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(for a friend) I Stab People 3 kids; Zambia 6604 posts
15th May '13

and this is, actually, for a friend.



vroom vroom

wwyd?



please no quoting.

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
15th May '13

Relocate ad start a new life and make sure he was gone from my life for good.

Ladee+Grant+Lilly 2 kids; Tallahassee, FL, United States 20283 posts
status 15th May '13

I'd have to tell him. Even though he was a shit boyfriend, he might be a decent father. If not, tell her to document everything and I mean EVERY.THING. that happens and then take him for full custody with supervised visitations. But everyone deserves to be in their child's life if they want to, and he should have that choice to make for himself.

I Stab People 3 kids; Zambia 6604 posts
15th May '13
Quoting ☮ Phuket:" Relocate ad start a new life and make sure he was gone from my life for good."


i told her she should at least tell him, but then get a restraining order on him if he starts shit..

Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
15th May '13
Quoting ☮ Phuket:" Relocate ad start a new life and make sure he was gone from my life for good."

!!!!!



I wouldn't tell him.

BαtMαɳ Secret Bat Cave, FK, Oman 62850 posts
15th May '13

The way that he acted towards her doesn't mean he should lose the right to know about his child. I would tell him and at least give him a chance to be a father.

I Stab People 3 kids; Zambia 6604 posts
15th May '13
Quoting BαtMαɳ:

agreed. she said that he would want her to abort and thats not something she would do. i still think he shouldk now..

Ladee+Grant+Lilly 2 kids; Tallahassee, FL, United States 20283 posts
status 15th May '13
Quoting I Stab People:" .."


I agree. If that's his stance, he's made his choice and she can move on with her life. But he still deserves to know.

kr.r 1 child; Dallas, TX, United States 8736 posts
15th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ladee+Grant+Lilly:</b>" I'd have to tell him. Even though he was a shit boyfriend, he might be a decent father. If not, tell ... [snip!] ... But everyone deserves to be in their child's life if they want to, and he should have that choice to make for himself. "</blockquote>




This. I might lean more toward the relocating and starting a new life, rid of the bastard, if he was physically abusive simply out of fear that he'd do the same to the child.

I Stab People 3 kids; Zambia 6604 posts
15th May '13
Quoting kr.r:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ladee+Grant+Lilly:</b>"

he was never physically at all, i know that. the point of the emotional im not sure, i know hes a dick, but i dont think hed ever physically hurt anyone

Ladee+Grant+Lilly 2 kids; Tallahassee, FL, United States 20283 posts
status 15th May '13
Quoting I Stab People:""


Yeah especially in that case, he deserves to know. If he says get an abortion, or I don't care I don't want to be involved...then she should do what she needs to do to move on with her life and if that includes relocating to start over or whatever then I'd do it.

7 blessings so far.... Due February 3; 6 kids; Glen Burnie, Maryland 8799 posts
15th May '13

She should definately tell him & the sooner the better. The longer she waits or if someone else finds out and tells him first can cause major drama......
If he really was mentally abusive and she wants to be away from him then she needs to move b4 the child is born so that he cant legally make her & the baby stay close to him.

Jenna Oakes Due September 22; TTC since Sep 2012; 1 child; Florida 85 posts
15th May '13

I would never tll the father if I was her. just imagine he would do if he found out she was pregnant. she just needs to move on and start a new life. there is someone out there who will fall in love with her and her baby.

I Stab People 3 kids; Zambia 6604 posts
15th May '13

she said she texted him.. no response yet :/

Minion Due September 30 (girl); 2 kids; ., GA, United States 21160 posts
status 15th May '13

I was in that same position. I told the dad I was pregnant and If I knew then what I know now I would have never have told him. He doesn't have anything to do with DD, but for a while he made my life hell.