Reply
boyfriend vent Sk1Ttl3z 18 kids; Davenport, Florida 2336 posts
13th May '13

Awhile back i had posted something aboutmy bf's son {whos 2 1/2} punching my 13 month in the face and ya'll told me to leave his ass and i said no and i should have listened. We've been together for 6 months going on 7 months now and his son has gotten better at not hitting my son { who is 17 months now}. But he still hits both my kids way to much for it to be except-able. Yesterday he bit my 17 month old's finger and also came up behind him n dug his nails in his face because my son was playing with a toy. After that the only thing his dad did to discipline him was pop him in the mouth n have him sit down next to him, that was his so called "Time out" and he didn't even sit down for more than a minute. So that taught him nothing. After than he was playing with a toy and swung it at my older sons face n now hes just a busted lip. After that happened i starred at him and i was like so aren't you gunna do something about this? and he didn't say anything and i was like see this is exactly why your son is the way he is because he gets away with everything and he doesn't get disciplined the way he should. then he says well why didn't you say anything and i was like your his father!!!. then he went on to say yea and he rolled his eyes.After that i had gone in my room and i slammed my door n yelled i cant do this shit anymore, and he packed his stuff and i drove him home. Apparently he didnt have any clothes at his house so thats why he took almost everything. Later he called me that night like if everything was fine and im like so are we gunna talk about today or are we just gunna act like it never happend? and he continued to play like he didnt know but i told him how i felt with him and his son and that he doesnt get disciplined the way he should and his excuse is again because hes 2. quite honestly i dont give a shit how old he is hes old enough to know from right n wrong and what he should n should not do thats when he should be getting disciplined. he went on to say well what about my older son{whos 5} he goes on to start pointing things out that my oldest son does and the only thing he does is sleep in the same bed with someone else. When my bf sleeps over my son will sleep with my mom. But any other time during the week my oldest son sleeps with me. Honestly i dont have a problem with i was the same way when i was little and my brother too. Like my bf couldnt get that this shit i serious and he doesnt think that his son hitting my kids is a big deal because he's 2. Then on top of that my bf tries to be a "father figure" to my oldest son and in his terms that means toughening him up and acting like a bully. He doesnt have patience for him when he starts crying about certain things and he'll make sure that my oldest son gets a good time out but he can't even discipline his own son. Ive told him many times i see how he acts with him and i dont appreciate it he doesnt need that because hes been through so much between his own father and my ex husband. He doesnt need someone thats gunna be so hard on him and hes only been in his life for only 6 months. AND ON TOP OF THAT after 26 years I found my dad cheating on my mom and so now their getting a divorce and me n my mom are moving out. these passed couple weeks have been so rough between fuckin bf and my fucked up father just my dad alone makes me not want any man at all . but anyway ive vented enough and yes i feel that my relationship between me n him is comming to an end because its just tooo much stress . :( i dont wanna feel like this anymore

GavinsMomJohnnysWife 2 kids; Texas 2789 posts
13th May '13

I'm sorry but some people aren't cut out to be parents your boyfriend is one of them. I hope that the negative behavior your children have been exposed to doesn't rub off on them. :(

Mrs.O! 18 kids; Hawaii 21029 posts
13th May '13

first off, the fact that a man you've only been with for 6 months is already in your childs life and only picking on him seems ridiculous, in my honest opinion it shows a bad part on your judgement and to keep allowing it seems like you're choosing a man over your child..you won't discipline his son BUT he can discipline yours and from what you said he's being a bully...no man is allowed to do that to my child, even my husband has to have a good reason to why our son is in timeout(he's LO's father, so we talk about it after our kids are asleep)...and I do understand your boyfriends part about his son only being 2 and no, he doesn't understand right from wrong but his father should be teaching him it at this age...2 year olds are just very big infants, they're still learning SO much and get frustrated easily but that's no excuse to not teach him that hitting is not nice and hurts people..



I feel bad for your poor children, my suggestion is you should really think about the kind of men you bring into their lives and how quickly you jump into introducing them...

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36449 posts
13th May '13
Quoting GavinsMomJohnnysWife:" I'm sorry but some people aren't cut out to be parents your boyfriend is one of them. I hope that the negative behavior your children have been exposed to doesn't rub off on them. :("


!!!



I agree! you need to cut him off and all contact with him.

Vitameatavegamin 19 kids; League City, Texas 5828 posts
13th May '13

Sounds to me like you didn't get to know him well enough before having him around your kids so much... He sounds like an a-hole bully. Being your bf for 6 months does not give him the right to teach YOUR son anything and being hard on him and trying to 'toughen him up' is NOT the way to teach. That's terrible, he's only 5.
IMHO, I think you should break it off now, since he's got all his stuff out of your house you should close that chapter and move on. TRUST ME, there are WAY better men out there. He sounds like a terrible influence.

Sk1Ttl3z 18 kids; Davenport, Florida 2336 posts
13th May '13

he is a good guy cuz ive been with worse but his parenting skills arent all there

GavinsMomJohnnysWife 2 kids; Texas 2789 posts
13th May '13
Quoting Sk1Ttl3z:" he is a good guy cuz ive been with worse but his parenting skills arent all there"

His parenting skills are very important. There are plenty of men who are GOOD men and GOOD parents. He's a loser, set higher standards for yourself and your children. ETA you should be a better mother to you children first before worrying about some guy who acts like this.

Sk1Ttl3z 18 kids; Davenport, Florida 2336 posts
13th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting GavinsMomJohnnysWife:</b>" His parenting skills are very important. There are plenty of men who are GOOD men and GOOD parents. He's ... [snip!] ... and your children. ETA you should be a better mother to you children first before worrying about some guy who acts like this."</blockquote>



Ya know for awhile i thought things would get better because everything is new so i was relying on that but its only gotten worse n its not we've been together for awhile but i do think its time to cut the strings n let him go theres just too much stress

Sk1Ttl3z 18 kids; Davenport, Florida 2336 posts
13th May '13
Quoting Mrs.O!:" first off, the fact that a man you've only been with for 6 months is already in your childs life and ... [snip!] ... is you should really think about the kind of men you bring into their lives and how quickly you jump into introducing them..."


first off you dont know what i deal with when it comes to this kid. hes very smart for his age and yes he does no right from his wrong and he also manipulates his father as well. For example when he bit tylers finger n he was told to sit next to his dad on the couch, he started saying that he had a boo boo on his foot and for him to kiss it and so he did and was all cuddly with him after he bit him when he should of gotten disciplined. Im not saying harshly but a propper time out. and after he puts his hands on my kids he always looks at me or his dad like he knows what he did was wrong. But i understand that because aaron used to do that too obviously he as well was a 2 year old. but when my oldest son was his age he was getting tough love because i know he was mature enough to handle it. I know whats best for him. Before all of this my bf told me he wanted to be that father figure for my children cuz their fathers dont live in this state, and i thought that was great because their fathers wereand never therefor them, but i didnt know it was gunna be like this. Im actually happy i found out now than later cuz we did have plans to live together but lets just say i dodged bullet