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Jacob's Party, pic overload ......................... Oregon 14226 posts
12th May '13

Unfortunately I'm home sick today, so I might as well post about Jacob's party



My whole idea for a themed party, with stations? Well it totally went down the toilet. Instead, all the kids just played and played some more.



My biggest fear was that more kids from his "general ed/normal" classroom would come. Not to mention he had a break down right in front of one of the kids that said he was coming to Jacob's party the night before.



but to my surprise, all the parents that called to RSVP was all the parents that showed up! 3 of those kids were from his SN class, and only one from general ed. So it went PERFECTLY! Not to mention my brother showed up with his kids, one with ADHD and on with a defiance problem, so every one fit in well and meshed well with each other. Even if my brother(who also has ADHD), was the ring leader of it all, bring super soakers and water guns, and even a water balloon launcher(which almost back fired on him when my husband shot a water balloon at him and it barely missed his head before hitting our trellis which made a really loud BOOM!). Jacob got nerf bows an arrows(surprisingly he got 2) and of course DH shot it first, and it landed a few houses over, so then he had to figure out what house belonged to the yard it landed in.



My fears of thinking that the moms wouldn't like my party favors were completely the opposite. I bought gun soaps and grenade soaps(off of Etsy), and made bow ties. And surprisingly all the moms thought it was super cute. Even the one little girl who was here was snagging up a bow tie for her dolls, even though he dad said no, and grenade soap!



So it was great and fun, and that little girl, I can see how Jacob loves her, she's in the SN class because it's also a behavioral program, and I think she has all brothers, because wow. She kept up with all the boys.



So in the longer run, I hope these kids are able to stay in the SLC with Jacob. It's so nice to see he has friends as school, and it was nice having the other kids here, learning them, and watching them play. Because we don't get this opportunity outside of school. And then no one feels left out, because when you all have problems together, it makes it feel more "normal" We only had one little boy here that has the same diagnosis as Jacob, but I'm guessing was more on the spectrum? Than Jacob, he didn't care about playing outside till he was more comfortable inside by himself seeing all of Jacob's toys.



Onto pictures!



First official picture of Jacob and his real dad in about 3 years. I made them sit for this! You can see, these 2 are twins. Identical down to the same hairlines and cowlicks.
DSC_0389_zps2e5ac9ac.jpgDSC_0400_zps21b0458b.jpgMy nephew Davin, he's very small, believe or not, he's 4 and 1/2. So he tries really hard to keep up with everyone else.
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Poppa Leon and Jacob
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My niece Mylah. Words can't describe how happy we are to have her back. To see her again. She just re entered our lives about 6 months ago, her mom was keeping her from us
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Cakes! I did them all, egg free vanilla cake.
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This is the girl I'm talking about, she cracks me up.
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Chow time!
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Presents! And I cut his high and tight hair cut the night before. The best one so far!
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Cake time!
Jacob blew out his candle twice because I didn't get a chance to take a picture, so we did it again so I could take a picture
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My other niece, she's 2!
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Birthday boy
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And I took this one just for spite, but it's so cute too. My very pregnant sister in law. She had instructed family to keep her pregnancy off of social media, but her friends are allowed to post pictures of her. Well honey, I think the secret is out. I think you're pregnant! She has just 3-4 weeks left. Due June 7th. And she's the mom to my blonde nephew and niece. My brother has my brown haired niece and nephew.
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mommy2thing1&thing2 Due November 11 (girl); 2 kids; Phoenix, Arizona 3064 posts
12th May '13

great pics! love the one with his dad. thanks for sharing :)

Buzz and Almond Joys momm 2 kids; Albuquerque, New Mexico 12593 posts
12th May '13

So glad everyone came! I know that you were worried about that. Looks like they all had fun.

......................... Oregon 14226 posts
12th May '13
Quoting Buzz and Almond Joys momm:" So glad everyone came! I know that you were worried about that. Looks like they all had fun."



I was worried. I was worried first off because the first mom to call me didn't know that he was autistic, or even that anything was "wrong", and I don't even think she knew he didn't normally attend the general ed class. And she sounded kind of offended. That puts you on high alert to think that the kids families from the general ed class would judge him.



And then the meltdown he had in front of everyone the day before.



But having so many kids, all with their own "problems" was so great. Even the moms who were afraid to leave their kids because of their child's issue, I told them I was sure there was enough of us here to handle it. And that really helps, to have so many adults that have worked with Jacob, and my brother who's kids have similar issues, we were all equipped to handle whatever happened. We let them create a phone list to call in case of an emergency.



So it was really great. I was really pleased with how it all went down. Super exciting for him too!

Buzz and Almond Joys momm 2 kids; Albuquerque, New Mexico 12593 posts
12th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting TheCoopersKnitWitch:</b>" I was worried. I was worried first off because the first mom to call me didn't know that he was autistic, ... [snip!] ... in case of an emergency. So it was really great. I was really pleased with how it all went down. Super exciting for him too!"</blockquote>




I totally feel your worry. I am very happy to hear this though. It almost make it easier for me. My dude will be doing 18 hours special Ed and 12 hours gen Ed this coming year and I worry about the gen Ed kids and things like parties

......................... Oregon 14226 posts
13th May '13
Quoting Buzz and Almond Joys momm:" <blockquote><b>Quoting TheCoopersKnitWitch:</b>" I was worried. I was worried first ... [snip!] ... be doing 18 hours special Ed and 12 hours gen Ed this coming year and I worry about the gen Ed kids and things like parties"


Apparently it's not a problem.



