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Would Youuuu *Poll* user banned
12th May '13

date a guy with kids? my SO asked me last night if we were reverse rolled (meaning, if he had two kids already when he met me and I didn't) would I have given him a chance still? He is a very powerful and patient man to be with me after I already had two YOUNG kids (they were 2.5 and 15 months at the time) and stayed with me. We have been living together since November and it's gone so well.




Personally, if I had no kids and he already did, I think I would have to date him without meeting the kids for a while first to really make a decision based on my feelings for him.

Hy'ska 2 kids; Washington 50791 posts
12th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Loka Lokita:</b>" date a guy with kids? my SO asked me last night if we were reverse rolled (meaning, if he had two kids ... [snip!] ... I would have to date him without meeting the kids for a while first to really make a decision based on my feelings for him."</blockquote>




I married a guy with 3 kids.

Nancy Botwin 2 kids; Pennsylvania 2182 posts
12th May '13

Yes, my so has a daughter from a previous relationship.

jazzzzz* 2 kids; Beverly Hills, California 7558 posts
12th May '13

Yep, I dated a single dad. It was great we understood each other.

P&T'sMom Due December 26 (boy); 2 kids; Washington 4541 posts
12th May '13

My so has two sons with his ex fianc

Nikkie Beee Due January 29; 2 kids; Victorville, California 3968 posts
12th May '13

This probably makes me sound like a crappy person, but probably not. If I had my kids and I was looking, I don't have room in my heart for anybody's kids but my own. If I didn't have kids, I think I would be too immature to be with someone with kids. I would want all his time and I wouldn't want to share him. All this is incredibly selfish, I know. But, in this hypothetical situation, I know this is how I would be. It's possible that I may change if I were ever in this situation, but who knows?

Nancy Botwin 2 kids; Pennsylvania 2182 posts
12th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nikkie Beee:</b>" This probably makes me sound like a crappy person, but probably not. If I had my kids and I was looking, ... [snip!] ... situation, I know this is how I would be. It's possible that I may change if I were ever in this situation, but who knows?"</blockquote>




It doesn't make you a crappy person. You know yourself enough to know that someone's children may not benefit from you. It saves a lot of stress on your part and the hypothetical children as well.

Kimber-lily Due September 27 (girl); 4 kids; Nova Scotia 28962 posts
12th May '13

Probably not. I never wanted children, soo taking on someone elses kids would be a no go for me.

Nikkie Beee Due January 29; 2 kids; Victorville, California 3968 posts
12th May '13
Quoting Nancy Botwin:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Nikkie Beee:</b>" This probably makes me sound like a crappy ... [snip!] ... that someone's children may not benefit from you. It saves a lot of stress on your part and the hypothetical children as well."


I've been asked this question many times before and I always say no and everyone tries to make me feel like shit about it, but, you putting it like that makes me feel better! Thanks! :)

P&T'sMom Due December 26 (boy); 2 kids; Washington 4541 posts
12th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nikkie Beee:</b>" I've been asked this question many times before and I always say no and everyone tries to make me feel like shit about it, but, you putting it like that makes me feel better! Thanks! :)"</blockquote>




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Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 16165 posts
status 12th May '13

Probably not if his kids lived with him and definitely not if he had to pay child support. But this is just dating. There's a lot of stuff that doesn't make it through the datable or not? filter.

αuτumnαl ~, FL, United States 67195 posts
status 12th May '13

Yes. Just like if I was a single mom I'd like to find a guy willing to get involved.

loving my three + baby on Due August 10; Mexico 4975 posts
12th May '13

Yes if there was no "baby momma" drama. I had my first two with a man who already had a child although I never met him as he lived down south. They understand kids more sometimes and can understand your situation more. If there's a crazy baby mom though I don't have time for that. Thank the Lord I was the first for my dh so I don't have to worry about any of that though...

one of each 4 me Due January 8; TTC since Mar 2014; 3 kids; Ohio 6210 posts
12th May '13

I feel hypocritical but I couldn't date someone with kids. I would feel they were putting their kid first. An it would make scheduling holidays even harder

Black Cat 1 child; Marvel, PA, United States 3827 posts
12th May '13

My SO has a son from his previous marriage. Never bothered me. I absolutely love his son.