Alone in Early Miscarriage aly_mae Japan 3 posts
14th May '13

This past weekend I went to the hospital with a fear of a miscarriage. We had taken a pregnancy test 3 weeks prior but it was negative. It has been 9 weeks since my last period and I had a strong feeling I was pregnant. After many tests the doctors were leaning towards it was not a miscarriage but they said we will never know. In my heart I know that it was. My husband was comforted by what the doctors said and is loving and supporting me but I feel like I am the only one who lost something. He didn't have a connection to the pregnancy because it was a surprise and we weren't trying. I know that I lost a pregnancy and I couldn't feel more alone. Has anyone else experienced this or have words of comfort? I am devastated and at a complete loss as to where to go from here.

Summerfrost 51 kids; Massachusetts 6760 posts
14th May '13

This is tricky because you never actually had a confirmed pregnancy. I can understand why you are sad that you aren't pregnant and I'm sorry that you feel like your husband doesn't understand. From his perspective though, you were never actually pregnant which i think in his mind makes everything better. The only thing I can suggest is talking to him and tell him that regardless of the tests that the dr's ran, that potential baby was real to you and you feel like you lost something. You wanted to have a baby with him and it's sad that it isn't going to happen right now.