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Are you friends with your ex BD? Smash Fins ; 2 kids; Denver, Colorado 1293 posts
11th May '13

There's a girl I work with and her and her BD are almost BEST friends. His current wife is now pregnant and my friend at work is so excited for them.

I am a little jealous of this relationship they have together... I would LOVE to have a decent relationship with my ex. I feel like it would make our lives a lot easier.
Instead I have my son come up to me after a weekend with his father asking,
"Why does my daddy hate you so much?"
Which I always respond,
"That doesn't matter... What matters is that we both love you sooooooo much."

So I'm curious if anyone else is friends with their ex BD... or is it just not normal.

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
11th May '13

my sister and her ex have a great relationship NOW. Took them along time to get here, but now its really nice, he even comes to her house to drink beer with her and her boyfriend lol

Smash Fins ; 2 kids; Denver, Colorado 1293 posts
11th May '13
Quoting A Beautiful Disaster:" my sister and her ex have a great relationship NOW. Took them along time to get here, but now its really nice, he even comes to her house to drink beer with her and her boyfriend lol"


I think that's so nice. I'm sure it really helps the kids as well.

Taryn - Anya's mommy 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Toronto, Ontario 49462 posts
11th May '13

I am jealous of them too, I would love to be able to be friends with my ex, but we can't even talk on the phone for 2 minutes without us starting to scream at each other. When we went to court, the judge said we had to communicate more or she was holding us both in contempt, this was after him and I screamed at each other during court. So I asked if email and text would count as communication, and she goes the way you 2 fight, most definitely, and its in the custody agreement that emails and/or texts can be brought up as evidence if we ever have to go to court again.

meggg+J,B&L♥ 3 kids; Nasinu, Fiji 16901 posts
11th May '13

I'm not friends with my first sons sperm doner, but me and SO are best friends with his daughters mom

♀NoBoysAllowed 19 kids; San Diego, California 51862 posts
11th May '13

He abused my daughter, so no. We're not friends LOL.



His wife is nice, but she's legit retarded. I will only contact him through her, though.

Jenny&Boopy Due June 26; 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 7398 posts
status 11th May '13

Not at all, I hate him. Various reasons, which I post about sometimes, but no we aren't friends and never will be. He is one person who I can say I really really hate and that will never change.

Smash Fins ; 2 kids; Denver, Colorado 1293 posts
11th May '13
Quoting Taryn - Anya's mommy:" I am jealous of them too, I would love to be able to be friends with my ex, but we can't even talk on ... [snip!] ... and its in the custody agreement that emails and/or texts can be brought up as evidence if we ever have to go to court again."


Oh yeah my ex and I have to only communicate in texts and emails.... Mostly because I need proof of everything he says.

Ughhhhh why can't boys just be mature?!

Iyahna :^P Southern California, CA, United States 13435 posts
status 11th May '13

My ex.Father of my angel baby is a crazy stalker.He thinks my son is his Even though my son looks like my husband and looks hispanic.My ex is asian..Ugh he creeps me out

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36616 posts
11th May '13

My ex and I can not have one civil convo... But my mom and her husbands ex wife are friends. They talk all the time. They work for the same dentist.

mrs jones ♥ 2 kids; Universal City, Texas 2682 posts
11th May '13

I wouldn't say we were friends, but we don't hate each other either.

[yo.] 1 child; Gayville, South Dakota 13371 posts
11th May '13

Some people are better off as friends than in relationships with their kids other parent.




No way in hell could I be best friends with BD. he beat this shit out of my our son so he's not allowed near him.

^.^ Chippermunkk 1 child; Dalzell, South Carolina 37492 posts
11th May '13

I would consider us friends. Theres times where it's just "pick up Draven and go" but most of the time he hangs out at the house. He was the first person I called when Dustin passed, and I was there for him when his grandma passed. I still go to his house randomnly. We still get each other birthday gifts. We talk to each other about a lot. It could have turned the total opposite way.

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26 (boy); 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
11th May '13

My daughters dad and I are good friends. We've only been apart less than 2 years so its hard, and it was a long journey to get what we have. I have had to be very selfless but its been worth it.



When I told him I was having another baby he said congrats and how amazing I am as a mum and that if my SO and I ever needed anything or any help to let him know. His girlfriend and I text as well we get along good so far.



Next weekend when we swap dd over the five of us are all having breakfast together at a cafe. It's good my daughter gets to spend time with both of us still.



I will say it is very hard emotionally on me to see him because it makes me miss him. But it comes to a point where I had to accept the fact that even though we loved each other immensely we brought out the worst in each other. Now that we r not together he acts like the man I originally fell in love with and id rather see that side from a distance and have my daughter grow up knowing that version of her dad.



I'm really lucky.

Smash Fins ; 2 kids; Denver, Colorado 1293 posts
11th May '13
Quoting Onalee's Mummy:" My daughters dad and I are good friends. We've only been apart less than 2 years so its hard, and it ... [snip!] ... and id rather see that side from a distance and have my daughter grow up knowing that version of her dad. I'm really lucky."


I would LOVE to have that kind of relationship.