<blockquote><b>Quoting TmA's mommy:</b>" Its nice to see someone else! Have you ever told anyone in rl about your relationship? We have never told anyone."</blockquote>
Weve told a couple that were friends with and they get/understand it (but theyre swingers) but when discussing it among others most apparently view it as degrading or abusive
Not in every day roles, but I am very submissive to my SO.
And we're starting to explore it more deeper.
I've always been into the lifestyle.
Quoting .Colleen.:" You're better off looking around your community to see what groups are out there locally. They are pretty much everywhere."
Thats not entirely true. In my city, the only group we had here disbanded about 6 years ago or so.
It's unfortunate that people keep it taboo. It's such an incredible lifestyle.
Quoting TmA's mommy:" Is anyone in a master/submissive relationship? I see a lot of the same things discussed in here but never ... [snip!] ... think its degrading, abusive, whatever. I don't want to hear opinions on it, I want to know if anyone lives the lifestyle. "
Honestly, I've always wanted to try it..But, SO feels weirdly about it so we havent
<blockquote><b>Quoting TmA's mommy:</b>" That is why we don't tell anyone. I don't want people to think he is abusive or making me doing this. ... [snip!] ... up, and I am happier now with our relationship then I have ever been. Its weird but belonging to him makes me feel so complete."</blockquote>
for me its knowing I can fully trust him, and he enjoys the build-up of sexual tension it promotes between us..Once that bedroom door closes its on lol :)
Quoting Lindsay*J:" Thats not entirely true. In my city, the only group we had here disbanded about 6 years ago or so. It's unfortunate that people keep it taboo. It's such an incredible lifestyle."
I live in a very small conservative northeastern state and there are a few "societies" out here.
You just have to know where to look.
and anything outside of the "norm" is taboo, not just sm relationships.
We have sampled quite a few things and pretty much anything that involves more than 2 people having vanilla sex exclusively has the "taboo" tag.
I think every "alternative" relationship has aspects that are "incredible" to the right person :wink:
<blockquote><b>Quoting TmA's mommy:</b>" The level of trust is amazing. I have never had that before. It was really difficult at first giving myself and all power to him, now it feels so natural. "</blockquote>
EXACTLY!! and to me, giving all that trust and "power" to him makes the sex 10x better
Quoting TmA's mommy:" I am new to it. It is something that I always wanted secretly but somehow was always the more dominant ... [snip!] ... and it was something that he was interested in as well. So we are both new to it and exploring things but so far I love it. "
I've been in it for..oh..14 years? But always 'one handedly', as in, I explored it without my former SO (with his permission).
So this is the first relationship I've been in that's actually the both of us exploring together.
Found an AWESOME book, which I can't remember what it's called but if you're interested in it, I'll send you the name.
Quoting .Colleen.:" That's odd I live in a very small conservative northeastern state and there are a few "societies" ... [snip!] ... has the "taboo" tag. I think every "alternative" relationship has aspects that are "incredible" to the right person :wink:"
I live in a fairly large city as well. I mean, I know there are couples who practice it here but there's no specific group either-which is kind of crappy. Not a lot of support here.
And it sucks that anything other than traditional relationships are taboo. Love comes in all shapes and sizes and yet, as a whole, society refuses to accept it.
go to fetlife.com We are off and on. It depends on how stressful things are at the time.