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Ladee+Grant+Lilly 2 kids; Tallahassee, FL, United States 19726 posts
status 11th May '13

I am late, and jumping in without reading all pages, but I'm going to go back and read and see if I have anything to add.



First of all, whatever was done or said (allegedly) by her son must not have been a big deal if it happened at the beginning of the year and it's now the end and he is just now getting upset. Either the girl didn't mention it, or the dad didn't mention it, either way.



Second, thislate in the game how are we even sure it was HER son who did this? Maybe it really did happen, but it wasn't her son. Maybe it was a similar looking child and the girl didn't remember correctly.



Third, even if it DID happen by her child and he lied about it...it's possible it's being taken out of context. They could have been discussing family units, or something similar, and she might have said I have a step dad. And he might have asked or made a remark to the effect of, so you don't have a real dad? It could have been completely innocent, which kind of fuels my number one that it wasn't a big deal at the time.



And lastly...at this point it doesn't matter WHAT her son did. The other parent escalated it by being a gorwn man and getting into the face of a seven year old child. That is NEVER okay unless it's something life threatning. What he SHOULD have done, was follow his chain of command through the teachers and principle or come to her directly himself. Instead he took it upon himself to yell and get in the face of a CHILD and then he didn't stop! I think a restaining order might be a little foreward at this point in time, especially since the school year is almost over, but I would absolutely make it clear that parent is not allowed anywhere near my son without another adult present, and next year I'd probably make sure your son and the girl are not in the same class.

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
11th May '13
Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" I'm late, but I think a restraining order is absolutely ... [snip!] ... wouldn't be allowed back but obviously if the school hasn't taken action against him, they didn't feel that threatened."


BUT THE TEACHER suggested I get a restraining order HE DID feel threatened but no on called the police. I don't see how I can rationalize with someone who seems so erratic.

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
11th May '13
Quoting Ladee+Grant+Lilly:" I am late, and jumping in without reading all pages, but I'm going to go back and read and see if I have ... [snip!] ... my son without another adult present, and next year I'd probably make sure your son and the girl are not in the same class. "


Thank you, some people are clearly missing the point here. Regardless, you are right. I will request that they are not in the same class next year.

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
11th May '13

By the way I am not seeking revenge because someone called me a shitty parent. I know who I am and what I am, his opinion of me has no impact on my life. My goal is to keep my son safe and I will do what I need to do in order to accomplish that. Thanks!

Ladee+Grant+Lilly 2 kids; Tallahassee, FL, United States 19726 posts
status 11th May '13
Quoting Sonia[MOBAS]:" Thank you, some people are clearly missing the point here. Regardless, you are right. I will request that they are not in the same class next year."


I'm down to page 3 catching up...I'm kind of surprised at this point. You don't know this man, and if he behaved that erratically over an incident that was done and over with months ago...how is he supposed to react if something bigger actually happens since you said they have a history? Idk like I said restraining order I think is a little overkill, but definitely coordinating with the school and whatnot that is a really good option right now.

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
11th May '13
Quoting Ladee+Grant+Lilly:" I'm down to page 3 catching up...I'm kind of surprised at this point. You don't know this man, and if ... [snip!] ... I think is a little overkill, but definitely coordinating with the school and whatnot that is a really good option right now. "


None of the school staff have seen this father or had been introduced to him. Sadly the teachers first conversation with him was telling him how out of place he was and should not have done what he did. The father turned his anger towards the teacher.
My son and the other student have history. They were in the same class last year too and they had problems with each other last year that I was made aware of. They possibly had issues at the beginning of this school year. I say possibly because no one notified me and my son never said anything. I check in with staff periodically and nothing big has come up this year.

Ladee+Grant+Lilly 2 kids; Tallahassee, FL, United States 19726 posts
status 11th May '13
Quoting Sonia[MOBAS]:" None of the school staff have seen this father or had been introduced to him. Sadly the teachers first ... [snip!] ... no one notified me and my son never said anything. I check in with staff periodically and nothing big has come up this year."


Then yeah. Coordinate with the school staff to see what their plan is to keep this from happening again, and if you don't like what you hear then do what you need to do to keep your child safe. Obviously the fact that the dad hasn't met any school staff this year at all, kind of nullifies the whole "You'd keep him from seeing his child over this?" because he obviously hasn't been seeing his child at school so far anyway. And honestly, if the only place he sees his kid is at school they have bigger problems. And yes I'd specifically request they not be in the same class next year although I doubt they will mind.

CJKB+JMB=AMB 1 child; Watertown, New York 2525 posts
11th May '13

i think you should leave it alone and get over it. ya the guy shouldn't have said something to your son but if i thought my kid was being bullied and i saw the bullier right there id say something to. all he did was say you should apologize to my daughter. sounds like you should be telling your son the same thing... besides what happened between the two kids was obviously a long time ago it shouldnt even be an issue just let it go

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
11th May '13
Quoting Ladee+Grant+Lilly:" Then yeah. Coordinate with the school staff to see what their plan is to keep this from happening again, ... [snip!] ... bigger problems. And yes I'd specifically request they not be in the same class next year although I doubt they will mind. "


Right, thank you.

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
11th May '13
Quoting Carissa Biron:" i think you should leave it alone and get over it. ya the guy shouldn't have said something to your son ... [snip!] ... thing... besides what happened between the two kids was obviously a long time ago it shouldnt even be an issue just let it go"


You obviously have not read all that was said.

~The Lunar Flower~ Due January 13; 1 child; Alabama 6738 posts
11th May '13
Quoting Sonia[MOBAS]:" BUT THE TEACHER suggested I get a restraining order HE DID feel threatened but no on called the police. I don't see how I can rationalize with someone who seems so erratic."

I don't understand why the teacher hasn't taken action as well then kwim? He could file a retraining order to protect his students. The man was obviously having a pms moment of some kind. More had to have been going on. It just doesn't make sense for someone to react that badly to something so small. I hope your son is alright from everything that happened too. I know being talked to like that at a small age can be slightly traumatizing

Ladee+Grant+Lilly 2 kids; Tallahassee, FL, United States 19726 posts
status 11th May '13
Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:" I don't understand why the teacher hasn't taken action as well then kwim? He could file a retraining ... [snip!] ... son is alright from everything that happened too. I know being talked to like that at a small age can be slightly traumatizing"


I think that's why they are so worried, because it was something so small and in OPs mind any issues between the two kids had already been squashed. And...can the teacher take out a restraining order for the kid? I thought only a parent could. They can probably ban the father from the school grounds, but I think it has to be the principle to do it. I think as far as the teacher goes, his hands are pretty much tied one way or the other.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15210 posts
11th May '13

You're not going to get a restraining order because this guy got pissed at you.



It's out if taste, but not illegal.

~The Lunar Flower~ Due January 13; 1 child; Alabama 6738 posts
11th May '13
Quoting Ladee+Grant+Lilly:" I think that's why they are so worried, because it was something so small and in OPs mind any issues ... [snip!] ... it has to be the principle to do it. I think as far as the teacher goes, his hands are pretty much tied one way or the other. "

He was hostile towards the teacher & a student on school property so the teacher would have more power than the mother in this situation. They could ban him from the grounds based on that alone but if they haven't already, I doubt they will

JoeyN "babycarrot" Chaska, Minnesota 255 posts
12th May '13

I'm late on this but this sounds like this girls father & her mom are no longer together sounds to me like there's a bad divorce going on! Find out his name & run a background check on him. He should be old enough to understand kid's say things sometimes they're kids not fully developed yet. I would be more concerned about him yelling at you & the teacher.