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Am I being stupid? lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
12th May '13

Ok so idk how to feel and want to know if my feelings are justified...



So SO is on an out of town job this weekend. Last night I went to church with my mom. Well I forgot to txt him and tell him I was home and he got into the hotel while I was at church. Well I got a text at 11 from 9:30 saying he was going to bed. My feelings were really hurt that he texted so Impersonally and fit call to say goodnight. So then this morn Instead of calling me when he woke up he texted me again. I find texting so impersonal unless he's working and can't call. He knows how I feel and my feelings were hurt. He tried saying he couldn't call this morn cause he was getting ready. Really? He could take a min to text but not to simply call and say "hey good morning I wanted to call you before I left. Have a good day love you happy Mother's Day"? Idk am I lame for feeling hurt? I feel like every time he works for this company he turns into an ass cause all the guys he works with are a*****es.

Nut ღ Meg Beverly Hills, CA, United States 40237 posts
12th May '13

When DH is out of town he never calls only texts me. Well, he calls once a day to talk to DD, but other than that it's only texts...



I wouldn't be hurt by it, personally.

Jesa. TTC since Mar 2012; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Oklahoma 15379 posts
12th May '13

That's a silly thing to get your feelings hurt over i'd say....



I wouldn't waste time being upset over something like that when there could be way worse problems. JMO.

user banned 2 kids; Hamilton, Ontario 19220 posts
12th May '13

I work every weekend 7 - 7 sat and sun



SO gets made when I dont call (I do text)



but to me, I dont want to be here away from my family, I have to be here for my family. So why call? Im not the happiest, I am busy with stuff to do, I just dont see the point.




I dont think hes trying to upset you.

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49254 posts
12th May '13

Eh I can see both sides. Especially if you're not a person that likes texting. Me personally it'd be no issue. But I do know a lot of people who feel the same as you about texting so I can understand. Maybe next time he texts call him instead of texting him back and say something like "Well, I figured I'd just call since I prefer that." So it's subtle :)

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
12th May '13

I see where you're coming from, but I think you're overreacting.



If this became the argument that broke your relationships back, would you want to go back and undo it?

lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
12th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" I see where you're coming from, but I think you're overreacting. If this became the argument that broke your relationships back, would you want to go back and undo it?"</blockquote>




Oh yeah I'm gonna tell him how I feel. I won't let it ruin our relationship. I know when he's working he can't be in the phone. But I was just upset that he was texting instead of calling when he wasn't working yet. I just hate how he changes when he works with these guys. They have no loyalties to their families. They're all selfish and idk if he thinks he needs to fit in or if they're just contagious. But he always called after work when he was teaching. Ill just have to talk to him when he gets home and see what we can figure out so we don't end up back where we were years ago when he worked there before.

homes cool 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 60938 posts
12th May '13

<3



When C is gone, he very rarely calls...honestly he doesn't even text most times. I think it's normal. They get in the mind frame of being gone & having a job to do. Sorry it hurt your feelings.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
12th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" I see where you're coming from, but I think ... [snip!] ... when he gets home and see what we can figure out so we don't end up back where we were years ago when he worked there before."</blockquote>




Sending you a text isn't "changing" or making him less loyal. You're jumping to all of these horrific conclusions because he texted you instead of calling.



You wanted communication, right?



Why should it matter the form? The same thing was accomplished, right?



I think the problem is that you're insecure already because if the guys he's working with. So any little thing that happens gets amplified.

homes cool 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 60938 posts
12th May '13
Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" I see where you're coming from, but I think ... [snip!] ... when he gets home and see what we can figure out so we don't end up back where we were years ago when he worked there before."


Oh, hun. A text doesn't mean he's not being loyal. :( Don't let your mind go there!

lamr - 02-08-13-21 2 kids; Crazytown, ON, Canada 5963 posts
12th May '13

I wouldn't be upset. I like him to call before bed, but if he texts then thats good enough for me.

lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
12th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" ... [snip!] ... problem is that you're insecure already because if the guys he's working with. So any little thing that happens gets amplified."</blockquote>




That's very true. I am probably on edge cause I don't like him with these guys anyway so it's just amplifying my feelings. I just need to chill. Thanks :)

lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
12th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting homes cool:</b>" Oh, hun. A text doesn't mean he's not being loyal. :( Don't let your mind go there! "</blockquote>




I know. I just hate when he texts instead of calling when he's able. It makes me feel like a buddy. I like to hear his voice :) and I guess it makes me feel like he doesn't feel the same. Then to make excuses that he was getting ready. Ok you had time to text but not call :roll: I understand when he's on the clock cause he can lose his job. But at the hotel I guess I don't understand why he wouldn't want to call me.