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WWYD? Sofia's Mummy♥ 1 child; United Kingdom 7331 posts
15th May '13

Do you think you could be 200 miles away from your SO for 2 weeks at a time throughout the whole year, while you live alone with your child, work and go to university full time?

Aura and Luna's Mommy 2 kids; Danville, Indiana 5805 posts
15th May '13
Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:" Do you think you could be 200 miles away from your SO for 2 weeks at a time throughout the whole year, while you live alone with your child, work and go to university full time? "


No. If he were working and I could be a sahm and student then possibly, but not working too.



How much time is he at home between the 2 wk periods?

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
15th May '13

Sure.
Some women are single parents and do all of those things.



Would I WANT to? Not at all. But we could make it work, especially if it was something he had to do for work, etc.

user banned 3 kids; Ontario 10942 posts
15th May '13

Ya, I could.

I was 19 raising my dd, going to school and working, while my now ex was a transport truck driver gone 14 days and home for 2 days, did till my dd was 2 yrs old, so 2 yrs.

Sofia's Mummy♥ 1 child; United Kingdom 7331 posts
15th May '13
Quoting Aura&Lunas Mum:" No. If he were working and I could be a sahm and student then possibly, but not working too. How much time is he at home between the 2 wk periods?"


2 weeks. This is just one of the blocking options though, there may be options where he would work in smaller bursts but also be home for less time between them.
I have family support to watch her while I work when she wasn't at school (would start as he leaves).
What would your solution be?

I Stab People 3 kids; Zambia 6604 posts
15th May '13
Quoting Aura&Lunas Mum:" No. If he were working and I could be a sahm and student then possibly, but not working too. How much time is he at home between the 2 wk periods?"


how would you be a single parent then?

yes i could, but i dont have a SO at all and work full time, ahve 3 kids, and just started school part time

Aura and Luna's Mommy 2 kids; Danville, Indiana 5805 posts
15th May '13
Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:" 2 weeks. This is just one of the blocking options though, there may be options where he would work in ... [snip!] ... family support to watch her while I work when she wasn't at school (would start as he leaves). What would your solution be?"

So that's his job but you still have to work? If I had resources like family I probably could, but paying a babysitter and working wouldn't work for me and if both parties were working we probably wouldn't get assistance with childcare like you would if you were single. If he had to be gone that much and I still had to work on top of mothering and schooling, I would probably lower my cost of living. If that didn't work, we'd probably find a different job.

Sofia's Mummy♥ 1 child; United Kingdom 7331 posts
15th May '13
Quoting The Original Mayhem.:" Sure. Some women are single parents and do all of those things. Would I WANT to? Not at all. But we could make it work, especially if it was something he had to do for work, etc. "


He'd be working as a chef de partis in a 2 michelin starred restaurant, ranked in the top 10 restaurants in the country. It's very very very important for his career.

Aura and Luna's Mommy 2 kids; Danville, Indiana 5805 posts
15th May '13
Quoting I Stab People:" how would you be a single parent then? yes i could, but i dont have a SO at all and work full time, ahve 3 kids, and just started school part time"


i'd get financial assistance with childcare because i'd be single. I might move closer to family.. I live an hour away from everyone.

user banned 3 kids; Ontario 10942 posts
15th May '13
Quoting I Stab People:" how would you be a single parent then? yes i could, but i dont have a SO at all and work full time, ahve 3 kids, and just started school part time"


Same here 3 kids, single mom. I dont work anymore and done school now, caus I am old. lol But I did it with a so being away and as a sinle mom

*the girls mom* 3 kids; Warren, Michigan 651 posts
15th May '13

I did for a little while other then work. I went to a university full time. It was extremely hard but we skyped every night he was away and he finally found a job in the area thank god.

I Stab People 3 kids; Zambia 6604 posts
15th May '13
Quoting Aura&Lunas Mum:" i'd get financial assistance with childcare because i'd be single. I might move closer to family.. I live an hour away from everyone."


you cant assume youd get financial assistance because your single.

i dont get anything, and im single. with 3 kids.

Aura and Luna's Mommy 2 kids; Danville, Indiana 5805 posts
15th May '13
Quoting I Stab People:" you cant assume youd get financial assistance because your single. i dont get anything, and im single. with 3 kids."


With a shitty job and 2 kids, yeah they would probably give assistance.. And like I said, if they didn't i'd probably move closer to family to help me watch them.

Sofia's Mummy♥ 1 child; United Kingdom 7331 posts
15th May '13
Quoting Aura&Lunas Mum:" So that's his job but you still have to work? If I had resources like family I probably could, but paying ... [snip!] ... of mothering and schooling, I would probably lower my cost of living. If that didn't work, we'd probably find a different job."


Yes, I would still have to work as his salary will not stretch THAT far. Chefs are overworked and underpaid, even at the high level. Within 6 months his salary will go up another

user banned 3 kids; Ontario 10942 posts
15th May '13
Quoting I Stab People:" you cant assume youd get financial assistance because your single. i dont get anything, and im single. with 3 kids."



Move to Ontario, they hand out assistance like its candy, basically no requirement unless you make more then 30,000 a yr, if under that then you qualify. lol

Its ridic here