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guy friends . kr:) 1 child; Texas 5334 posts
12th May '13

If your married or in a serious relationship do you still talk to guy friends? Is SO ok with it? When would you say is goin to far when talking to a guy friend me and my aunt were talking about this eariler just wondering how everyone else feels

Mrs. Conan O'Brien 2 kids; Colorado 20924 posts
12th May '13

Yes, I still talk to guys. Not too often but it happens. It goes too far when you feel the need to want to hide it.

motherofarunner 1 child; Kansas City, Kansas 1946 posts
status 12th May '13

yes. yes and if you have more than friends kind of feeling. if you flirt and talk dirty. If you put your friend before so. things like that.

pennylove 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Australia 1377 posts
12th May '13

been together 5 yrs it is a serious relationship and he gets jealous when i talk to guys thus is why i do not have guy friends. its so stupid i talk to guys when he is not around but i am not interested in them its just general convo.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
12th May '13

Yes. I don't see why not. I believe trust is a major aspect of a relationship. If DH can't trust me having guy friends then there's something wrong in our relationship. I don't mind him talking to girls, so why would it bother him if I talked to guys? My best friend is a guy and I would never stop talking to him, even if it bothered DH unless it was a good reason. I think it goes to far, when your guy friends try to hit on you or try to you know flirt, disrespect your relationship and/or when you start doing/saying things with your guy friends that you wouldn't do when your DH is around.

user banned Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
13th May '13

Yes and my SO tells me to go hang out with them.

kr:) 1 child; Texas 5334 posts
13th May '13

Ok and if SO said no guy friends what would you do?




If he had no reason not to trust you.

Mrs. Conan O'Brien 2 kids; Colorado 20924 posts
13th May '13
Quoting kr:):" Ok and if SO said no guy friends what would you do? If he had no reason not to trust you."


I would laugh & say, 'yea, I don't think so.' said it before :lol: being controlled isn't my thing.

user banned Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
13th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting kr:):</b>" Ok and if SO said no guy friends what would you do? If he had no reason not to trust you."</blockquote>




Luckily my SO respects me enough to not do that.

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
13th May '13
Quoting kr:):" Ok and if SO said no guy friends what would you do? If he had no reason not to trust you."


I would be gone ... he's my partner not my owner.

Sneakmom 2 kids; Texas 4861 posts
13th May '13

I have guy friends almost exclusively. We hang out and do nerdy shit like play mtg and play video games and get drunk and talk about how big our dicks are. It's fun. DH doesn't care. We have times set aside for "us" and these are our mutual friends.



If DH had an issue with it ever, we'd sit down and talk about it like adults and find out why it was bothering him, if it was one guy in particular or if he didn't feel we'd had enough us time, or... Whatever. If it was a reasonable underlying concern, we'd compromise on a solution that allowed me to have friends time and also addressed his concerns. Like I said, grown ups.

Nae&Zoe's Mommy 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Red Deer, Alberta 657 posts
13th May '13

I'll talk to a few of my guy friends, but hardly ever.. I know my husband doesnt like (especially if he doesnt know them), and I would feel the same way if some girl was talking to him who I havent met.. We respect each other and how we feel.

user banned 1 child; Germany 12377 posts
13th May '13

My ex would not let me have male friends :roll:



SO lets me and sometimes I feel like he's borderline neglectful... I know he trusts me (as he should) but he is okay with things most guys wouldn't be - like I could go out to dinner and a movie alone with a guy and he probably wouldn't question it. Sometimes it makes me feel like he doesn't care about us, but I know that's not the case. Plus it's not even reciprocated. There is only one female friend SO has that I would be okay with them going out together (sometimes they go to the movies etc). I don't like him having jokes in a sexual context with other woman but he doesn't care if I do with other men (if they're my guy friend) etc.

LayLu (girl); 17 kids; Virginia 4007 posts
13th May '13

SO is not the jealous type at all.. he doesn't care if I have guy friends or talk to my guy friends. I really don't have that many, except for the mutual ones we have now, but when we first started dating I did. Hell, I even added some random guy on FB at one point and SO told me to invite him over to hang out so we could meet him. Doesn't seem to bother him the least.



I think it's gone too far when you find yourself talking to your guy friends and trying to hide it.. if you feel the need to delete messages or wait until your SO/DH isn't around to talk to them, then you need to stop. Even if you're not doing anything wrong.. if your SO/DH isn't comfortable with you speaking to your male friends, you need to work on your relationship or get out of it.