I don't know the hours he's supposed to be in general ed vs special ed class. I just don't remember and honestly they let Jacob choose. So I never know. I think he goes at least 2 hours ever day.



And yep, he has no problems making friends!



I was talking to a mom from his SN class that showed up. She too was grateful for the invite, because she feels like we don't get the option to get together enough, and we can feel so alienated from general ed. So she loved being able to sit with other kids in his class and let him play with them.



And yep one boy from special ed. I don't think we'll get along well with his parents, but their little boy was totally rough and tumble, so he fit in perfectly.

Buzz and Almond Joys momm 2 kids; Albuquerque, New Mexico 12593 posts
13th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting TheCoopersKnitWitch:</b>" Apparently it's not a problem. I don't know the hours he's supposed to be in general ed vs special ... [snip!] ... I don't think we'll get along well with his parents, but their little boy was totally rough and tumble, so he fit in perfectly."</blockquote>




That is so funny you say that. Our special Ed parents get along sooo well. We love parties because its a time for us to all get together and chat more than normal. There are two gen Ed kids in his class and the one lady who has am older SN child loves us. The other doesn't show up to anything and doesn't seem to like to talk to any of us.

......................... Oregon 14226 posts
13th May '13
Quoting Buzz and Almond Joys momm:" <blockquote><b>Quoting TheCoopersKnitWitch:</b>" Apparently it's not a problem. I ... [snip!] ... lady who has am older SN child loves us. The other doesn't show up to anything and doesn't seem to like to talk to any of us."


Our SN class is like a well kept secret. We're not allowed to ask the names of his friends,or anything like that.



But our SN class is also a behavioral program, and spans grades k-4, I have no idea why it's so secretive. But I want to send out a "come and play" party invite before schools over. I think the kids really need it.



As do the moms.

Buzz and Almond Joys momm 2 kids; Albuquerque, New Mexico 12593 posts
13th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting TheCoopersKnitWitch:</b>" Our SN class is like a well kept secret. We're not allowed to ask the names of his friends,or anything ... [snip!] ... But I want to send out a "come and play" party invite before schools over. I think the kids really need it. As do the moms."</blockquote>




That's so silly! It should not be a secret!

......................... Oregon 14226 posts
13th May '13
Quoting Buzz and Almond Joys momm:" <blockquote><b>Quoting TheCoopersKnitWitch:</b>" Our SN class is like a well kept ... [snip!] ... over. I think the kids really need it. As do the moms."</blockquote> That's so silly! It should not be a secret!"


See I think so.



The mom that was here I talked to, she said it must be a secret so we don't collaborate and share IEP secrets, and start brainstorming. LOL.



I loved her.

Buzz and Almond Joys momm 2 kids; Albuquerque, New Mexico 12593 posts
13th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting TheCoopersKnitWitch:</b>" See I think so. The mom that was here I talked to, she said it must be a secret so we don't collaborate and share IEP secrets, and start brainstorming. LOL. I loved her."</blockquote>




Hahaha, I can almost see that especially since I am a special Ed major and I had te law pounded into me I was able to help te parents be better advocates and tell them their rights. The lady who did my sons progression IEP did not know this an she tried to tell me I should not request Somethig specific in the IEP. ( her reasoning was people would not follow the specific request.) my sons teacher laughed a little when i said "they will if they want to keep their federal funding."

......................... Oregon 14226 posts
13th May '13
Quoting Buzz and Almond Joys momm:" <blockquote><b>Quoting TheCoopersKnitWitch:</b>" See I think so. The mom that was ... [snip!] ... the specific request.) my sons teacher laughed a little when i said "they will if they want to keep their federal funding.""


That's what this mom said too. "You'd think they'd want us to stay and negotiate and brain storm together. They love all the funding. They WANT to keep them there!" Or something like.



I seriously loved her.

Buzz and Almond Joys momm 2 kids; Albuquerque, New Mexico 12593 posts
13th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting TheCoopersKnitWitch:</b>" That's what this mom said too. "You'd think they'd want us to stay and negotiate and brain storm together. ... [snip!] ... and brain storm together. They love all the funding. They WANT to keep them there!" Or something like. I seriously loved her."</blockquote>




It's all probably just for confidentiality purposes. But you would think you could communicate within the class. Like we sign a paper saying it is okay for our teacher to release a class roster with address phone and email so that parents can communicate. And it says only for our use and not to be given out.

......................... Oregon 14226 posts
13th May '13
Quoting Buzz and Almond Joys momm:" <blockquote><b>Quoting TheCoopersKnitWitch:</b>" That's what this mom said too. "You'd ... [snip!] ... roster with address phone and email so that parents can communicate. And it says only for our use and not to be given out."


OMG I would LOVE that.



But nope it's all hush hush. I don't even get to do Valentines with Jacob. He has to take them to school and write them for a "project" I hate it.



I can negotiate information out from his teacher. But usually she catches me digging for information.

Buzz and Almond Joys momm 2 kids; Albuquerque, New Mexico 12593 posts
13th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting TheCoopersKnitWitch:</b>" OMG I would LOVE that. But nope it's all hush hush. I don't even get to do Valentines with Jacob. ... [snip!] ... a "project" I hate it. I can negotiate information out from his teacher. But usually she catches me digging for information."</blockquote>




That's rediculous! I have met every child ( I do observations for my classes) I have met most of the parents. We do feild trips together ( just this year, their behavior was better this time around) class parties. I even babysit some of the kids.
Heck I just even sent letters home to do a group gift for the teachers. That class just sounds so unwelcoming