Reply
Autistic children with siblings.... Giovanni & Armani's Mama Due May 26; 1 child; Fremont, California 560 posts
14th May '13

My question is for Mamas that have one child with Autism and one or more without; I have a 3 year old that does not have autism and a 2 year old that I'm pretty sure does. I always say my 3 year old is an old soul... he's extremely smart for his age but the most impressive thing to me is his compassion for everyone around him, especially his baby brother. He plays with him, protects him and gets super excited whenever he does something new. He doesn't fully understand what's going on with baby brother but he knows that he doesn't talk but will when he is ready... and my son and I pray for baby brother every night. When the baby does things that would seem small to any other 3 year old... my 3 year old realizes that these things are big milestones and gets all excited and proud of his brother. It's really amazing to be a part of, honestly. So anywho... my question; if you have a child with autism and one without, has having a sibling helped your autistic child? I think it has helped mine tremendously. I think his situation would be a lot worse if it weren't for his big brother and the constant interaction they share. Does anyone know if this kind of thing is proven to help autistic children? Or said to? Just looking for similar stories :)

Elena Gilbert 4 kids; La Center, KY, United States 2730 posts
14th May '13

my nephew is 7 and my niece is 6. nephew has autism. she taught him how to talk. she sticks up for him. she will talk to him when he has meltdown. and gets him to calm down. she pretty much is teaching him how to respond to everday situations. tells him its ok its not hard. you have to be patient. she a huge help to her mom when it comes to caring for him. she gets proud when he gets the hang of new things. and if someone is making fun or asks questions. she will straighten them out real quick. or explain why hes doing that.. shes a really great sister.

Vivian [♥] 2 kids; Balls Deep, in, Georgia 13935 posts
14th May '13

I'm a sibling of an autistic child. I am 4 years younger.
It only made my sister worse when I came along.
And 20 years later when DD was born she got bad again.



Every kiddo is different though :)

Giovanni & Armani's Mama Due May 26; 1 child; Fremont, California 560 posts
14th May '13
Quoting Elena Gilbert:" my nephew is 7 and my niece is 6. nephew has autism. she taught him how to talk. she sticks up for him. ... [snip!] ... fun or asks questions. she will straighten them out real quick. or explain why hes doing that.. shes a really great sister. "


I'm so emo... that totally brought tears to my eyes! Super precious! :)

Mama2(three)Boys ♥ 3 kids; New Jersey 9712 posts
14th May '13

I don't personally.. But I just wanted to tell you that is absolutely amazing. He sounds like an awesome kid.

Giovanni & Armani's Mama Due May 26; 1 child; Fremont, California 560 posts
14th May '13
Quoting Vivian [♥]:" I'm a sibling of an autistic child. I am 4 years younger. It only made my sister worse when I came along. And 20 years later when DD was born she got bad again. Every kiddo is different though :)"


Interesting, I bet the combo is most beneficial when the autistic child is the younger one. Just because that way, the only life they know is one that is shared with a sibling. When it's the other way around, they're already used to be the only one and change is hard for children on the spectrum.

Elena Gilbert 4 kids; La Center, KY, United States 2730 posts
14th May '13
Quoting L&J ♥:" that is absolutely amazing. He sounds like an awesome kid."


this!

Rain (aka Mama) 3 kids; Monroe, Georgia 6487 posts
14th May '13

In our case, I think it definitely helps. I have a four year old son and then a three year old daughter who's autistic.



She likes trying to mimic the things he does. And when she says something he says "Good job Serena!! You said ____!" When she's crying or having meltdown, he'll sing songs to calm her down. He involves her in things that she would normally just tune out.



Of course he still bosses her around and annoys her and takes on the bratty brother role too. But ultimately, I think it helps her having him there.

Giovanni & Armani's Mama Due May 26; 1 child; Fremont, California 560 posts
14th May '13
Quoting L&J ♥:" I don't personally.. But I just wanted to tell you that is absolutely amazing. He sounds like an awesome kid."


Thank you! He totally is... his compassion blows me away. Some of the stories I tell people sound unreal and I know they have to be thinking "yea, ok liar!" lol until they hear it for themselves. For example (cuz you know we all love talking about our kids lol) he must have just sensed something was up on Mother's Day and he's sitting on the floor playing with his toys and he goes "Mama, I have a new girlfriend" and I'm like "Ohhh really?! Who?" and he goes "you" and then came over and kissed me. I'm like omg someone pinch me this kid is unreal. lol

Giovanni & Armani's Mama Due May 26; 1 child; Fremont, California 560 posts
14th May '13
Quoting Rain (aka Mama):" In our case, I think it definitely helps. I have a four year old son and then a three year old daughter ... [snip!] ... her around and annoys her and takes on the bratty brother role too. But ultimately, I think it helps her having him there


Awww... isn't is so amazing to witness the compassion? I love it! He sounds like an amazing big brother <3

Mommy of a giggler! 2 kids; Edmonton, Alberta 9017 posts
14th May '13

I think the interaction has helped my autistic son (5, his brother is 3) BUT I can also say that having the older child with autism, my younger son has delays because he mimics his speech and actions. My younger son also has jealousy of his brother because his brother gets so much time with therapists, etc.



Over all though, they get along well, and I know they have a deep connection.

Giovanni & Armani's Mama Due May 26; 1 child; Fremont, California 560 posts
14th May '13
Quoting Mommy of a giggler!:" I think the interaction has helped my autistic son (5, his brother is 3) BUT I can also say that having ... [snip!] ... brother gets so much time with therapists, etc. Over all though, they get along well, and I know they have a deep connection."


I'm worried about this issue with my oldest. He is a total HAM like all eyes must be on him at all times so I am worried about getting started with all of the therapy, which will be happening soon, and how he is going to handle it. Hopefully he'll understand that baby brother needs it and that it's not just some game we're playing for fun =/

Mommy of a giggler! 2 kids; Edmonton, Alberta 9017 posts
14th May '13
Quoting Giovanni & Armani's Mama:" I'm worried about this issue with my oldest. He is a total HAM like all eyes must be on him at all times ... [snip!] ... to handle it. Hopefully he'll understand that baby brother needs it and that it's not just some game we're playing for fun =/"


My younger one doesn't (at 3). He see's it as Carly and Anna come over and play with Kieran.



We try to give him one on one time, but it does have his days where he really resents his brother for it. I am putting him (3 yr old) into a full time school program (5 days a week/3 hrs a day) this fall so that he gets time and space for just him.

Giovanni & Armani's Mama Due May 26; 1 child; Fremont, California 560 posts
14th May '13
Quoting Mommy of a giggler!:" My younger one doesn't (at 3). He see's it as Carly and Anna come over and play with Kieran. We try ... [snip!] ... (3 yr old) into a full time school program (5 days a week/3 hrs a day) this fall so that he gets time and space for just him.


That's a great idea! If you don't mind me asking... when did your autistic son start talking? My baby is babbling lots and saying mama but that is it. I don't think I'm so much anxious for him to talk as I am worried that he won't ever =/

Mommy of a giggler! 2 kids; Edmonton, Alberta 9017 posts
14th May '13
Quoting Giovanni & Armani's Mama:" That's a great idea! If you don't mind me asking... when did your autistic son start talking? My baby ... [snip!] ... lots and saying mama but that is it. I don't think I'm so much anxious for him to talk as I am worried that he won't ever =/"

He always babbled and "talked" to everyone. He was ALWAYS social right from a few months old. He just couldn't seem to form actual words, a few here and there, but not enough to communicate. He started saying words around 3/3.5, but wasn't actually talking and communicating with us until just past age 4.