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Jealous of vaginal births...... ~*~HeatherC~*~ 1 child; Ontario 1579 posts
12th May '13

Anyone else?? Ya sounds very strange I guess but I am jealous of anyone who had a successful vaginal birth. I kinda feel inadequate that I wasn't able to squeeze my daughter out after 3 hours...she just wouldn't come down :(



LOL this is all coming out because my cousin is currently pushing out her daughter!

Butterfly Guns 2 kids; Upland, CA, United States 6077 posts
12th May '13

I had vaginal births with both my boys, but I couldn't breastfeed, and I was really jealous of that. In fact, it's what onset my PPD with both my boys. I had the same feeling of inadequacy.

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46865 posts
12th May '13

The thought of a c-section terrifies me, but I actually have a friend who has gone through both vaginal births and c-sections who says she would choose a c-section over a vaginal birth any day.



I suppose I can't say that I understand how you feel, but I thought I would share anyways.

IOnlyMakeBoys (B.B.M) 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Texas 4754 posts
12th May '13

That's ok I am jealous of people who can make it to 40 weeks my first came at 34 weeks and my second was taken emergency C-section at 37. lol we all are jealous of something makes us normal.

IOnlyMakeBoys (B.B.M) 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Texas 4754 posts
12th May '13
Quoting Bri
Butterfly Guns 2 kids; Upland, CA, United States 6077 posts
12th May '13
Quoting IOnlyMakeBoys (B.B.M):" I felt/feel the same way I have a good supply for a week but then the milk comes in and my supply goes right down. I have tries everything to increase my milk supply and nothing ever worked. "

Part of me thinks I might have made it with my oldest if I wasn't so sore. He was crying because he was hungry, so I asked the bf specialist at the hospital what to do and she said just keep feeding. Either the latch wasn't right or I was just downright sore because after two days, I couldn't even wear a shirt they hurt so bad. The problem with my youngest is I supplemented from the beginning thinking I was going to get sore again and made a huge mistake doing that because then I didn't make enough. I got a whole ounce altogether. It was so frustrating. I had so many other moms tell me it was okay and not to worry and bla bla bla. But I still beat myself up over it. I am so determined to breastfeed that I will do whatever it takes when we try for a third.

Monsters² Mom 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Dahlgren, VA, United States 5058 posts
12th May '13

I think we all have that feeling of not being good enough about certain things. I had a c-section because my daughter was breech and it broke me down. I felt for a long time that I was broken and couldn't do the simplest task our bodies are meant to do. I let that frame of mind haunt me into not breastfeeding also. I figured if I can't even have a baby the way I'm supposed to what makes me think I'm good enough to breastfeed...I made it to six weeks before I finally gave up.
I let my inadequacies consume me and it caused a slew of postpartum issues, depression and anxiety being the top two.



Just know you're not alone and we've all been there

Leash25 2 kids; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 1595 posts
12th May '13
Quoting IOnlyMakeBoys (B.B.M):" That's ok I am jealous of people who can make it to 40 weeks my first came at 34 weeks and my second was taken emergency C-section at 37. lol we all are jealous of something makes us normal."


I feel the same way. my first I was induced at 37 weeks and 6 days, my second i was induced at 33weeks and 4 days. I am also jealous of anyone who went into labor on their own.

★Mommarazzi★ 1 child; Arkansas 9706 posts
12th May '13

It's not strange. I think every mom has an issue like that over something. I am jealous of moms who got to breastfeed for extended periods of time. I could oy do it a few weeks and it makes me sad

Mommy|Of2 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Canada 3034 posts
12th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Bri

bia. 2 kids; ., ., Portugal 75764 posts
status 12th May '13

Nope, I've had two c-sections and will with my next,and don't feel jealous, not one bit, and never have, what's to be jealous about?

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46865 posts
12th May '13
Quoting bia.:" Nope, I've had two c-sections and will with my next,and don't feel jealous, not one bit, and never have, what's to be jealous about?"


Getting your crotch cut from one end to the other and sitting on a handful of stitches. :wink:

IOnlyMakeBoys (B.B.M) 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Texas 4754 posts
12th May '13
Quoting bia.:" Nope, I've had two c-sections and will with my next,and don't feel jealous, not one bit, and never have, what's to be jealous about?"


It's more the issue that she wanted to have a vaginal birth and it didn't happen just like mine and other's post's above we feel jealous because we wanted to do something and where not able or could not for some reason.

bia. 2 kids; ., ., Portugal 75764 posts
status 12th May '13
Quoting MunchkinWrangler:" Getting your crotch cut from one end to the other and sitting on a handful of stitches. :wink:"


God no :lol:



SO told me that women who have vag births are loose, I said "uh don't you know they get fixed back up after the baby is born" and he's like "uh yeah, they get stitches don't they" so how can they be loose..........? :lol:

Monsters² Mom 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Dahlgren, VA, United States 5058 posts
12th May '13
Quoting bia.:" Nope, I've had two c-sections and will with my next,and don't feel jealous, not one bit, and never have, what's to be jealous about?"


Some women elect for c-sections and others don't. Most women who are forced to have one wind up with some sort of regret, its normal.