Reply
So I'm working now and I hate it. Mother of Broccoli. 1 child; California 12595 posts
14th May '13

I have an almost 2 year old. I've been a SAHM since she was born. Lots of mental health issues that I thought would be improved by getting out of the house and working. Basically getting away from her for a little while and doing something productive.



UM NO.



I worked a full day today (normally I work half days once or twice a week) and about an hour after we got home I was miserable again. I'm so tired and my LO is soooooooooooo whiney and I really just want to be away from her again :? I know she's tired from playing with her little friend all day while I was at work, but shit, I didn't think it'd be like this at all. Honestly my job isn't even tiring. Just being out of the house in general exhausts me because I'm so depressed. We played, cuddled, ate, etc and now she's acting like we've been stuck inside all day.



What gives? Is this supposed to get any better at all? I mean yeah I get it, we're both gonna be tired from doing things out of our routine, but I can't handle this every single night.

LA REINA™ New York, NY, United States 16230 posts
14th May '13

Give yourself time to adjust to the new transition. Things will get better hun <3

anonymom + 1.5 2 kids; West Virginia 10787 posts
14th May '13

Do you get downtime by yourself? Have you talked to anyone about being depressed (a health professional)?



Any major change is hard for momma's and babes. I will say that even when I enjoy working, if there is a huge fluctuation in the time spent there, I find that day (and sometimes the next) more difficult. I think it's pretty typical.

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
14th May '13

Give it some time, girl. She's getting used to it. Kenzie was like that at first too. It gets better. Especially after you make friends ar work!

Mother of Broccoli. 1 child; California 12595 posts
14th May '13
Quoting amazing b**bs.:" Give yourself time to adjust to the new transition. Things will get better hun <3"


I'm trying :? I'm not even working all the time. It's like, on call stuff but it seems like I'm regularly needed to work.

BlackVelvet 1 child; 1 angel baby; Aurora, Illinois 4313 posts
14th May '13

I really cant offer advice.



I can relate to you in someways but I have a ton of other problems aside from the work.

Mother of Broccoli. 1 child; California 12595 posts
14th May '13
Quoting anonymom + 1.5:" Do you get downtime by yourself? Have you talked to anyone about being depressed (a health professional)? ... [snip!] ... huge fluctuation in the time spent there, I find that day (and sometimes the next) more difficult. I think it's pretty typical."


Just when she goes to bed, for an hour or two. I kind of just wanna come home and sit there and not do anything but she wants my attention, which I know is normal and I should want to hang out with her but after being around people all day, coming home and interacting with people is the last thing on my mind.



And yeah I've seen a psychiatrist for my depression.

Mother of Broccoli. 1 child; California 12595 posts
14th May '13
Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:" Give it some time, girl. She's getting used to it. Kenzie was like that at first too. It gets better. Especially after you make friends ar work!"


I work with a bunch of old people :? It's just irritating because my schedule isn't consistent, and I didn't think it would be a problem until now.

Mother of Broccoli. 1 child; California 12595 posts
14th May '13
Quoting BlackVelvet:" I really cant offer advice. I can relate to you in someways but I have a ton of other problems aside from the work."


Glad I'm not alone lol. It f**king sucks

BlackVelvet 1 child; 1 angel baby; Aurora, Illinois 4313 posts
14th May '13
Quoting Mother of Broccoli.:" Glad I'm not alone lol. It f**king sucks"


Lol yeah. But i have a ton of relationship issues too. Im basically in an relationship with a total ignorant a*****e. Also at my job they favor Spanish people and well Im white as ghost so i kinda out numbered there.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
14th May '13

It sounds like you might be struggling with PPD or just depression. Everything seems to center around the stress of being a mother.



I'm wondering, how much is your SO helping you as far as parenting goes?

anonymom + 1.5 2 kids; West Virginia 10787 posts
14th May '13
Quoting Mother of Broccoli.:" I work with a bunch of old people :? It's just irritating because my schedule isn't consistent, and I didn't think it would be a problem until now."


My toddler (and baby) do a thousand times better on a consistent schedule. That just isn't always possible, though. Can the babysitters day activities generally line up with how your days go with your LO?

Mother of Broccoli. 1 child; California 12595 posts
14th May '13
Quoting BlackVelvet:" Lol yeah. But i have a ton of relationship issues too. Im basically in an relationship with a total ... [snip!] ... a total ignorant a*****e. Also at my job they favor Spanish people and well Im white as ghost so i kinda out numbered there."


Wow I'm sorry to hear that

Mother of Broccoli. 1 child; California 12595 posts
14th May '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" It sounds like you might be struggling with PPD or just depression. Everything seems to center around ... [snip!] ... seems to center around the stress of being a mother. I'm wondering, how much is your SO helping you as far as parenting goes?"


Oh it's definitely PPD. It's been ongoing for a while now. And I don't have a SO to help me.

Mother of Broccoli. 1 child; California 12595 posts
14th May '13
Quoting anonymom + 1.5:" My toddler (and baby) do a thousand times better on a consistent schedule. That just isn't always possible, ... [snip!] ... just isn't always possible, though. Can the babysitters day activities generally line up with how your days go with your LO?"


They actually do line up pretty similarly to ours at home. I think it's just that it's so different there, and she has another little boy to run around with.