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i just need to vent user banned
14th May '13

why doesn't anyone f**king warn you, that you can love someone so much...but just not be f**king compatible at all!? that you just wake up every f**king day feeling trapped. you already have issues with the custody of your older son, and now you have another baby with another guy. so you're just f**king trapped. you don't work and depend on SO for mostly everything. you want to leave, and know you can afford a new house or apartment..condo, whatever. but how would you work? then you have to get a job, for what? just to put the little one in daycare, or deal with another f**king custody battle? i don't have it in me to f**king fight to keep my son, but i cannot and will not let him go that easily. you just break down nearly every day because you just hate your life and regret the decisions you made.. that you love your sons more than anything, but you know had you aborted like you first intended, that it would have been 10x easier to leave and just be done.. to move on and have absolutely no ties with your ex.



i just f**king hate everything right now. i'm not really looking for advice, i just needed to get it all f**king out. thanks.

The Doctor 2 kids; Whiskey d**k Mountain, WA, United States 59994 posts
14th May '13

*hugs****

BαtMαɳ Gotham, DC, United States 74086 posts
14th May '13

:hugs:



I love you and you know I'm here for you anytime of the day or night. Stay strong.

whitneynator 1 child; Iowa 4114 posts
14th May '13

I feel trapped like that sometimes. I moved 1700 miles away from my home and sometimes I feel way older than I am. Im sorry momma

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
14th May '13

It really bothers me when people act like working only covers child care. I feel like it doesn't give single moms enough credit and just convinces people to just give up, or stay.



I was a single mom working full time for MAYBE 30k and afforded all of my bills and child care....



You will also have child support for each child, which child care costs are incorporated into.

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
14th May '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" It really bothers me when people act like working only covers child care. I feel like it doesn't give ... [snip!] ... of my bills and child care.... You will also have child support for each child, which child care costs are incorporated into."


no, i don't get child support from my first, and it's in the custody order that no one pays support to the other.



i'm not looking to take the easy way out. i will bust my ass to keep my family together, even if i'm miserable in the process. one day i will be happy, and i hope SO and i can work out our problems and he'll be by my side.

BαtMαɳ Gotham, DC, United States 74086 posts
14th May '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" It really bothers me when people act like working only covers child care. I feel like it doesn't give ... [snip!] ... of my bills and child care.... You will also have child support for each child, which child care costs are incorporated into."


Just because you are entitled to CS by court order doesn't mean they will pay it. BD hasn't paid his CS in over a year. You can't always count on that money to be there.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14304 posts
14th May '13

I'm sorry, hun. I hope one day you'll have the tools and the strength you need to get yourself in a better spot. I feel like that a lot, except both of my kids have the same father.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
14th May '13

Hun are you depressed? Cause that's how I get when The depression starts talking. *hugs* pm me if you wanna talk.

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
14th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting JiLLiAN.:</b>" no, i don't get child support from my first, and it's in the custody order that no one pays support ... [snip!] ... i'm miserable in the process. one day i will be happy, and i hope SO and i can work out our problems and he'll be by my side."</blockquote>




I thought you and your boyfriend were breaking up? Don't stay with him just because its easier. What you're getting and what you deserve should match up.

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
14th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting BαtMαɳ:</b>" Just because you are entitled to CS by court order doesn't mean they will pay it. BD hasn't paid his CS in over a year. You can't always count on that money to be there."</blockquote>




You can when you file it to be garnished from their wages through the division of child support enforcement.

ashley[&ryan!] Due April 30; 1 child; Crystal Beach, Ontario 1201 posts
14th May '13

</3 not good babe. you shouldn't stick around just for then and be miserable. tell him things need to change.

BαtMαɳ Gotham, DC, United States 74086 posts
14th May '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting BαtMαɳ:</b>" Just because you are entitled to ... [snip!] ... You can when you file it to be garnished from their wages through the division of child support enforcement."


That works until they quit their job. Which has been my problem for a long time.

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
14th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting BαtMαɳ:</b>" That works until they quit their job. Which has been my problem for a long time."</blockquote>




You could also have glass in your eye.



Shit happens, but they have ways for your child support to be delivered to you on time every month.



There's no sense in pretending like there isn't or not taking advantage if it, in fear of him quitting his job.



If he does, he's their problem. Not yours.

BαtMαɳ Gotham, DC, United States 74086 posts
14th May '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting BαtMαɳ:</b>" That works until they quit their ... [snip!] ... like there isn't or not taking advantage if it, in fear of him quitting his job. If he does, he's their problem. Not yours."


Umm, okay? All I'm saying is that you can't always count on that money to be there. Because in MY situation, BD quit his job and has been ducking out of paying for the last year. And yes, I have been doing everything to get him to pay, but there is nothing I can do. The CS Department is handling it all and won't be doing anything until he is behind a certain amount AND hasn't paid in 3 months.