brother's feelings and that he'd worked hard on the plants.




I have heard of some moms letting the sibling whose feelings were hurt and work was destroyed break something of the one who did the destroying(especially if it was something that they had also worked very hard on).....I don't think I could do that, but I do know of some parents that have.

user banned 3 kids; Washington 15083 posts
10th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Booger & Bubba's Mommy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting I'mOnFire:</b>" I agree with you here. Everyone has different ... [snip!] ... Kids need natural consequences & parental ones. As an adult I can't do anything I want why would I teach my kids they can."</blockquote>



What the hell? How is being shoved in a room all day a natural consequence? There are age appropriate consequences and then not.



I feel bad for your kid :(

Minion 3 kids; ., GA, United States 21747 posts
10th May '13

Is there such thing as terrible fours? Here lately she has become a shrieking, whiny, demanding, irritable little thing. She gets upset and angry very easy and will shriek and cry an scream if she doesn't get her way. It's only at home, though.
And she is so sassy and such an attitude!
She didn't go through a terrible two or three. I thought I had lucked out.

I'mOnFire 1 child; Kentucky 2133 posts
10th May '13
Quoting Live-Laugh-Love:" Using a different form of discipline.. besides locking a 3 year old in their room like a prisoner, is not "giving them everything on a silver platter" :roll: you're ridiculous."


Why does everyone keeps saying "Locking" her in her room?! No where in this thread did she say to lock the child in her room. She said put her in her room alone with no tv or toys! That seems like a fair punishment in my opinion. Just because she has to go to her room does not mean the door has to be shut.



I love how you people blow shit up into something its not.

saageex3 1 child; New York 5786 posts
10th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Live-Laugh-Love:</b>" Using a different form of discipline.. besides locking a 3 year old in their room like a prisoner, is not "giving them everything on a silver platter" :roll: you're ridiculous."</blockquote>




I don't know how other moms meant by spending the day in the room but I meant no going outside, or participating in whatever we usually do, only IF they really sont care about their actions. Not literally locking them in their room though

Booger & Bubba's Mommy 18 kids; Illinois 8136 posts
10th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♫ boobook ♫:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Booger & Bubba's Mommy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... know how to process that. And yeah, cutting off all contact to outside people- you and siblings I would call that neglect."</blockquote>




Wow. In neglecting him by sitting in the room next to him. He's playing with his cars happily but is being neglected. He has a wide open door but has no contact with ME the only person home with him right now.



He will see that I asked him to clean up the 15things on the floor & until he does his JOB he can't leave his room. Just like if I had work to do I couldn't leave until it was finished. See how the world works?

user banned 3 kids; Washington 15083 posts
10th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting I'mOnFire:</b>" This is a good way to put it. It's very true."</blockquote>




You don't even have a kid this age. Maybe your niece is ill behaved because there is a lack of discipline all around, a lack of parental involvement that makes her think she rules the roost.

I'mOnFire 1 child; Kentucky 2133 posts
10th May '13
Quoting Minion:" Is there such thing as terrible fours? Here lately she has become a shrieking, whiny, demanding, irritable ... [snip!] ... though. And she is so sassy and such an attitude! She didn't go through a terrible two or three. I thought I had lucked out."


THIS! My niece is going through this too. except she acts this way in public as well. She didn't have terrible twos either.. It started happening when she was about 3 3 1/2 and now that she has just turned four its skyrocketing haha. I think it may be normal though. All kids go through stages like these

Booger & Bubba's Mommy 18 kids; Illinois 8136 posts
10th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" Is there such thing as terrible fours? Here lately she has become a shrieking, whiny, demanding, irritable ... [snip!] ... though. And she is so sassy and such an attitude! She didn't go through a terrible two or three. I thought I had lucked out."</blockquote>




Terrible twos
Tramatic threes
Furious fours.



My 4yo will have such an attitude then come running up with a hug "I love you mom". He can be such a teddy bear & then a switch will flip & you would swear my brother took him over.



My brother was a horribly destructive child. Now he's in prison.

Live-Laugh-Love 3 kids; Kitchener, ON, Canada 8054 posts
10th May '13
Quoting I'mOnFire:" Why does everyone keeps saying "Locking" her in her room?! No where in this thread did she say to lock ... [snip!] ... she has to go to her room does not mean the door has to be shut. I love how you people blow shit up into something its not. "


Only allowing the child to come out of their room to eat and to go to the bathroom...for the ENTIRE day, is locking them in their room...



sorry...keeping them in their room? Whatever you would like to call it...its still not an appropriate punishment for a 3-4 year old.

I'mOnFire 1 child; Kentucky 2133 posts
10th May '13
Quoting ♫ boobook ♫:" <blockquote><b>Quoting I'mOnFire:</b>" This is a good way to put it. It's very true."</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... because there is a lack of discipline all around, a lack of parental involvement that makes her think she rules the roost."



I'm around her enough to know that she is disciplined in a fair way. Kids just don't listen. Simple as that. Don't sit here and tell me she has lack of parental involvement. Who the hell do you think you are? Each parent has a different view on punishment and each child takes a different way to be taught what they did was wrong.

user banned 3 kids; Washington 15083 posts
10th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Booger & Bubba's Mommy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♫ boobook ♫:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... JOB he can't leave his room. Just like if I had work to do I couldn't leave until it was finished. See how the world works?"</blockquote>



I doubt that's what you do with your son. This is the advice you gave the OP, "She would be spending the day in her room alone. No extra toys no tv, only leaving it for food & bathroom. Everytime she asked to come out I would say no, this is consequences for your actions".



The day in her room, no toys, no TV- only leaving for to eat and use the restroom. Not allowed to leave.



A toddler. A three year old. Yes, that is f**king rediculous. That is not parenting. That's lazy, neglectful and straight mean.