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Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 18127 posts
status 15th May '13
Quoting Emily Dickinson:" <blockquote><b>Quoting kacti:</b>" #1 my husband cheated on me before we were married, ... [snip!] ... we are good, and our marriage is for life :D"</blockquote> Good men do not cheat multiple times. End of story."


No..No...You don't understand.



They are married now so that means he can't cheat. But if he does, it's okay, because true love works like that.

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
15th May '13

Whatever... ya'll don't know me or my husband. We have a GOOD relationship, and he is a GOOD man in my eyes, and that's all that counts. You can believe what you want, and handle your lives and marriages the way that you want... we are happy.

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
15th May '13
Quoting Just Ames:" If he loved you as much as he said he does he wouldn't have ever cheated, multiple times. Just sayin. ... [snip!] ... are faithful. You're basically trying to say love should trump all, but actually if you know your worth it really doesn't."


Wow... you're making some very inaccurate assumptions about me and my life, considering you've never even met me... I am confident in myself and in my relationship with my husband. Why do I have to have self esteem issues?? because I chose to forgive and forget when my husband screwed around 4 years ago?? He hasn't cheated since, and he takes care of me and my family! I know my worth, and yet I do believe love trumps all.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 18127 posts
status 15th May '13
Quoting kacti:" Wow... you're making some very inaccurate assumptions about me and my life, considering you've never ... [snip!] ... ago?? He hasn't cheated since, and he takes care of me and my family! I know my worth, and yet I do believe love trumps all."


Just wondering..how do you know he hasnt cheated since?

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
15th May '13
Quoting JessieLeeAnne:" Just wondering..how do you know he hasnt cheated since? "


Well... when he did cheat, he didn't hide it. He was very upfront about it.
I can just tell when somethings not right. I knew even before he confessed when he did cheat. And... we have threesomes regularly (my choice) so there's no need, he gets strange kitty all the time with my permission.
Wanna dog on me for that, too?? go for it.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 18127 posts
status 15th May '13
Quoting kacti:" Well... when he did cheat, he didn't hide it. He was very upfront about it. I can just tell when somethings ... [snip!] ... choice) so there's no need, he gets strange kitty all the time with my permission. Wanna dog on me for that, too?? go for it."


No, I am sure you are going to LOVE sharing your "man" for the rest of your life with strange vagina. I see you guys working out FOREVA! lmao

laurenmik 3 kids; Aurora, Colorado 7222 posts
15th May '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting kacti:</b>" Well... when he did cheat, he didn't hide it. He was very upfront about it. I can just tell when somethings ... [snip!] ... choice) so there's no need, he gets strange kitty all the time with my permission. Wanna dog on me for that, too?? go for it."</blockquote>




I'm sorry dear, but that makes me sad.

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
15th May '13
Quoting Just Ames:" And no one is knocking your decision to stay, it's your reasoning (as if it should apply to all) that is what's worth disagreeing over."


Well I don't think it should apply to all... but the girl in the OP obviously loves the loser cheater guy- and life might work out for her after all, even if she decides to continuously forgive the man... and yes you straight up asked me in a very confrontational way... why it was ok for my husband, but not my ex SIL... and said I have low self esteem, and I don't know my worth, and I am a manipulated silly girl... I would say that you are knocking my reasoning... because the fact is believe it or not I just truly LOVE him to the extent that I would forgive him always no matter what, and if it didn't go both ways, I wouldn't feel like that... if I was unhappy in my relationship I would not be in it. But he makes me happy, he makes me feel good about myself, and like I said I'm very confident in US... and that's what matters at the end of the day.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 18127 posts
status 15th May '13
Quoting kacti:" Well I don't think it should apply to all... but the girl in the OP obviously loves the loser cheater ... [snip!] ... he makes me feel good about myself, and like I said I'm very confident in US... and that's what matters at the end of the day."


He makes other ladies feel good, too, obviously.



Just don't go get your hopes up just yet. Have fun with that.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 18127 posts
status 15th May '13
Quoting Just Ames:" Alrighty then. And btw, the OP's friend loves the guy (sure) and as far as life working out for her? That is better known as settling."


Exactly.

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
15th May '13
Quoting Just Ames:" Something tells me you chose to open your relationship to essentially "accept" the fact that you're not enough for him. But hey, whatever works I guess :?"


Another wrong assumption from you. I opened up our relationship because I met a girl that I shared a mutual attraction with, and found that I was desiring her in a sexual way, but since I could not ever see myself participating in any sexual activity without my husband, I asked if he wanted to have a threesome and guess what he said? So I asked her if she was down, and guess what she said? Then we moved, and lost contact with that girl, and I missed the sexual contact with a woman.. yes I missed sharing kitty with my husband :P So... now I don't have a "girlfriend", but DH and I often meet ladies... and that's that. I don't believe he would cheat now, even if we didn't have threesomes, because he was genuinely apologetic, and I am enough for my husband... but my response was to the question "How do I know he hasn't cheated?" and that's HOW I KNOW...

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
15th May '13
Quoting JessieLeeAnne:" He makes other ladies feel good, too, obviously. Just don't go get your hopes up just yet. Have fun with that. "


LMFAO.... ok :roll:

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
15th May '13
Quoting Just Ames:" Alrighty then. And btw, the OP's friend loves the guy (sure) and as far as life working out for her? That is better known as settling."


Yeah well that's your way... the way I see it is being with the person you love and making it work regardless of what anyone else including your friends think...

Motherofatoddler 1 child; Kansas City, Kansas 2232 posts
status 15th May '13

I would never buy a house with a boy friend. :? but If my boy friend went to therapy and got help and I knew that it wouldnt happen again maybe I would marry him in two years. then buy a house. If it ever happend after we married I would leave in a heart beat.

pixiefruit Due November 5; New York 31 posts
15th May '13
Quoting laurenmik:" More than once btw.. How long would it take (do you think) for you to feel secure enough in your relationship ... [snip!] ... house together or make a huge step like that? I'm being a judgmental asshole about this I'm sure, but shit, I'm concerned :/"


i honestly wish i knew, i never stayed, i tried to stay but i was not in love with them anymore this happend to me twice, the one guy did it i left him and he begged for me back so i went back stupidly and then he went and did it again! i just dont have trust for people who cheat, i hope you can work it out if u find a way let me know for next time lol