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Scared I will have the baby on the 2nd AbbieChrysler3312 32 kids; Ohio 1041 posts
10th May '13

I know this will probably sound stupid but I have been getting so nervous/anxious I am due to have my second little girl June 22nd and I keep having dreams and just a feeling that I'm going to have her on the 2nd. This is probably just because that would be the absolute worse day in the world to have her and because its close to my due date its worrying me.. The 2nd is the day my dad passed away 4 years ago and I just can't stop thinking what if I had her on that day...ughh...

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
10th May '13

Then you would have two lives to celebrate on that day.

hobbit* 3 kids; New Zealand 44783 posts
10th May '13

Nawww I can see where you're coming from. A lady in my due group had her baby on the anniversary of her little girls passing :(

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
10th May '13

I question how you wouldnt find that an amazing celebration.




I dont mean to offend you or anything......like if you and your dad didnt get along or something.

I declare a Time War 1 child; Ohio 1591 posts
10th May '13

If you have her that day it is meant to be. I would honestly take it as a sign from your dad if she was born that day. It would take a sad day and make it beautiful. Try not to fret about it and see it as something negative. It could actually be a very positive event if she was born that day.

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
10th May '13
Quoting A Beautiful Disaster:" I question how you wouldnt find that an amazing celebration. I dont mean to offend you or anything......like if you and your dad didnt get along or something. "


:!:



It often seems, too, when you lose someone, a new life begins. I think it would be really special to have her that day.

AbbieChrysler3312 32 kids; Ohio 1041 posts
10th May '13
Quoting Jennybananna:" Then you would have two lives to celebrate on that day. "


Its far from a celebration...my dad was in a farming accident on his birthday (may 22nd) he passed away on june 2nd and I still get really upset just thinking about it..... my husbands dad's birthday is on september 6th and that is the day my sister passed away four years ago as well and every year its so hard to try to be happy on his birthday so I know first hand it wouldn't make the day easier it would make it so much harder.

AbbieChrysler3312 32 kids; Ohio 1041 posts
10th May '13
Quoting hobbit*:" Nawww I can see where you're coming from. A lady in my due group had her baby on the anniversary of her little girls passing :("


Thank you..and I cant imagine.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
10th May '13
Quoting AbbieChrysler3312:" Its far from a celebration...my dad was in a farming accident on his birthday (may 22nd) he passed ... [snip!] ... hard to try to be happy on his birthday so I know first hand it wouldn't make the day easier it would make it so much harder."

I guess I just look at life and death differently than you. Instead of mourning their death I choose to celebrate the life they lived. I mean you have no control over when the baby comes so maybe try looking at it from a positive way might make it easier. Im not saying loosing someone isnt easy but if you can change your perspective of the day.

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
10th May '13
Quoting Jennybananna:" I guess I just look at life and death differently than you. Instead of mourning their death I choose ... [snip!] ... positive way might make it easier. Im not saying loosing someone isnt easy but if you can change your perspective of the day. "



same here. you can't change that he passed, and you have every right to mourn, i just rather think about the good times and good memories.

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
10th May '13
Quoting AbbieChrysler3312:" Its far from a celebration...my dad was in a farming accident on his birthday (may 22nd) he passed ... [snip!] ... hard to try to be happy on his birthday so I know first hand it wouldn't make the day easier it would make it so much harder."


Im sorry you're having such a hard time coping with the passing of your family members. Death can be extremely hard and we all grieve different.



Maybe you should talk to someone about your feelings mama. Death is a part of life, and the beauty is that life still continues in the babies we bring in, the trees changing seasons and all the life around us.

AbbieChrysler3312 32 kids; Ohio 1041 posts
10th May '13
Quoting A Beautiful Disaster:" I question how you wouldnt find that an amazing celebration. I dont mean to offend you or anything......like if you and your dad didnt get along or something. "


My dad and I were extremely close. as i said to another poster though, my father in law's birthday is the same day as the day my sister passed away as well and I find it very difficult to pretend to be happy for him that day, so I dont think if she was born that day it would make that day easier or better kwim?

I declare a Time War 1 child; Ohio 1591 posts
10th May '13
Quoting AbbieChrysler3312:" My dad and I were extremely close. as i said to another poster though, my father in law's birthday is ... [snip!] ... to pretend to be happy for him that day, so I dont think if she was born that day it would make that day easier or better kwim?"


If baby is born that day I would take it as a sign that he is happy, and he is okay on the other side. That he is watching over you and the new baby and your whole family. I know it sucks losing someone close to you, I have lost several, but they wouldn't want you to be so sad and dwell on the negative for so long. They would want you to heal and be happy.

AbbieChrysler3312 32 kids; Ohio 1041 posts
10th May '13
Quoting Jennybananna:" I guess I just look at life and death differently than you. Instead of mourning their death I choose ... [snip!] ... positive way might make it easier. Im not saying loosing someone isnt easy but if you can change your perspective of the day. "


In a lot of cases I would agree with you, but the situation is different I guess... I saw a lot of things when my dad and sister passed away (3months apart) that I wish I would have never seen- I was with both of them during the accidents. I was extremely close with both of them and I do try to remember the good things, but June 22nd and September 6th are just two days that are still really difficult.

hobbit* 3 kids; New Zealand 44783 posts
10th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting AbbieChrysler3312:</b>" Thank you..and I cant imagine."</blockquote>




You might just have the date in your head because its a significant date to you, It might not be a gut instinct why you're feeling like this.